If you have an average looking face, is it still worth to lose weight?

Question

Aside from improving health, does losing weight really help you look more attractive even if you werent exactly overweight to begin with ( as in being in a higher range within the normal weight spectrum)

Does being pleasantly plump ( like the kind of chubby that isn't gross, but makes a girl look more 'cuddly') make a big difference in attracting the types and amount of men than when you are thin?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry to hear what is happening to you. But you shouldn't be surprised with the response as you are already doing what many girls are doing.

Average looking face, worth to lose weight?

Yes and no. If a person is already very thin and have an average looking face, they might consider putting on weight. And even if they are slightly heavier, heavier doesn't mean that they look chubbier (look thin on the outside) so losing weight might not make them look more attractive. If someone is heavier and chubbier on the outside, losing weight makes them feel better about themselves, and it MAY make them look attractive to only some men, but it also means that it may make them less attractive to some men too. Proportion of what men likes based on weight and body really varies. Maybe more American guys are attracted to thinner girls, maybe they are not, and many countries' guys are not attracted to thin girls.

Neither pleasantly plump nor thin makes a big difference in attracting more men. Contrary to what a lot of girls say, most of my guy friends values the face more than the body. Aside from that, guys look at a girl as an overall. Everyone's looks are so diverse that we humans appreciate people as art and its individual beauty. Maybe you look better thinner, maybe you look better when you are plump. Just do what looks good ON yourself.

To you: Think about it, you mentioned that you are suffering through so much pain and depression, is all these really worth just trying to be "attractive" and more "appealing" to some guys, when what guys like and are attracted to are so widely varied? If you study statistics, a sample of people claimed that more guys are attracted to girls/being thin increases your chances of being attractive in a guys' eyes doesn't make a good representation of the general public. Also, practically speaking, can you live like that for the rest of your life? Having excessive fissure on the butt, bleeding in the rectum, trying to get thin but still unhappy. Imagine if your friend is doing it, how would you feel about it? Even if you are already thin, you are still gonna feel unhappy about yourself and wonder what you are doing.

My suggestion, although irrelevant to your question, is to seek help to lose weight properly. If you mentioned your natural body weight rests at 5'6 145 lbs, I'm sure there are still ways to push through it, just that you have yet to realize it or really seen it coming. It all takes time. Write a letter to yourself. Tell yourself what you think is wrong with what you are doing and why. If you feel there's a need to have some psychological consultation, go for it. It ain't easy, but if you have the will to lose so much weight, I know you have the will to do the right things and make things right. Also, find friends who are understanding to talk to about things which bothers you. I'm sure even if they don't have the advice to help you, they will watch out&support you.

LittleMissGriff · Accepted Answer

No, it's not. If, for vanity's sake, a girl was worried about tummy chubby or arm flab, the answer to that is exercise. It smooths out the the lumps and bumps into curves, and breaks down cellulite, something that merely losing weight is often unable to do. Muscle tone is what gives girls the svelt, solid look.

Also, the fact you had to feel overweight at 5'6'' and 145 is RIDICULOUS. It is NOT unhealthy. It's not even near the border. Unless you have an ectomorph body - super high metabolism, very small bone frame, hard time gaining weight, easy time losing it, often narrow shoulders, hips, and limited bust and buttocks, 115 is not only unrealistic, it's DANGEROUS. If your body is happy at 140, I wouldn't push it below 130, even for vanity.

The common perception of weight, particularly in young people, is grossly distorted. I've heard many people say that the highest a girl at 5'5'' should weigh is 130! Absolutely not true.

As far as appearances go, losing weight alone doesn't cure the jiggly bits that make people feel unattractive until they're positively skeletal - A look far worse than being a regular athlete.

As for the girls I know who are most attractive in your height range, they usually weigh from 125-150. The boys love them, girls want to be them, and most importantly, they love themselves.

