I feel so intimidated by a girl I'm attracted to...what do I do? :x

[Anonymous]

I've fallen for this girl I met in the first week of class this fall (I'm 18, she's 19, we're both in college) but she seems so far out of my league. I don't know what I should do now, should I just give up? I feel like there's no way a girl like her would be interested in a guy like me.

She's super cute, funny, and there's something about her that makes me smile whenever she's around...

I guess first off, I'm not really an attractive guy. Chubby, short, nerdy Asian guy with bad teeth. ( link link relevant)

Secondly, I've talked to her quite a bit but I don't really know what she's into and stuff, I feel like my interests would just bore her.

I'm into a weird mix of interests...like geek tech stuff and sports, which seems like such a stretch for one person.

I just don't know how to act around her. I don't know how to tell if she's interested in something or not, or how to even ask her what she likes...

Thirdly, I keep telling myself I should just go up to her and ask her, considering I've got nothing to lose but I'm too scared to. I'm more terrified of her saying yes more than her saying no because...I just don't know what I'd do then.

I've -never- gone out on a date in my life. (I'm serious D:) I'm so paranoid I'd end up just making an idiot out of myself in front of someone I really like. Ughh...

I don't know bleh, I just can't stop thinking about her but I feel like there's no way she'd ever think the same about me...that sounds cheesy as hell.. What do I do? :S

I'm so...I don't know...messed up. >_<

[Brando]

Firstly, you wear flannel. I wear flannel. We instantly are friends and we're in the "club". Welcome.

Second, you mentioned your interests and you being "geeky". link That link is a question I answered earlier tonight. Basically, own up to your geekiness. Show what you're interested in. Don't do it to impress this girl, do it because you actually want her to know. If she turns out to not be interested, then what have you lost? You've only let 1 person know that you are driven by some kind of hobby or interest. That's not a bad thing in everyday life, nor is it for girls. If you aren't sure of what she's into, simply ask. "I've talked to you for this long and I don't know what you like to do? Quit being so shy" or something like that. Get it out of her. If you haven't been talking about what interests you two, what have you been talking about?

Third, what if she does say yes? Why do you have to put so much thought into it? Maybe it's just me, but I like to fly by the seat of my pants. I hardly ever make plans to do anything. If I want to do something at the moment, I'll simply sit down and think of how to do it. The things I do right now don't require much thought, but that's beside the point. You don't have to make something the most memorable thing in the world. You just have to have fun with it.

Also, unless you all are familiar and talk easily to each other, I wouldn't recommend just going up one day and asking her to hang out somewhere. Don't give her an ultimatum. Simply extend an invite. "Hey, I'm going -- at/on --, you should come along." Hell, you could probably work in what you like to do (showing her your interests) and drop an invite on her at the same time. Don't go into the whole scene expecting one outcome or another. Just talk to her like usual and let her know that she's invited (and you'd like to know if she's coming or not). Give her enough pressure to realize that you would like an answer, or that it would be appropriate.

But otherwise, you can't control the outcome man. Just talk like usual, don't even stop to think if you are talking "usual", and invite a friend to hang out. Keep your emotions and hope to yourself, otherwise you'll will come crashing down. Have fun.

[pavlove]

you need to work on your self esteem but also just take a risk. better to fail than not try at all

[choosethedestructor]

Dude, you are super hot, if you don't mind me saying so! Of course, everyone has their preferences. Some heterosexual women like short guys, some like tall guys, some only want men with beards, others would never touch a man with a beard. Just get to know her, share your interests, and then ask her out if she still interests you. If she says no, it'll hurt, but it just means your not a match. Attraction is weird. I've had guys who checked all the boxes of what I wanted in a guy and I still didn't feel anything romantic for them. That's just how it goes. Take it graciously and offer to remain friends. If she says yes, then just go from there. Keep things casual and relaxed at first, and remember that first dates are generally awkward for everybody. Just do what you feel comfortable with, and be yourself, because if someone wouldn't date the real you, then it's not gonna work out. Anyway, good luck!

[tweet012]

Honestly pretty girls, are always used to being with pretty guys because you always want to surround yourself with people who are most like you.! She's probably a nice girl, so any attention might be just out of pity, pretty girls are mean girls so just lower your standards and don't make yourself look desperate.! Don't show her too much attention, keep her guessing, pretty girls love a challenge.

[doraemonffut]

ahh jeez first off you are so cute? if I were that girl i'd be dating you already tbh :00 literally just give it a chance and ask her out is the best to do, and if she doesn't like you back, you'll find the right person someday :''))

[Asthora]

you're woohoo fucking cuuuuuuuteeeeeeeeee omg
If i was not married, ohhh babe...
you're totally my kind of guy. If she dont like you the way you're, dont try make she likes you. Will end in a painfull relationship.

[anon122099]

You a cutie. ❤️ I actually created an account just to comment here. And I posted a picture of you on my instagram, hope you don't mind. Chonky cutiepie!