Hmm... this can be an awkward situation. If you knew him well enough, you might be able to ascertain if he's the sort of guy who would go through all that work just to get to know you with no sexual expectations.
I've brought girls over to my place literally just to eat, chat, and watch a movie, but I'm not very common. Furthermore, the girls I'd invite over knew me well enough to know I'm abstinent until marriage. But again, that isn't behavior you can count on most guys to have in common with me.
A better choice would be to have a friend drop you off / pick you up. Second best would be if you paid for the taxi yourself and didn't agree to let him pay for it until you were on your way out, (that way, if he still wanted to pay for your taxi both ways after not getting sex, you'd know his merit).
If you want to make sure to establish that you aren't obligated to spend the night, tell him you have to meet a friend later in the night, and that you have things to do early the next morning. Rather than lie, you could even make plans to fit your story. This would be good, because if he knows somebody is expecting to hear from you and see you later in the evening, it will add a level of accountability to the whole evening, even though technically its only the two of you over there.
Even if he's gentleman who doesn't intend to push for sex, he'll still probably respect/admire your boundaries and your self respect when he figures out you're setting precautionary against potential manipulation. In either case, he'll feel better about your ability to guard yourself against other men, which is a good thing if he's considering you as a potential SO.
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He's probably expecting sex or at least something naughty to happen... Maybe when you get there and if he's nice and does thing properly you1ll want to do something... but if you don't at all then just don't respond to any advances he might make. If he insists say you're not up for it
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