BeowulfNode · Accepted Answer

My advice, don't go below 140 lb. Stay 140-145 lb.

At 5'6 this is a good weight to be at. So eat a good balance of tasty wholesome food, and get a bit of exercise to keep your fitness up, and stay off those laxatives

skinny girls like these: link and link and link and especially link are not only ill and putting their lives in danger, but don't look feminine, they look like little boys with long hair.

Not only that but skinny girls stab you with their bones all the time as they don't have enough padding. While guys usually won't say much about it to not offend, and be macho it really does hurt. This is very much a problem when things get active in bed. Also skinny girls tend not to have much in the way of breasts, usually an A cup maximum. That being said, when a skinny girl fills in she'll usually go up a cup size or 2 or 3.

My friends and I freaked out one of our friends one time when his skinny girlfriend cut her hair short. We asked him, "when you're in bed with her how can you not think she looks like a boy?" This REALLY creeped him out.

At your height and weight you are good and healthy, according to the body mass index calculator on this link you are a normal weight. My girlfriend has much the same build as you and I think she is hot.

archer86 · Accepted Answer

You should always try to look and be the best you can be without making it an obsession. Obesity is zero fun and too many overweight people as myself can attest to this. You don't have to be a lard butt, but when you don't like the way you look, it's time to make adjustments. Looking healthy is sexy, perfection is not necessary.

The good news for you is that women have many physical traits they can employ to gain attention from men. Legs, butt, belly, eyes, smile are just a few things women can possess and utilize that men cannot. Even if something is not up to your own expectations, a woman's body has other areas that can make up for it.

An example: boobs. A woman may have very small boobs, but can make up the difference in having great legs, juicy buns and a lovely smile. A woman with a good body can make it up over an average face. I've dated more average looking women(rated 5-6) with better personalities than hot women of 8+ in looks but were lacking in manners.

Lose the weight but only a little bit. If you had a pic of yourself, I would be able to better evaluate your looks but this is OK. The bottom line is be healthy and be good.

Anonymous · Answer

GUYS! WTF? Have some tact, answerers! GEEEEEEEEEEEEZ! I'm extremely appalled and disturbed by the ignorance and response by some of the users here. She has a disorder and you guys are chucking in so many unnecessary physical comments which are neither helpful nor constructive. If people are all that shallow, girl, I reassure you that you are better than any of those girls/guys whether they are attractive or not and you deserve better for identifying what are your underlying problems. If they have a problem with your arms, your thighs, your stomach or anything, they can go suck an egg and be the loser. Guys like shallow girls, but why put yourself at that level? What happiness does it bring you to like a shallow guy? If there are guys who like thin girls, you have many other guys (in fact million guys out there) who also like pleasantly plump girls. The world is big, and there's no use trying to please just a portion of guys who find thin girls attractive.

If Kim K is attractive to some guys and have thinner arms, so what? She doesn't project a good image, and as well as many guys like her, there are many guys who hate her.

If some celebs are thinner than you in many aspects and guys find them attractive, so what?

Scarlett Johansson has a f*cking hot body that many women would kill for. She ain't thin, she ain't slim. She gets a crazy amount of guys attracted or want her. If you think you have an average look, glam it up a bit with a tad bit of make up or something. Losing that much weight is not the best way to help yourself look better, is it?

Love yourself hun, by loving your body and your health. People are gonna be a**h*les and talk trash about things, but you are under no obligation to please somethings that can never be pleased. Don't let them bring you down. Nothing attracts the right guy more by having charisma, confidence and the right eating habits. Best of luck. Peace.

