I'm glad you feel this way about him. Your first sentence implied he's just a casual friend/sex buddy and nothing more. Well it seems he's been severely abused, at least mentally. He can't seem to come to terms with the fact that his ex is gone. I think somewhere inside himself he longs for the past. He reminisces about what could have been or being back with her. What's awful is that he's also dragging you along. What you are seeing when you date him, is a side of him that's aching to start over.
The only way you can help him is to suggest... talking to him and telling him that he is the love of your life. He needs to know your serious. He does sound... a little odd. I think he might need therapy if 6 years have passed and he's still grieving over the loss. He shouldn't be, he has you now. So basically, he needs to hear it from you that you love him. I know it seems selfish of him, and it is. But to you, he seems worth it. So don't give up on him just yet. He just needs help, and this something he really has to learn on his own. All you can do is motivate him. But he has to come to terms with what's in front of him. I know suggesting therapy is bad, he might get aggravated, but he really needs understanding. Just let him know and good luck. :)
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I think that he is more in love with the idea of her and she with the idea of him. Perhaps they start talking and she says she wants to be back with him so he decides that it may work but for whatever reason their plans fall through so he goes back to you. He never fully got over this ex so it's hard for him to move on with that what if hanging about. If I were you I would have a straight talk with him and tell him that if he pulls away again the way he's been doing it than he better expect not to come back. It's not fair that you get pushed away like that. You deserve to be someone's number one instead of being the stand by.
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