Guys, do you ask a woman her weight if she asks for your height?

[AleDeEurope]

I always see girls on Tinder with bios saying stuff like "if you're under 6ft, don't even bother", and when you're talking to them, many ask you your height.
So do you ask their weight, or would you ask how much they weigh, if they ask how tall you are?

I always ask their weight

I only ask if they ask my height

I haven't asked, but will do in the future

I don't need to ask, I like them heavy

I wouldn't ask even if they ask my height

I'm a girl and I ask guys about their height

I'm a girl and I never ask guys about their height

[miramiraonthewall]

Eh, I guess I understand your frustration but I dont think weight and height function the same way. Height has a more or less fixed impact, whereas weight doesn't really tell you much. Weight+body type+muscle mass+fat percentage+height etc. would give you a more accurate idea of a womans body than just weight alone. On the other hand, 6'3 is 6'3.

I feel like everyone should have their height listed and full body photos up. You can usually get an idea of how small or big a woman is on her photos. It's hard to gauge height and thats an important trait for many women. guys should really know to list that somewhere. On the other hand, I know tinder isn't your usual profile set up so it can seem kind of random to just start throwing out stats. But knowing that, it's not unreasonable for someone to be curious about the info that isn't there.

It's just like how men want to see full body pics or complain that theyve been mislead or the woman is "lying". Girls have preferences and attraction too. Goes both ways.

[AleDeEurope]

Umm if the girls is 200 lbs it's clearly not good, cause either she's way too tall, or too fat. Same if she was 170lbs.

Sometimes it's not that easy to tell if she's fat from the pictures.
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[TripleAce]

Hahah that happens all too often. Strategically taken pics to make it look otherwise

A good rule of thumb is that if she doesn't have a full portrait. Mostly likely she's insecure about something OR if lucky she's extra sexy and just hiding it to get good guys

[miramiraonthewall]

It depends on your preferences and her body type. Weight alone still doesn't say that much unless you're only into specifically thin women.

You shouldn't assume anything from a head shot. I wouldn't look at a guys face and assume anything about his body.

[teawrecks]

You can tell by her fingers / hands in general that she's carrying extra weight.

[TheSpartan]

Why should height matter? It doesn't really affect how you look.

[pineappleshortcare]

I've gotten kinda chubby after a depressed stage and think it's better to show pics that make it's obvious what you REALLY look like. I am not going to delude myself that a sparkling personality will win someone over if they show up and I look way different than they expected.

Height has never been a deal breaker for me and I think physical questions are rude to ask, but I don't think people do each other favors by keeping things like short stature, baldness, heaviness or facial features they dislike (I have a skislope nose, for example) a secret. People are gonna see them - weed out the people who'll have bad reactions right from the start.

[pineappleshortcare]

Likewise, when I was thin I'd have guys on the dating site ask me how recent my pics were or to outright ask if I'd gained weight and I'd know they had no tact too... so if a girl asks that see it as a good warning.

[ladyfirebird]

I always ask guys about their heights or mentions my height within conversations with them b/c I'm very tall. I'm almost 6ft, and normally guys, where I live, are intimidated by it, so they don't really want to date and just want to remain friends. As far as weight goes, I feel like it's most common for women and men to feel uncomfortable to talk about their weight. Because it is a sensitive topic, I know it's sensitive towards me but I won't hide from a guy or put a double standard on him if I were to ask his height and he was to ask my weight in return. That's kind of hypocritical to double standard someone like that...

[Alexcc]

There are a few things I just don't ask (or say to girls), here's my list:

1) how old are you?
2) how much do you weight?
3) are you pregnant?
4) did you have a boob job?
5) wow! Youve lost a ton of weight ( it implies they were fat)
6) should we order fries?( now I just do, and she eats some anyways)
7) ohh I thought you were lesbian
8) how many guys have you had sex with? ( I kinda don't want to know)
9) how much money do you make?
10) how much is it? ( I just hand my wallet over to her and let her go nuts)
11) when are you due?
12) those days of the month eh?( just don't)
13) do I look good in this shirt ( her answer: you look f***ing ridiculous)
14) did you just fart?( we both know she did, no need to ask her though)

Why don't I say those things you ask? Cause first I try to be a gentleman and second it's just common sense for me
and if girls ask me something I don't feel comfortable answering I usually give a ridiculous answer

[AleDeEurope]

So you don't ask for her age cause you try to be a gentleman... well I hope this gentleman doesn't encounter a 15 y/o girl.

[Alexcc]

Hahaha fair enough, in my defense I usually don't go to places where kids hangout, all the bars I frequent don't even let kids that age in, so it's never been an issue thus far

[TheRebelReturns]

Got 'em.

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[AleDeEurope]

https://i.imgur.com/o6snO1v.jpg

[TheRebelReturns]

Get rekt.

