What are three things you do to give yourself confidence? No drinking, or drugs 🚫?

[k_slay]

-Exercise
-Small talk in a professional environment ( library, school settings, therpy)
-Sleep lol I have the worst sleeping patterns which fucks up my overall mood/motivation

[RaeSheBae]

Things that give me confidence are:
-hair on fleek
-make up on fleek
-outfit on fleek
-go to the party and let all the guys look at my beauty and make some girls jealous!!!

I know I'm so childish but yo that makes me feel Confident I like going out looking really good!
I just wish I could have better events where I could dress nicely (instead of going to a club)

[k_slay]

no wrong a answer as long as its honest. whats your top three favorite compilments?

[Agirlwithalemon]

Exercise is one of them. My body isn't the best nor sexist body out there, but working out and eating right makes me feel better about it. I also like to do my hair and put on a little bit of eyeliner and some lip product be it gloss or some lipstick. The last thing I like to do is be in the company of people who cherish me for who I am. That really helps.

[UnknownReflection]

Physical exercise. work outs and diet.
Mind exercise. such as educating, researching and studying on different majors.
Setting up and reaching goals. from small to the big ones. reaching small ones also set up a better confidence to carry on for the big ones.

[k_slay]

ok! hell yeah !! this is relatable. what small goals have you achieve lately?

[UnknownReflection]

Learnt some tailoring techniques and improving learning German language and starting Finnish due my girlfriend being Finnish. and for the upcoming days, due Christmas, i am going to learn new Origami shapes for some small present makings!

[k_slay]

whats some big goals you have achieved? name three

[k_slay]

for the record , the fact that you are able to speak multiple languages is a feat of its own 👏👏👏👏👏

[UnknownReflection]

Well, it seems you are serious on discussing such and it seems it's important to you to get around it! okay then! i am not sure if you can consider these big ones, the three i'd name would be, i am a professional football player which soon i am getting my first professional contract. due inside issues i've fallen behind my life for a bit, rather i'd do it sooner. then, i am also a drummer, and i reached a better physic than like three years ago now i am sat up for the next level toward it.

[UnknownReflection]

Thank you! however! i am not influenced yet! and Finnish i'm just about to start! i am into basics for now!

[Anonymous]

Like you, I exercise and work out consistently.
I watch my eating habits
I refrain from pornography

[leahbri]

what I think about and realize/do when I have no confidence is watch YouTube videos/shows/movies that make me happy and laugh and overall put me in a good mood. But what you have to think about is not everyone is going to find you attractive & that even celebrotes and models are insecure. Selena Gomez and Kim Kardashian look nothing alike but people still think they're both attractive. Some people prefer one over the other. Fake it to you make it love. Xx

[AnotherConfusedGirl]

1) Wear something I know makes me look good
2) Plan out my day (I'm the most disorganised person you'll ever meet, so when I have a plan it's a rare occasion)
3) Debating. There's something about getting into a passionate debate that boosts my confidence like nothing else, even if I don't win.

[Meghan87]

-Exercise 6x a week
-Staying up to date on current issues so I can develop opinions and maintain conversation.
-Leading seminars at work to improve my leadership/public speaking skills

[k_slay]

brilliant! What is your occupation?🤔

[Meghan87]

I'm a personal trainer and nutritionist.. looking to run my own business in the field someday!

[k_slay]

besides politics, what issues have you informed yourself?

[k_slay]

🙌🙏 that is amazing!! When did you start becoming invested in this area of profession? Who has been a great support along your journey to excellence?

[Meghan87]

Economics, the financial market (just getting into stocks), pro sports (football being my favorite), modern art (taking an awesome class!), also many of the local issues in my area.

[Meghan87]

I've been in the field for about five years. I started as a group fitness trainer. It all came out of me getting sober after a younger drug addiction. I got into exercise in recovery and it became my passion! The spinning instructor of the first class I took became my inspiration. She and I became very close and she encouraged me to get my PT license and even helped me get scholarships for it!

[k_slay]

This is all amazing, I am loving your answers. If you could travel back in time to give yourself one advice about getting motivated. What will it be?

[k_slay]

👾💥 *mind blown* I have a question I hope you may help me with. Is exercising at night a bad thing for someone who lives a sedentary lifestyle, and sleeps in the daytime? The person is on a two week vacation, has access to a gym late at night, diet is relatively healthy, and gets all his 8hrs of sleep in the daytime and works over nights.

[Meghan87]

Thank you! Honestly, I would just tell myself to relax, maintain my work ethic and know that it's all going to work out! I always thought everything was a mess and would never fall into place.. and then all the sudden, it did! And I'm incredibly happy. It would've saved my younger self a lot of angst and worry just knowing better things would come. I know that's kind of cliched... but it's the truth!

