I'm a guy with many female friends but no girlfriend. What can I do?

[jdynamic]

I'm a college student. I'm not sure how it came to be that I have way more female friends than guy friends and I did not even realize this until a friend pointed it out to me. I have never had a girlfriend but I am definitely attracted to some girls (not any of my friends) but I just don't know how to make a move at all. This is probably why I have many girl friends and no girlfriend. As for why I don't have many guy friends I have no clue. I'm not gay. Be honest, thanks.

[Wonderful]

I would say, don't ask your female friends for advice. Not now at least. You're obviously good at meeting women or else how could you have ended up with so many girlfriends.

I know from years of experience of being just friends with tons of girls the only way out, was to learn how create attraction, Without this knowledge you might as well just keep hoping you'll get lucky.

First. Learn to lead your group of female friends. Get them together and go out with them but make sure you are continually and confidently leading them. Not like a father figure but a confident male.

Second. Learn about attraction, how to flirt, your body language, and every step of courtship. Women are attracted to men that naturally stay one step ahead of them.

Third. Tell your current females friends, only when you are in a group, never one on one, what you have learned and how much it is changing you. Be confident about this new you.

Fourth. Begin to ask them subtle questions about your fashion. Make sure you're not disqualifying yourself to other women because of a little thing like that.

Fifth. Don't get stuck doing what you in the beginning with your new women. Stay away from friend zone traps.

Six. Take this new confident attitude and learn how to communicate with a slightly sexual tone with any new women in your life. Don't worry about your current friends. Besides by now one of them would have made a move on you. Just remember to stay one step ahead and lead ...lead ...lead any relationship.

Seven. Have fun man!

[Gregs]

Your too worried about being rejected by a girl that you decide to keep it safe and stay friends.

The best way to make a move is a physical one if the conversation is going great. When you have a conversation going start touching her more as you talk and before you even think about kissing you need to hold her hand first, its one of the most powerful things you can do and will tell you right away where you stand with a woman.

[philosophersdilemma]

Maybe you just haven't found someone to WOW your heart out, yet. And perhaps that's why you haven't made a move. If you're really shy about how to approach people, ask your female friends to give you some pointers, and perhaps you'll gain more confidence to make a move when you're ready. When you meet someone that you're really, really interested with, just be confident, open, and honest. I'm sure you'll score a date in no time.

And it's not a problem that you haven't had a girlfriend yet. Just make sure you don't rush yourself into something that you're not ready for, and when the time is right it will be wonderful.

[TheBatmanoftheJLA]

I suppose that makes sense, I hope I find the right girl for me. I really don't like it when some would assume that just because a guy has a lot of female friends, it makes him gay or that just because a girl has many guy friends, it makes her gay or a slut. Those labels really need to stop because they don't know an individual's thoughts etc.

[TheBatmanoftheJLA]

To add, it also doesn't mean the guy is a player necessarily, he could just be keeping his options open for finding a potential girlfriend within his group of female friends and for girls with many guy friends, it could be the same thing, she is searching for a good enough boyfriend.