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[lostgirl_searching]

Actually its a good question to ask especially online dating. Kind of messed up that she asked how tall you were and then gets a little offended because you asked how much she weighs.
But I never asked for a guys height, because to me height doesn't matter, I still don't understand why some women cares about height.

[kitty89]

I'm a girl and I ask guys about height, because I was in some weird situations earlier. I'm 6" so I'm more of an exception than the rule for female height, that's why I ask, because I was on a few dates where guys just said "wow, you're tall" and nothing ever happened after the date. So, I'm trying to spare myself some embarrassment :D

[kitty89]

almost 6" *

[Kastinis]

It's surprising that you say many girls ask height measurement of a guy, maybe it's not a thing in Lithuania. Or I simply don't have a clue what's going on around lately :D
Funny, but I always am the fist one who is asked about height via messages ( I play basketball). But I can't remember if I ever have been asked what's my weight is :D

[ThisDudeHere]

What's ur height hur dur? Lol

[Kastinis]

@ThisDudeHere what's your weight, firstly? :D

[ThisDudeHere]

I honestly don't know. Haven't measured in years

[JensonStatement]

I think it's an US thing. In my country they do neither.

[front2back]

Yes. It is not offensive to ask a woman her weight if she asks something similar about you. We're all humans and all adults, men have their weights and heights displayed in sports stats and such all the time and it's no big deal. Why do we act like women are suddenly going to have a mental breakdown if the same is asked from them?

[krg23krg]

i ask guys their height because i'm a shorter girl. i ask girls their height too. i don't know why but I'm always excited to find out someones height. if someone asked for my weight though i would answet them even if i didn't appreciate the smart reply

[SuccessfulHornDog]

How much do you weigh?

[krg23krg]

i weigh 125 lb

[MissPanda]

Omg people are so sensitive these days. I ask height and Idgaf if they ask my weight or height. You want to visualize what the person looks like, asking height and weight gives you an idea of their body type. Most dating sites even ask you your height, weight, body type etc so people can get an idea of what you look like.

#stopbeingoverdramatic

[Mustachekitteh]

lel That would be fair for the dude to ask that. :D

If I ask a dude how tall he is, I'm trying to see how much of a giant he would be. Unless a dude has some kind of mutation there is no way they're going to be shorter than me since I'm barely 5'1".

[alice55]

Asking about weight is stupid in the way that it will look different on any body, also asking her weight without asking her height mean nothing and is useless.
A girl can be 58 and look a lot better than the other who weight 50 because fat / muscle is really different.
It's just stupid to ask the weight alone like that.
Personally I don't ask a guy about his height since it's generally really rare for a guy to be shorter than me.

[hellionthesagereborn]

So its perfectly acceptable to judge a man on his height (which has absolutely no impact on anything) but not acceptable to ask a girl about her weight (which impacts both her physical appearence and her health as well as showing an aspect of her personality i. e. is she lazy etc.)? Seems a little stupid to me.

[alice55]

@hellionthesagereborn I really hope you're not serious when you say that really.
Also just a tip to you to tell you it's stupid to ask the weight for a girl (like the height for a man) everyone lie about it (around 90 % lie about it). So there's really no use to ask such things.

Do you really think you can judge a girl based on her weight? You can't you really can't and saying someone who is fat is lazy aren't true. It's very rude to think that. I hope you didn't mean that when you said "lazy".

"which impacts both her physical appearence" isn't it also true for a man height? Doesn't it affect his physical appearance? It does.

I also doesn't know why you down vote me since i never said it was ok to judge a man on his height. Only things I say it's I wouldn't date a guy who is shorter than like a man wouldn't date a girl taller than him (majority of the case). So you really don't need to down vote me.

[hellionthesagereborn]

No, height doesn't affect a mans physical appearence, at least not with any significant amount. It also has no impact on his physical well being, obesity does impact ones health. You did condone judging a man by his height. You stated most men are taller then you, thats not the same as saying height doesn't matter. THe problem here is that as you cast judgment on others others will cast judgment on you and thats the part that is upseting to you and other women you don't want to be judged, but you do want the ability to judge others. If a woman will judge a man on his height then a man has every right to judge a woman on weight, more so because again it has a greater impact on her appearence, her health, her disposition (more likely to be depressed/lazy/unmotivated). If its wrong to judge a woman based upon her weight then you have to acknowledge it is wrong when a woman judges a man on height. Its that simple.

[alice55]

@hellionthesagereborn Dude seriously XD
If you want to judge a women ask for her bare face it will be more helpful. Majority of women lie about their weight so it's pointless to ask that. Weight doesn't mean anything on her personnality; I have a big problem with you thinking this ways really. It's really disrespectful. people can have bigger frame (compare a French and a German, German have a bigger form it's for that German women are bigger than French women).