[Meghan87]

There is never a bad time to exercise!!! (Unless of course you're injured lol). Working out at night is perfectly fine and just as beneficial as it would be other times during thr day. Just make sure you're stretching and warming up appropriately before engaging in anything strenuous after being sedentary all day.

[k_slay]

Its not cliched, its brings me meaning hearing this words come out of a strangers mind. I am glad you over came an addiction, I know it must have taken numerious attempts. How old were you when you first were exposed and took part in the addiction?

[Meghan87]

I was 18 until about 22.

[k_slay]

Thank you for your input on the night time exercise question. 👍

[k_slay]

Would like to share how it lead up to that point? If its to painful, personal or none of the above but don't feel like sharing that is ok as well.

[Meghan87]

I got addicted by being a college kid just trying to fit in, and all the sudden it was out of control. It got to the point of me needed to quit when my parents told me they didn't want to be a part of my life anymore if the addiction were to continue. I've always been very close with them and that snapped me out of everything and forced me to get my life on track

[k_slay]

Did you ever had to go to therpy or rehab?

[Meghan87]

Yes... that's how I recovered and got into exercise. Life is crazy!

[k_slay]

Sorry for the late response. Do you mind if I pm you?

[kellyg83]

-remember who i am
-remember what i learned from my sister
-exercise

[k_slay]

what did you learn from your sister?

[kellyg83]

that my mother is not the end all b all of human existence, and that there are good things about myself that i can love and appreciate.

[k_slay]

was your mother good to you?

[kellyg83]

unfortunately not.

[k_slay]

did she phyiscally abuse you?

[kellyg83]

physically, mentally, emotionally.

[k_slay]

do you still see her? how do you cope?

[kellyg83]

the last time i saw her, she had chosen alcohol over her kids. after paying her a significant amount of money that i owed her, she pretty much acted like i didn't exist. i have come to terms with this, because i realized that even though i tried to be good to her, it wasn't enough. it's not me she wants. she has made this very clear by not contacting me. so i just deal with it. she once drove me to the point where i wanted to kill myself. i won't let that happen again, because i know i'm better than that.

[k_slay]

how did you get your mind off the those things. what did you do to keep yourself busy?

[kellyg83]

i went through the grieving process. i cried a lot. i mean, how could you not when you realize a parent doesn't love you? then i got angry. then i analyzed, and did research on her to figure out if there was anything that made sense about our situation. after extensive research, i realized that there was nothing i could do except move on. so i put on my armor and i started regathering who i knew i was. i will never let anyone bring me down that hard again.

[k_slay]

what research did you googled that helped you cope?

[kellyg83]

i did research on narcissism. i had heard things about it that related to my mother's behavior. then i discovered "malignant narcissism." this is the very worst, and most dangerous form of narcissism possible. the information i found was stunningly similar to my childhood and the things my brothers, sister, and i went through. i realized, then, that she had this mental disorder. this explained so much about why she did the horrible things she did. it also explained her weird jealousy toward her girl children, and the hatred she felt for me and my sister. i realize now that it is not entirely her fault that she abused us the way she did. however, i cannot deal with that kind of abuse and the alcohol addiction, as well as her weird sexual behavior, makes it more than difficult to be around her. she never apologized for anything she did, but that's also part of the illness. the best i can do is realize what happened, and move on because this illness of hers is not treatable.

[k_slay]

Im sorry. Were you or your siblings thinking about running away or telling an extended family member?

[kellyg83]

i did run away when i was 14. i stayed gone for about 5 months by using a fake identity. i made up a fake social security number, and name but i didn't have any cards made because i didn't know how to make id's. i stayed in different places like tents, boxes, a crack house (though i never did any, or prostitution. even though those idiots got the wrong idea, they let me get away with saying no. i had two guys with me. one was my boyfriend, and the other was a guy we met). i ate at churches, and i went to the labor hall with my roommates and made up a story about how i lost my id. i told them i was 18. i don't think they totally believed me, but they let me, a 14 year old, work in the labor hall to make money. because of that we were able to stay in hotels sometimes. it was scary, but it wasn't nearly as scary as what sent me home. my boyfriend left me, while i was sick with a cold, to go sleep with a dude for crack money. i couldn't find anyone except this other guy we met.

[kellyg83]

he tried to perform some marriage ceremony on me. when he wanted to consummate the marriage, i told him i had to do something real quick. then i ran away and turned myself in. my sister ran away to live with a 40 year old when she was 16. later on, i moved in with her. after that, my other brother followed. the last one to live was my youngest brother.