Anonymous · Answer

If you are overweight it's worth losing a few pounds. Generally you should exercise several times a week just to be healthy. You have more confidence in yourself, more energy, and your body health wise is technically younger. I don't know you, so I have no clue how you look or feel on a daily basis. As far as Kim Kardashian, she has a cute face/smile and is photogenic. Then the artists go to work on her pictures, and make everything look better then they really do. I have no clue how she looks in real life, but from her pictures her body type is good, especially for a 30 year old woman. What you should remember is that looks are not just about pounds! Muscle weighs more than fat. You want to healthily, and gradually drop fat weight, and through exercise gradually build some muscle to tone your body. If you drop fat weight too quickly, you will get a lot of loose skin and look flabby. If you starve yourself, you will lose muscle tone and look like a skeleton. Do it the right way through a healthy, reasonable amount of calories per day based on your BMR and through cardiovascular exercise like walking, cycling, or swimming. If you hit a plateau and find it hard to loose weight the right way, then try another type of exercise that uses different muscle groups. It will not come over night, but you will feel better the longer your do it, and it will show in your looks, confidence, and energy level.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not always about weight or "pretty face" or any of that. While yes, of course that's all part of it, it's about your confidence. You have to know that you're pretty and be happy with the way that you look. That said, if you are overweight and not happy with your body, you should change that and get to a HEALTHIER weight. I stress healthy because you should not get an eating disorder and cause yourself to be sick for the sake of appearance. Many women are able to carry weight in different ways. I'm okay with admitting this, I am a size 14, I have really big boobs and curvy hips and an hourglass shape even at my size. I get passes by guys and I'm confident in the way that I look. Could I stand to lose some weight? Sure. But I don't think it's entirely necessary for appearance, while on the other hand there are some women at my size who don't carry their weight the same way, a lot of it is in their stomach or their faces, it's just completely different for everyone.

Long answer short. Be happy, comfortable, and confident in yourself and everyone else will be too.

Anonymous · Answer

guys care more about body than face. a girl with an average face and a hot body is considered more attractive than a girl with a beautiful face and a chubby body.

a hot body will not only attract a higher number of men, but it will attract more attractive men who can get hot girls. if your body is hot you are considered hot. you don't have to have a really pretty face to be considered hot. a lot of "hot girls", upon closer inspection, are not great beauties. they just make the most of what they have. a good hairstyle, stylish clothes, and nicely applied makeup can fool people into thinking you're better looking than you really are.

ali1001 · Answer

It not a priority, Its about being healthy, I was overweight, I needed to drop pounds, not because society told me but because I needed to do this to live a better life, and feeling better about myself and my appearance just came with the package. It wasn't a quick fix, I dedicated a whole year and dropped almost 50 pounds. I actually wanted to develope some sort of eating disorder, I know that sounds sick but that's the easy way. Its the hard work that's pays off in the end. I'm sorry you went through what you did, but you can't blame it on skinny being a priority, because the fact is YOU made skinny a priority and that's why you suffered. You didn it for the wrong reasons.

madmisskelly · Answer

It makes you feel better, and you may feel more confident which will translate overall.

See, I would LOVE to lose 10 pounds, but the lengths I would have to go to, to do it, would be intense. I would probably have to cut out whole food groups or a whole meal and exercise about 1.5-2 hours every day. It just isn't worth that intense of an effort. I love to eat.

So, if someone can't love me at this weight, at a normal, healthy weight, then I am certainly not going to put myself in misery to attract them.

krisdaschwab912 · Answer

Whatever you think works for you, go for it. Me personally, the only women I wouldn't go out with are the ones that are extremely overweight. And even then, I'd be open to dating someone of that category if she had the right personality and music taste.

Datnica · Answer

ima speak for my self but I HATE skinny girls thier nasty also real overwright girls...

If your chubby like with a tummy(not big but noticable) and a cute face its acceptable your attitude would count most if you like a guy and wanna really be notice...

if your thick nice...guys like girls with ass and tities and curves with a small waist...lol

averge will be flat stomech or a ljust il gut and a nice plumy butt and like c cups or b cups

but to keep it real is nice to be in shape but don't like kill your self with being skinny a guy should like you for who you are not what you look like you noe what I mean...cuz the end of the day thier going to decide if you going to a be a one time thang or a dime peace...hope this help

kereru · Answer

Dont tie up your your entire sense of self worth and self image into the numbers on the bathroom scales.