So it's ok to judge a women weight but not a man height? You're an hypocrit.
Height doesn't matter to ma as long as he's taller than me. Nothing is wrong with that at all. Considering very few men are shorter than me.
If you want to ask weight ask it but don't come complain if you see she have lie to you and not a bit.

[hellionthesagereborn]

How exactly did you come to those conclusions? If a woman asks and judges a man on his height I stated their is nothing wrong with asking her about her weight. Unless you are a hypocrite this should go unquestioned. I never said to judge anyone what was stated was that women judge men on their height but then get upset if a man turns around and judges her on her weight that is literally the definition of hypocrisy. I did not make that statement you did. You want the privilege of judging men without the inconvience of men judging you back. That's what I have an issue with, either both are allowed to cast judgment or neither, that's not hypocrisy, that's fairness. You have no problem with a mans height, but then you state as long as he is taller then you. That means you have a problem with his height. I have no problem with a womans weight, as long as she isn't fat. If you want to ask a man about his height fine but don't complain when he lies.

[alice55]

@hellionthesagereborn I don't ask a man height like I said since they're taller than me. Why do you complain if you do the same? I really don't understand you "as long as she's not fat" then you're exactly like me. Why do you complain?
I just point that if you ask the weight of a girl alone it mean nothing, nothing at all. Imagine she's 55 kg she can be fat or underweight depend on her height. So it's totally pointless.
In France if a girl ask for his height the guys respond and just say "and you?".
She ask his height, he ask her height. That's all we wouldn't ask weight if she ask his height because it know it's pointless.
You have a weird logic.
? The point? I don't ask for height so if he lie or no I wouldn't have the problem.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Your choosing to not understand. I never said I do this I stated if a woman asks about height then a man has the right to ask about weight. That's it its not complicated in any way so why are you pretending it is. If you judge you will be judged is what I am saying yet women are the ones bitching and moaning about how unfair it is that men are judging them no differently then women judge men. That's what you where complaining about that it was unfair to judge a woman based upon weight even as you have stated the man must be taller then you, again you reiterated that when you stated the mans taller then you so you don't ask, that's called dodging the question, I never asked that I asked if you would date a man shorter then you, if you where taller would you ask a man about his height. Both times you responded the man is always taller meaning that yes you would do these things. All I stated is if its wrong for a man to judge then it should be for a woman.

[alice55]

@hellionthesagereborn Can do you do a short version? I'm really lost here. i'm not a native speaker and what you write is really hard to understand. I'm completely lost XD

[hellionthesagereborn]

So, to reiterate I don't ask a woman anything all I stated was if a woman asks for height then a man has every right to ask about weight any other combination results in hypocrisy. Either you ask for height and he is equally allowed to ask about weight or you (and this is an empirical you) don't ask for height and he doesn't ask about weight. Again anything else is hypocrisy. Its very simple.

[alice55]

@hellionthesagereborn Not simple at all because it mean nothing to ask about weight without asking height. i really don't understand that. 50 kg can look very different depend on the height.
If she's 150 cm she would be fat, if she's 170 it will be skinny and if she's 180 she would be seriously underweight. It's stupid to ask weight without asking height.

[hellionthesagereborn]

It is simple. If she is 300 pounds its not going to matter how tall she is, if she is 200 height isn't going to matter either. Besides which that isn't the point the point is you judge you get judged. You can try and rationalize and argue why women should have the right to judge a man on his height but men should not be able to judge a woman on her weight all you want, its still going to be hypocritical.

[alice55]

@hellionthesagereborn You really don't want to understand. Plus nobody is 300 pounds... Girls are generally around 55 kg. If they're bigger you can see it on her face so you doesn't need to ask her weight...

A women ask height so the man ask height.
A women ask weight so the man ask weight.
ask hobbies then ask hobbies.

That's easy, fair and logic.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Nope, because its not fair, women ask for height because they judge a man on it, men do not judge women on height, they judge on weight. What your proposing is that a woman should be allowed to judge a man based upon her prefferences but a man has to judge her on those same prefferences ones she is fully aware of he doesn't have. See you do that because you don't want to be judged, its kind of like how women say that the person doing the asking out should pay for the date knowing fully that the only one doing the asking out is men. Its taking it out of context so that you have the right to do what you want but ensure a man cannot. If a woman can judge so to can a man, that is fair and logical. Also yes their are three hundred pound people and two hundred pound people and no it doesn't always show up in the face. Again you just want to avoid being judged while retaining your right to judge others. Its really hypocritical

[alice55]

@hellionthesagereborn Man date more a women by her height (as long in my country and many other European country they do). Lot of guys wouldn't date a women under 170 cm. They also ask for height.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well to take your argument, most women are shorter so it doesn't matter. Also its less of an issue for men then it is for women.