[k_slay]

please pm me

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

1) I remind myself that I shouldn't give a fuck what they think, and just do it.
2) I proceed to not give a fuck about what they think.
3) I just do it.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

But honestly, it's probably because everything seems funny to me so I'm not as phased by a lot of things I think should phase me.

[Raveled]

Don't over think a situation
Remind myself of all the times I've been successful
Talk to my best friends who support me

[snowangle]

1. Exercise, and push myself extra hard if I need a confidence boost.
2. Wear bold makeup.
3. Listen to my "get pumped" music.

[CrazynKinky]

I mostly just think realist worst case scenario. If I try and I fail does it really matter? Sure people may laugh but is that really a big deal.

[BalletDancer]

Smiling, pretending to be confident and having your friends and or family around may help

[lovydoey]

Exercise
Talk to myself in the mirror and boost up my confidence
Laugh... Just laugh

[MercedesXx]

Listen to Beyoncé, cause she has all the freaking confidence ✌🏽️

[JustCallMeLeon]

Talking to myself.
Slapping my forehead.
Looking self in mirror with eyes open wide.

[healthycharleene]

1. Exercise and eat balanced
2. Positive gratitude selftalk. :)
3. Engage share with people.

[Jxpxtxr]

Pretty clothes, climbing, martial arts

[k_slay]

what martial arts do you do?

[Jxpxtxr]

Used to do Judo & Muay Thai, currently doing Ninjutsu. I also still wanna learn MMA but not sure when that'll actually happen

[k_slay]

when did you start? and can you help me with a problem? I am into fitness as well can dont know what body type I am. Can I pm you (I swear I am not a dochebag i just need advice)

[Jxpxtxr]

Judo when I was like..11 or 13 can't even remember lol, Muay Thai when I was 16 & ninjutsu when I was 18.
Just ask on here?

[k_slay]

Wow shit you are a walking weapon lol and I can't bc I am not in a high enough level to post another question.

[Jxpxtxr]

Just ask me here in this thread?

[k_slay]

how do i post a pic on a comment?

[Jxpxtxr]

Upload it on some image hosting website and copy paste the link, but why would you even need a picture just to determine your body type? It goes by descriptions of your metabolism, limbs, how easy you find it to gain fat &/or muscle, etc

[k_slay]

its more for body shape not body type. i mostly consider myself a endomorph bc i can gain weight if I dont take care of myself.

[k_slay]

body shape can help a guy find perfect cloths

[Jxpxtxr]

Oh yeah, although it doesn't matter as much as it does for girls because your clothes are less various but shoot

[k_slay]

https://i.imgur.com/4UNs8Jf.jpg

[k_slay]

its not just for girls but for self esteem and for work

[k_slay]

i am 5'6 184lbs, chest 41in waist 36in hips 41in

[Jxpxtxr]

Hmm I'd say rectangle

[k_slay]

awesome thanks

[k_slay]

i usually read about skinner guy being rectangles , if you had to take a second guess what would it be? last time i will ask.

[Jxpxtxr]

Ya I mean body shapes in general are harder to determine on chubbier people but I think you're more rectangle than triangle or oval, you do have hips but your shoulders are still a little more broad.

[k_slay]

I see. Thank you. Whats your best combat style?

[Jxpxtxr]

If I understood what you mean by that correctly it's Bujinkan

[k_slay]

Wow do I have that bad of a grammer? lol Bujinkan , I will look it up. Brb

[ElissaDido]

- Starving myself
- Makeup
- Good Hair day

[k_slay]

why starving yourself? wouldn't that put you in a worse mood?

[ElissaDido]

It makes me happy because it makes me feel accomplished somehow, I want to be skinnier.

[k_slay]

have you ever been satisfied with your weight at any point in your life? if so how old and what did you weigh at the time?

[ElissaDido]

Nope never. I was chubby between 13-15. Then I lost all my chubbiness at 15-16. I became normal/average, but I want to be really skinny!

[UnknownReflection]

Not my intention to cross my limits. but just as my concern goes, i suggest you replace the starving habit, it is unhealthy even tho it makes you feel better psychologically. it's better if you replace it with a reasonable diet according to your physical condition under observation of an expert/doctor. i promise you you will earn a better prize and a very satisfying result through such pattern.

[k_slay]

pm me , I'd like to hear more about this

[k_slay]

we can continue here also if you feel more comfortable. Now next question. What is your greatest aspiration you would like to achive in your lifetime?

[Junlian]

Flirtknowing the situation, experience.

[Junlian]

Flirt, knowing the situation *

[k_slay]

gotcha , i agree , all good answers

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/fTVHkdvjWgU

[COCOCHANEL]

prayer
dressing nicely
cooking/baking for others

[beachflamingo]

Hiking and fencing and dancing around my room

[Danaishere]

Nice dress, my knowledge, and.. Just being myself