I'm going into college in a year (I'll be 16 years old) and I don't want to be the loner anymore... I want to be perceived as glamorous, super nice and popular... How do I do that?
(PLEAS GIVE PROPER ANSWERS AND NOT 'YOU DON'T NEED TO BE POPULAR')
Most Helpful Guy
Well, in college, you often times can't become popular in the traditional sense of the word. College is usually too big to be known by basically everyone (unless you are a star athlete or famous outside of college).
You can become a non-loner though if you become a social butterfly and introduce yourself to many. To become well known, you really have to take a proactive response in friendships. It's pretty easy to avoid people if you want to, but it's also pretty easy to make friendships too.
-- Each class you go in, the first days or so, introduce yourself to the people on either side of you, maybe get their contact info if you can. Not only will this help immensely for school (study buddies, homework help, etc.) but you also might get some good friends. I met my best friend that way by randomly talking to him during a history of rock class and finding out we both liked metal / played guitar lol
-- Study and answer questions you know in class. Now, this will make you more liked by the professor, which is always nice. Likewise, the more clueless you are in a class, the more shy one tends to be because they really just wanna get out of there. That can make you less social.
-- Join clubs and communities. The Frat and Sorority people have large popularity webs because they were essentially made to view their other members as bros and sisters, bonded by the frat/sorority haha. If you aren't looking to party though, I suggest you stay away from most of em. As an alrernative, you can go to school clubs and events and introduce yourself to people there.
Again, you shouldn't expect to be well known by everyone. Popularity in college doesn't happen like that unless you are a star on a sport's team or some other source of fame. You can develop your social web though... Generally, simply by being extroverted, outgoing, and introducing yourself to many people (and keeping in touch with them).2
Most Helpful Girl
You don't need to be popular, as long as people like you it's good. Now, if you want to change your inage i'm certain there's a wikihow article on it, but anyways:
If you want to be perceived as glamerous you gotta look the part. Since I doubt you have actual money or time, I don't think it's possible. Do not go to stores like primark, instead go to h&m or forever22 and look for some glassy looks there that suit your body type.
Make up should be kept to a minimal during the day, bit you still have to look taken care of. Use foundation or concealer that fits your skin tone and type, mascara and some eyeliner. At night, eye shadow and lip stick can be added for a glammy look. (Yes also possible during the day but doing it at night makes it special lol)
If you want to be perceived as super nice, be it. Nice people are often extraverted, so make sure you're comfy with talking to people and helping people even when they don't ask. When someone seems to have a rough time studying, and you can see it's a class you take as well, engage in conversation and ask them if they would like your help etc. when someone is carrying shit ask them if they need help. Be funny, be flirtatious in a good way. Surround yourself with other nice people.
Being popular is all about the people that are common where you're going. For instance, I go to a school with a lot of posh people, therefore if you're posh and funny (and whory but thats dif in college) you're most likely to become popular
HOWEVER, do not change yourself in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. If you don't want to smoke weed or drink but the cool kids do it, don't do it but stay there to take care of them. Be the mom friend™.1