How to be be ok with being ugly?

[Anonymous]

I'm ugly. I have always been ugly. I will probably always be ugly. And it bothers me so much, it makes me depressed and wanna kill myself. Nobody has ever called me beautiful or pretty. I've been called ugly and made fun of by even by random people on streets. I'm so ugly that even surgeries couldn't fix everything. What's the point of living if I'm ugly? I mean I don't wanna die but I'm such a perfectionist and being ugly bothers me way too much. How to deal with being ugly and accept my ugliness?

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel. A lot of people say everyone is beautiful but they still call good-looking people pretty and bad-looking people ugly and treat them differently.

I know it's an unfair world but there is a way you will be able to be treated well and thought highly of.
Well I think it's having great ability and personality.

People still think highly of good-looking people who have great ability and personality though.

Im in an ugly side and I hate going outside. There are tons of good looking people and make me even more insecure.

But accept this unfair world. There are a lot of things you cannot control.
Work on your ability and have great personality. Otherwise you will be just an ugly girl.

You don't need to try to consider yourself beautiful. I tried a lot of times but couldn't!
It's impossible because the media decided what is pretty and ugly and also everyone got influenced.

Also, keep distance from people who are obsessed with looks and make you feel bad as much as you can.

Hope this helps.

[Stacyzee]

I know it's hard not to focus on your looks when you're constantly judged by them.
There really are only two choices on how to deal with being "ugly".
A - accept that it's something you cannot change. Try not to dwell on it.
Work on strengthening who you are as a person.
Those beautiful qualities will eventually shine through.
B -continue to dwell on it.
Sink into a even bigger depression.

Work on who you are (choice a)
You have to live the rest of your life.
So, you have to start doing things that will make you happy with you, instead of worrying what others think.
Do you really want to waste your life feeling like option b?
It will get you no where.
Trust me

[SirenDep]

Beauty is highly contollable. The most important things are to be fit and to know how to present yourself. Read this article to better grasp my point.
www.therulesrevisited.com/.../...controllable.html

And if you want to, you can tell me specifically why you consider yourself ugly. I might be able to help. I didn't look as good when I was younger but I improved my looks, by studying about appearance.

[LonelyLillie13]

that is an interesting chart but how is breast size 35% controllable?

[SirenDep]

push up bras, exercise to strengthen sternum, conturing

[SirenDep]

also putting on or loosing weight

[SirenDep]

and this is a virtual makeover site
https://www.taaz.com/

[Watermelonoma]

girls are usually their own worst critic. Anyway, if you aren't conventionally attractive... you can still get some guys with a good personality. Im sure you've heard that a few times but its true... at least for me. There are women out there who i probably would never pursue, but because of their character, i find myself attracted to them.

Think of malala yousafzai for instance
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you'll never find her modelling for playboy, but i can't help but be attracted to her because of the kind of person she is. If you read her story, you'll agree that she is an amazing woman, and i could only imagine how amazing she would be as a wife. The thought of it makes me sooo attracted to her. I look for girls like this all the time, but its not a common thing. But my point is focus on the things you have control over, and do your best. But you probably aren't even as ugly as you think

[InLoveWithMissWrong]

Unless your disfigured, I wouldn't say that. Try weight training, eating whole foods, and working out but you have to do it for yourself not for others.
I would also watch or read something by Brene Brown like her book the "Gift of Imperfection". Seriously wanting to please others and be seen as perfect is only going to put you through "Hell on Earth". You need to accept yourself regardless and without condition. Even Brene Brown gets called ugly all the time in her comment sections for her videos. Being confident goes a long way to being attractive even if you don't have the looks to go along with it.
Another thing is that the people making fun of you on the streets are what I would consider ugly people. Seriously an ugly face is one thing but an ugly soul is true ugliness.

[Song4TheBroken]

Looks are literally the LEAST important thing about a person. The most important thing is personality and the second most important thing is talent. It's much better to be 'ugly' with a great personality and amazing talents, than to be a good looking person with a shit personality and no talent. There's also the fact that beauty is very subjective, what is ugly to one person may be beautiful to another person. But in regards to your looks, the best advice I can give you is to just make the best of what you have. Like make sure you have a good skin regime etc. So you can always look your best. But at the end of the day, there are much more important things in life than the way your face looks, so just focus on those things.

[koko124]

"Looks are literally the LEAST important thing about a person."

This is true if you are blind

[Song4TheBroken]

@koko124 It's only untrue if you're a shallow person. I never said they didn't matter AT ALL (if you're looking for a relationship) but that they are the LEAST IMPORTANT. But unless you're sexually/romantically interested in someone, then I don't see how their looks would be relevant at all. Besides, personality and talent are things I look for in a girl waaay before looks (for a relationship not a ONS).

