To the people saying that you actually don't like nice guys: NO. You do. You like a guy who is nice and confident but not a doormat. I'm just assuming this.
I hate to break it to you, but there's no way to tell 100%. Intuition doesn't always work because some people's true colors take a while to manifest, and some people actually change totally as they go on in life. That's the fun/sucky part of relationships: risking falling for someone without knowing who they really are first.
The best way to tell, though, is if you've known him for a little bit... Not as a close friend, because that's odd going out with someone who's been your childhood friend to a lot of girls. Just someone who your friends may know. Try to squeeze information out of people who know the guy, and if they have nothing but nice things to say, that's a good sign.
If you actually are seeing him already or want to see him, see how he acts on the first/second date. If he's constantly talking badly about people, downing his family constantly (even if his family sucks it's odd to bring that up on an early date), speaks inappropriately, or seems lackadaisical towards the future (no goals in life, doesn't care about school, etc) then those are little red flags.
Well, what kind of people does he hang around? How does he behave? What are his values? How does his family behave and what are their values? How does he treat other women? How does he talk to them (if he says "hey, sexy" or "hey, girl", that should give you warning signs to avoid him). How does he dress? How does he behave when he's put into certain situations (if he's called out and he acts in violent anger, this is a red flag for later on)? What do his past girlfriends (if he's had any) say about him? What do his friends say about him? Does he snap easily? Does he ask you for things like sex later on? Is he confident, or is he cocky?
These are questions you should be asking yourself when you meet a guy. If you have enough intuition, you'll know whether those questions are answered correctly or not. Every time you meet a new guy, you need to ask yourself some of these questions, and see how he answers them, physically, verbally, or mentally.
If a guy acts natural around you , not putting up superficial values and treats you like how he treats his mom, then that's the guy for you. Also, a guy who won't impress you, and just expresses his real self around are the genuine guys.
A guy who always look to impress you will just show his true color if you start falling for him.
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like zxmmsl said, the only way is by time. Typically a lot of guys will be expecting sex 3 or so weeks into a relationship and that's the point at which he leaves you cause you're not putting out. So therefore, if he's put in all the effort to setup dates and get to know you after this time and he hasn't wanted sex yet then chances are he's a nice guy and is actually interested in you for who you are. Do you really think a bad boy is gonna spend all the money, time and effort and still be with you after 4 dates if he just wants sex? I think not.
if he is a nervous wreck , if he has no other life but you , if he is bitter , if he is judgemental... these signs are signs of someone who could be trouble.. even if he is so nice with you ... if he is demonstrating those things with others or with life in general then you could be just hurting yourself by being with him.
Being meek and passive doesn't mean a good man who is calm and sweet .. some times it is just low self esteem or low confidence.
You know, I have a hard time believing that because I've known girls that said the same thing and they liked the guy so much, they overlooked flaws. I'd see other girls try to talk them out of it and that girl would write it off as that guy trying to be with her. I don't think you girls care to see it until you're finally fed up with it.
The question is - are you really the type of a girl who wants such a guy?
Because plenty of times when you let your guard down and let the girl know your sympathies she suddenly loses interest.
Watch how he treats people that he can't get anything out of.
The only way is time! By the way, are you a nice girl? How can we tell it?
if he is genuinely a nice guy. he isn't nice and caring towards you only. observe his behaviour with waiters, janitor, driver etc if he's respectful to them. he must be a nice guy.
get to know his personal life
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