Being healthy is what's important, it looks like you have a healthy BMI,

of course some guys are going always going to go exclusively for twigs, but as long as you are a healthy weight you, you don't need to worry.

Anonymous · Answer

Ah it's so hard to say because it totally depends on your specific facial features! Also on a guy's personal preference. I notice that girls seem to smile more when they are skinny or have lost weight, which always makes for a more attractive face in my opinion. Sometimes fuller women have bigger looking cheek bones, and more filled out look works for their face. It totally depends, but for the most part I'd say yes that losing a little bit of weight would help define anyones face and make them feel and look more attractive. Hope I helped!

Anonymous · Answer

I also went through an eating disorder and am still going through depression. Don't overstress looks; I grew up as a fat kid so kids were always telling me I was fat and ugly and even though I lost the fat and built a sh*tload of muscle the insecurity transcended my childhood and still bothers me today. Girls tell me that I'm hot and I get looks from them a lot but I lack the social skills to approach them because I'm always stressing out for no reason, thinking people are judging me negatively.

Try to look your best, because unfortunately appearance is important in today's society. But don't make it top priority, focus on FEELING good not looking good. I go to the gym / running and listen to some ambient music to help me relax but better myself at the same time. You enter a dreamlike state. Search 'eskmo ambient p stretch ep' on google for some good meditation / chillout music.

Livestrong58 · Answer

Lose weight to be healthy and be confident in yourself...period. And only if you actually need to shed excess fat, don't lose weight to be a stick.  You only live once, don't spend it trying to be "attractive" enough for someone else.

peace-love-couture · Answer

I think I see what you're saying and I think being thin would attract the "hot assholes" as opposed to the good guys(who may not be as attractive). So it depends what you're aiming for.

Although for most guys, an attractive face doesn't make up for an unattractive body since most guys aren't chubby chasers, just like an attractive body doesn't make up for an unattractive face.

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

Body is more important to guys than face is. An average faced slim girl is valued more than a gfat girl with a gorgeous face. by the way 5'6 145 sounds hot. As long as you're not fat you're good. But when your waist starts getting big that's when its time to lose weight. Don't worry until you get to 160

kheserthorpe · Answer

1) Men value women being thin a lot. As you get older and most women become overweight, being in good shape with an average face will make you in high demand, certainly hit on more then a very pretty but plump girl.

2) Men's standard for 'thin' is actually much more relaxed then women's.

You don't need to be 115.

MrEM4N · Answer

Being healthy isn't just about losing fat. It is also about gaining lean muscle and living an active lifestyle. All too often people only focus on the weight loss aspect and completely disregard the working out. They go hand in hand with one another. Even just 20 minutes of exercise a day will do an amazing change on your health over time.

Nephastie · Answer

I think that, there's more to being attractive than your face. I believe a good personality, sense of humour, and some stuff to talk about is also apart of it. Aside from that, I think it is always worth losing weight, if you are over weight. If you are fit, slim, skinny, I think you are good to stay where you are. I am about 5'10" tall, and about 150 lbs. I am not skinny, but I keep in shape. I have a curves, but oh well.

ali1001 · Answer

Honestly I had a pretty face, but when I was chubby I still looked off. When I lost weight, my face became better, my eyes popped, not in an ugly way, my cheeks became better shaped and I felt better. Not to mention my ass was better because of all the squats =p but even then, I still go for the average guy. I don't judge at all. which is sad, a girl will never be good enough for a guy. at least that's what I think.

Darkfairie17 · Answer

It really depends on your facial structure. If someone has a very round face and it looks puffy, then yes losing weight will help. But if your face looks good, I wouldn't worry about it.

Dotcomperson · Answer

don't lose too much weight. men will not find you sexy

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