[cavmanier]

I think there is some subjectivity to what you're saying but regardless there is much more to life than your looks. I still think you can enjoy lots of aspects in life and experience sexual passion with men as well. No one is perfect obviously. You can potential excel in other areas. You can also have an attractive body to many guys which many will find attractive.

[cavmanier]

I meant which many men will find appealing.

[cavmanier]

And I suspect your expectations maybe more of an issue than your looks

[RationalLioness]

You don't. You stop having such a negative self-perception, realize that not everyone is going to find you attractive which is okay, and then you build up your self-esteem.

[Asker]

Not that easy when NOBODY finds me attractive

[RationalLioness]

HIGHLY unlikely. Out of the billions of people on this Earth, there is someone that does. Please stop. :)

[Mustachekitteh]

No clue what u look like so I don't know if your beautiful or not.

But maybe just focus on other parts of yourself. Like improving yourself mentally. Fixing anything your not good at. It's always good to do self improvement. Which it's very hard when you have really bad habits. I have bad habits of not being able to stay happy all the time. Like i'll be happy for a while. Then fuck it all up and become miserable. Really hate that about myself so I'm trying hard to stop that habit.

[Illusive_Man]

Sometimes life just throws you one of those curve balls which is impossible to catch because your hands are buttered... I think when that happens I guess the best we can do for situations like that is to dodge out of the way and pick up a different sport lol
Like gardening.

[soccerchick4eva]

you are not ugly. everyone is different and has different features that make them unique, being unique is good and to accept that you just have to accept how you look and just who you are. Everyone is Beautiful in their own way! you need to believe that you are beautiful, cause you are! :)

[Rebellious_beauty]

F*ck the people. You are unique. Love yourself and someday someone will love you more than you imagine because you know beauty is not everything. You can be very rich, very intelligent (or you are now), awesome person etc. You are not beautiful so What? You can be everything except beautiful. Be everything except charming so that nobody will refuse you as wife, gf or friend. You are precious be yourself don't be ashamed. Don't give a sh*t to others who are not perfect too. ♥ ♥ ♥

[Anonymous]

Look, you're probably not THAT ugly.

Anyways, my strategy is to focus on solo activities, ones that don't put me in situations involving single girls where the potential for disappointment may occur. Find happiness in solitude. The world is very interesting and there is so much to learn you can't possibly learn it all. So start searching. Take your appearance out of the equation and become a person of substance and merit.

[Anonymous]

You have to change that way of thinking by changing your lifestyle. Look up things you feel will make you attractive, whether by dressing up better, wearing make-up, growing your hair out, excercising, eating healthy, or doing yoga. Take hair, sjin, and nail vitamins and etc

[Klaatu51]

just don't give a shit bout it... so wot?

improve yerself in other forms... looks aren't everything

[Asker]

But it's so hard when I know everywhere I go people are judging me and thinking I'm ugly :(

[Blue_Brady]

Stand in front of the mirror, keep telling yourself that you're ugly until it settles in, do this for about everyday. You'll end up loving and accepting your ugliness, you won't even care when people call you ugly because you'll be used to it.

[CocoRachelle]

You don't know if NOBODY finds you attractive, they could be shy and not sure how to tell you. Just try being happy and confident, do whatever it is that makes you happy (job or hobby). People find positiveness attractive!

[Anonymous]

Everyone has qualities and you are no exception. Perhaps looks aren't your best asset, and life could be tough because of that, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger right. Plus, not all men are shallow and only care about looks. Many are, granted, but not all.

Find something you enjoy doing, a hobby or otherwise. Life isn't great unless you make it so - that applies to everyone. Surround yourself with the people you feel comfortable around and do fun things!

[sid312]

Ur not ugly so stop it! Everyone is unique. and everyone has to find there way. stop judging ur self. there is someone out there for u who will make u feel special.

[HollywoodGlam]

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[Just1n123]

You just try and embrace it! I'm not the most handsome guy out there but I still love myself, I'm ugly but I try my hardest not to let it weight me down as much as before.

[hypno-trip]

You are the result of the genes of your parents. If you want to know why you are the way you are look at your parents and think how they got attracted to each other. that will provide a clue into who will be attracted to you that's what I think

[Anonymous]

The person that will call you beautiful or pretty will be that one guy and yes he will come and when he does none of that shit people tell you will matter because believe me you two will hold each other down and not give a care in the world on what people think about you... and omg pls DO NOT kill yourself D:

[Random_chick_2384]

I doubt that you are as ugly as you are saying. People are mean and try to tear other people down just cause.

[Anonymous]

Go worship God and help somebody at a soup kitchen. Being beautiful is not the most important thing. Focus on your career. I know very ugly people who have attractive boyfriends because they invested their time and energy into their careers.