Summary:
My boyfriend of 7 months has many close female friends, and I'm unsure about their boundaries. He recently went to his home country and spent time with two of them, staying overnight at one's house. He claims these friendships are platonic and predate our relationship.
He communicates with two of them daily via Snapchat, two more every other day, and the rest less frequently. One of the daily contacts asked him to drop her off at the airport, an hour's drive away. He told her (we'll call her A) to ask me first, and I unknowingly agreed without realizing he'd be staying overnight.
My dad finds his close female friendships strange, but my boyfriend insists it's normal in his culture. We've discussed this before, and I feel pressured to make more male friends while he questions my new male friendships.
His excessive interactions with his female friends turns me off but I feel uncomfortable demanding that he abandon them since apparently he's been friends with all of them for years. He said he sees them as no more than guy friends.
More details:
He talks to:
- 2 every day via Snapchat streaks (A and B)
- 2 every other day (C and D)
- 1 every 3-4 months (E)
- 1 weekly (F)
- He has met my parents, I haven't met his yet but he has mentioned me to them
- I remember for my birthday he put me on his close friends list because he said he likes to keep good things private
- We have talked about the difference in our friendship stuff before. I don't have a lot of male friends and because of this relationship I actually felt the push to go ahead and make more
- He had introduced me to A before
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