Girls seeking father figures in an older man normal?
Let's say a girl really likes older men. Not for their money, she has her own. She is mature for her age and feels like she relates to them better. She also likes that they can take care of her more, almost like a father figure but not in an incestuous way. She doesn't have a bad relationship with her dad, or a deadbeat dad, or an abusive dad or whatever, but she just isn't super close with her dad in a lovey affectionate way the way some girls are with their dads, and part of what she likes about an older man is that he gives her that love and special care and type of affection that a younger guy can't give her.
What's so wrong about this? (The girl is in her 20s, of legal age)
What's Your Opinion?
Most Helpful Opinion
To me it depends on his role in your life.
Him having a father figure personality is a good trait to have. But will he be a father figure to you? Or to your kids (if you want kids)
I would say the roles gets tricky when you want him to play the father role.
He would be your boyfriend. Not your father.
He can't be both.
Also it would depend on way you're looking for. Some guys might me looking for an easy lay. Others not so much.
You should talk to you dad and ask why he wasn't the Dad you wanted then ask yourself if you want the fatherly figure or not
What Guys Said 2
Not really anything. But I think the kind of girl that dates that much older guys who DOESN'T have daddy-issues is pretty rare.
What Girls Said 3
Those psychological explanations are very vague generalizations. I'm exactly like you. I'm so much more attracted to older men, but it's not about the money or daddy issues. It's mostly because they're so much more mature and interesting. Don't take it as something abnormal just because a few researches conducted on god knows how many women brought those results. Daddy issues and/or wealth are not the one and only explanations. It can be just a preference.
Nothing wrong with actually. Some girls just do mature faster, and most guys her age are still not as secure yet. Perhaps, she seeks security in a relationship.