[alice55]

@hellionthesagereborn? Tell it simply

[hellionthesagereborn]

I thought I did? If you judge you will be judged. Doesn't really get more simple then that.

[alice55]

@hellionthesagereborn It's you who don't get it if someone ask your height then you ask their height. It's judging each other on something. if someone ask for your music taste then you ask their music taste that's logic.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Right. And the fact that men judge by weight women by height is just a coincidence right? Your judging them ergo they judge you. If you want to be a hypocrite fine but don't pretend like their is a logical rational for it. You just want to judge a guy but be accepted for whom you are because you are a hypocrite. Its not difficult to understand. Either they judge you based upon their credentials and you yours or you don't, anything else is hypocrisy.

[alice55]

@hellionthesagereborn I don't care I'm skinny so they can ask my weight for all I care.
But you don't want to understand anyway so

[hellionthesagereborn]

Jesus Christ your still doing this? No, you don't want to understand because it calls you and other women out. That then tips the balance of power out of your favor. You want to judge without getting judged, again you have made this about you personally, that was never the argument, it was about women in general and yet again you keep brining it back to you. I don't care if your skinny, I don't care if your short, the statement was is it fair for a man to judge a woman on her weight if she judges him based upon height (noting that both traits are what the other judges the opposite gender on because men and women have different prefferences). The answer is yes it is because if you judge then you should be judged. Its not complicated, stop pretending like it is, we all know why you are making the claims you are. Don't be a hypocrite, and stop making it about you when the question was not about you personally.

[alice55]

@hellionthesagereborn It's you who don't understand or maybe it's just cultural difference.
In my country height is the most important for both gender. We generally doesn't ask weight (majority lie about it so it's useless). If they ask are you skinny or curvy or fat? The girl would ask if he's muscular, skinny or fat? That's all.
And like I said weight is useless if you doesn't know the height.
Someone who is 55 kg can be fat or skinny. Weight mean nothing, it can be in your chest / butt like it can be in your belly. It's totally stupid to ask about it.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Fine be a hypocrite, make as many excuses as you can to justify the double standards you impose, I don't care.

[alice55]

@hellionthesagereborn If you don't care why do you respond to me that much then?

[hellionthesagereborn]

You where being clearly hypocritical, I was trying to point that out, I was hoping you where just confused and not intentionally creating a double standard that allowed you to benefit from judging others while preventing them from responding in kind. Clearly you don't care about the truth, you don't care about fairness you care about being able to get away with hypocrisy. So clearly their is no point in discussing this further, you don't care enough to be fair and reasonable. As I said my statement still stands, if you have the right to judge then so do men period, that won't change. Clearly its not about that though so I have stopped caring, I can't stop people from being selfish/judgmental/narcissistic I can only try to reason with them, if they don't care then its a waste of my and their time.

[misseasybreeze]

well im 5'1 so height doesn't really matter for me, but i do want them taller than me a couple inches. if a guy is asked for his height, he has ALL the right to ask for a girls weight, i see no problem with that

[yunali]

I ask about height and I tell my weight if he would like to know. It's only fair for a guy to know if I meet his standards before he wastes time to go out and meet me. Of course I expect the same.

[TripleAce]

Oh this is one of many... which is why it's always satisfying to give her a deflective response and see her squirm for her answers desperately trying to figure out if you got what she wants

Satisfaction level - high

[Littlett25]

I've asked about height before, whether there're 5ft something or 6ft it doesn't really matter lol. I just like to make a picture in my head. They can ask me about my weight or height, idc. I don't use dating sites though.

[Bandit74]

I've never used Tinde, but I would definitely ask for either her weight or her number of sexual partners if she asked for my height. 😬

[JulieXO]

I think weight matters way more than height. Also, you can influence it. I don't get why women get offended when they're asked about their weight.

[malealpha00]

Chicks are always impressed when I tell them my height cos I'm 6"2

[AleDeEurope]

Well damn! Holy shit bro, that's so fucking impressive. Omg :)

[malealpha00]

I detect a jealous short guy

[AleDeEurope]

Gotta fix that detector then xD

[ChocoLada]

I usually don't ask about the height, but my weight is no secret anyway ;)

[reixun]

I mean, usually height would mean you should ask for their height and weight for weight. I ask because I'm curious his height compared to me.

[bedroomdweller]

lol awesome. That guy is legit.

Well, I've never used dating apps but I'll keep this in mind if I ever do. It's only fair.

[grashopper]

Height can not be altered (naturally). But weight can.

So, women are even more discriminatory than men. (Some) Men judge women by their life habits. (Some) Women judge men by things they can not change.

[blustar]

lol savage. i dont but i will now 😂

that's why it's better to ask people in public rather than online. you can see what you're getting at face value