Do some girls not care what other people think of their boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Me and my friends always talk about this. I've noticed, particularly around campus that I've seen some really odd couples. The ones the bother me are a really cute/hot girl with a weird/goofy looking guy. Do some girls just not care? Or have low self esteem? Or just date them because that's the only guy that asked them out maybe? I mean I realize beauty is in the eye of the beholder but really... I'm hoping people know what I'm talking about or have witnessed it before.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Ok, I'll bite. A couple months ago I dated a thug. He wasn't one of those undercover gangster types, no this guy had gold teeth, super long 2 chainz dreads, tattoos everywhere you know the whole uniform lol. I don't have any pics up but I'm a girlie girl on the clean cut side. We were a big odd couple and when we went out people looked. They definitely looked lol like wtf is going on here? I felt slightly awkward at first but mostly didn't care because at the end of the day, most people don't care that much. they may look once or twice but they go back to their business

[Asker]

So why did you date him?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Because I liked him?

[Asker]

How?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

What do you mean "how" did I Like him? Same reason anyone would like someone. you like their personality and you think they look good

[Asker]

How would a "girlie girl" think that looked good..? Are you really into hip pop and rap? Even then I wouldn't really see it

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Yeah I listen to hip hop and rap among other things..you can't judge a book by it's cover. Just because I look a certain way doesn't mean I wouldn't go for a guy like that. I wouldn't date an ugly guy who looked like a thug, I just thought he was handsome. My cousin asked me the same thing (she likes clean cut dudes only) and I told her to look past his tattoos/teeth and dreads and actually analyze that he's hot and even she agreed

[Asker]

Yea but the way you think makes you a "girlie girl" and a "girly girls" mentality usually isn't thuggish lol

[xHoneyxBeex]

No, some people don't care and why should they? They're the ones dating their boyfriend, the opinions of others should be irrelevant. Just because an attractive girl is dating a less attractive man (to you) doesn't mean she finds him unattractive and it doesn't mean she has a low self-esteem.

Everyone has preferences and can be in a relationship with whoever they want. Some people may think my boyfriend isn't the best looking but to ME, he's hot as hell. Lol Obviously, beauty is subjective and people will view other people differently and that's okay.

[Asker]

Unattractive to someone usually means unattractive to most. It won't range from unattrative to hot as hell lol

[xHoneyxBeex]

Not really, I've seen women ogle men that I think are hideous looking, I've also seen men I found attractive that other people did not. Obviously if someone is in a relationship with someone else then yes, they usually do find them physically attractive as well. Like I said, just because YOU find them unattractive doesn't mean everyone else does.

[Asker]

guess I'm oblivious

[musicbrain5]

It's because they are not shallow. Those girls are attracted to his personality, he probably treats them well, all that stuff. Someone might be really hot (or what is considered hot by most), but they might be douchey, dumb as a post and full of themselves. And a lot of women whom men think are hot and sexy are sometimes fake as f*ck and manipulative. Again, not all but some. You can't judge a book by its cover and you certainly shouldn't be judging other people's relationships based on the way they look together. The important thing is that they love each other and treat each other well

The same goes for guys who are hot and cute but who are with girls who may not be perfect 10's.

[snowangle]

They're probably dating them because of their personality, since that's what matters the most in a relationship. Take me for instance... I've been told I'm pretty attractive. Here's a picture so you can decide for yourself. link

I currently like 2 guys. I won't post pictures of them up here, but I can say they're both average looking. One of them is tall but looks like a nerd (because he is, lol) and the other one is shorter and kind of a shrimp as far as muscles go. But the first one is the smartest, kindest, funniest, most easygoing person I know. And the second one is charming and goofy and is always making me laugh.

I'd be lucky to have either one of them as my boyfriend. If other people stare and wonder why I'm with him, I really couldn't care less. They don't know him like I do.

[Tycho]

I Honestly never understood why people care about who's dating who. I don't know why people question this. Especially when it is none of their concern. Your best bet would be that they don't care assuming that's why there dating them and most likely find them attractive

[Asker]

Who you date reflects who you are that's why lol

[lace1228]

When it comes to women personality is taking into consideration in the rating system. You can take a guy who is on average a 4 or 5 at best and then you get to know him and maybe really like the person he is. You might start seeing things you never noticed before,therefore he can suddenly become sexy. It goes both ways. A guy could be a 10 and if he is cocky and full of himself and just has a bad personality he can become not so hot anymore.

[ShesSoSilly]

Well I can only speak for myself and in my experience any boyfriend I had was because I genuinely was interested in them and I was attracted to them. Other people and their opinions were not even remotely a factor in this and I have never cared about that because its not their concern.

[bdeakol]

To be honest some guys just "got it". I have a guy friend who's not much of a looker, but DAYUM he gets some hot chicks, and I'm talking 10/10 here. I think it's got to do with his personality, I don't know it's quite fascinating.

I must admit though, some goofy looking guys are hawt. I think it's the way they dress or like if you ever get the chance to talk to them you feel comfortable around them. Some people are like that.

[COCOCHANEL]

i'm so in love with my boyfriend I don't care what anyone thinks/says about him

[523206720]

When I was younger I cared about personality way more than I cared about looks. If I a guy bought me flowers, bubble gum and candy he was automatically "hot."

[YouthfulPallor]

Some ugly people are actually quite a catch. These guys could be pretty amazing in the eyes of their girlfriends or reasons independent of looks.

[Asker]

But you wouldn't try to find someone who is really good looking whos amazing in the same ways?

[YouthfulPallor]

But if I'd already found someone who was amazing, why would I dump them because they had one shortcoming?

[Asker]

Well why would you date the not so attractive one in the first place? And generally when people know they have something special like someone who is good looking and attractive they are happier because they are one of the fewer.Everyone has something special or amazing.

[YouthfulPallor]

But amazing is also in the eye of the beholder. For example, a couple years ago I met a guy who liked a lot of the same things I did. I liked hanging out with him because we had so much in common and we had so much fun together. Our sense of humor was exactly the same; he made me so happy. I didn't find him cute at first and my friends never did, but after a while he grew on me and I was very attracted to him and we started dating. He was my first love--I can say that honestly and wholeheartedly

[Trendii]

To me I don't always go for the best looks because to me that doesn't matter. I don't care if the guy is super hot, just as long as he has a good personality because I wouldn't care to be with a hot guy who has a sucking attitude and personality .