Why do guys slow down with texting?

[Anonymous]

Why do guys slow down with texting? When we first started going out, my boyfriend and I texted like crazy, and now we rarely text at all. And its not me, its him. I'm lucky enough to get 30 texts from him, when we used to text like 150 times a day

[tyrantfuryre]

I'm the same way with a girl that I first meet and think I may like. We'll text back and forth a lot, but after like a week I'll slow way down. Why? It gets old. I want to hang out with her and talk to her face to face instead of through some words on the screen of my phone. 150 texts A DAY to one person is insane. Stop that. Don't do that with any guy in the future either. If I were him in this situation, after about 2 days of say even 50 texts a day, I would finally just say: "can I call you or can we hang out this weekend?". It gets old. Texting can be annoying and too many people get out of hand with it. I have friends that, that's all they do is text. They hardly ever makes calls. It's friggin annoying. We're losing touch with real human interaction and communication. I knew a girl that once had OVER 10,000 texts on her cell bill in ONE MONTH. WTF?! GET A LIFE!

[jeniilove]

Thanks. I just asked a similar question.....

but would you call her if she didn't text you?

he used to say, "i just called cause I wanted to hear your voice"...

....and now I get nothing.

when I text he calls me cause he prefers talking.

but I guess I am always wondering if he's losing interest, because the scariest thing....once you have them, you're afraid to lose them. either way....

....i guess my actual question is: if he doesn't call me for 2 days, is that normal? thanks.

[tyrantfuryre]

No that's not really normal. NO ONE is too busy to not be able to contract you one way or another for 2 days. That's utter bullsh*t. It's playing games. The only way that this may happen, is if there was a close lose of a family member or friend...then again, even then they could say, something really serious came up, talk to you soon.

[aaron28]

Depends on situation, for myself when I met my fiance, we texted like crazy. When I was at work, with friends, etc I was texting her when we weren't together. After we were going steady, I slowed down especially at work because I have a job to do. I prefer to talk to her while I am with her, and if I text everything that happens throughout my day there's very little to talk about when we are together. I guess what I'm poorly trying to say is I prefer to be with her and directly talk to her, in the beginning of my relationship I texted her because I was head over heals for her, not because I liked texting.

[Confused614]

Completely agree with you. I have done that when I first start talking to someone I usually text them like crazy but slow down because if you tell her about your entire day you will have nothing to say when you see her. Exactly

[abcgirl10]

I think its normal. in the beginning they are trying to win you over so bad..then they know that they kinda won you. that's the whole point of the affection and attention they are chasing you they do it to get you/win you over. after a while some men don't feel that have to doi all that stuff..but little do they know that us girls love those things and they need to once in a while do those things to keep us intrested or else some other guy may swoop in,and take us!

[mormongirlmichl]

Maybe his parents just got upset with all the texts...lol jk jk

I think now that you guys are dating, he feels safe and like he doesn't have to try so much now. He knows the two of you are together and feels like he doesn't really have to work for it anymore...maybe you need to let him know that, uh, ya he does!

[Shlei3]

30 texts a day is a lot. Not everyone likes to text all the time plus after being a relationship things in general tend to slow down. This doesn't mean he doesn't care it just means he doesn't need to constantly be in contact.

[Stanthemilkman]

150 time a day wtf. Why didn't you either of you just call? Are you both mute? Texting just means the other person is too lazy to call or can't hold a conversation because they have lost the ability to communitcate. Texting is the most base form of commuication it is way to impersonal and just 'simple'. How about calling you know dust off those voice boxes and talk.

[Anonymous]

you have moved past the stage when you have a trillion and one things to say to each other and ask of eachother...your relationship is just maturing and following the natural course...completely normal...in fact personally, I would be more worried if you had been together for awhile and were still constantly talking...

[MlleBlanche]

This is crazy. It is too tiring to text all day! Please give your hand and fingers a rest for some days. And I think that is what your Boyfriend currently doing so do the same. ;)

[SilentG]

Thankfully, no texting in rapture city ;)

[spiritshaker9898]

idk that's never happened to me, my ex was like a text-a-holic and he would always text me even when we were starting to kinda lk end the relationship...he probably knows he has you so he doesn't have to work for it, so just make him work for you a bit more

[Blindness]

30 texts a day?

holy crap.

i don't send 30 texts a year.

and if you're measuring the quality of the relationship by the number of text messages on a cell phone, your priorities need adjustment.

[Emilymarie77]

Wellm what if some1 has the same issue buts a long distance relationship and that's all they really have?

[obligations]

reread your question. Your asking about texting. 30 a day is alot. I get tired of texting and I'm a girl. Stop overanalyzing the situation.

[Midwestbeauty444]

um first off all did you really COUNT all the texts?

[WeaponZero]

150 texts a day is psychotic. Even just 30 would be way too much for me. PICK UP A DAMN PHONE!

[Anonymous]

i think he may be tired of texting. I would be if it was more than 10 a day

[Anonymous]

You need to move past texting, he certainly has.