1. Some guys are just jerks, and will do whatever it takes to get a girl, or get sex from a girl. If playing with her emotions is what works, they'll do that. If something else works, they'll do that.
2. Many girls make the mistake of living in fantasy-land and not having any grounding in reality. They often have the Disney Princess Syndrome where they BELIEVE in the fairy tale fantasy, and are literally expecting some modern-day version of a "knight in shining armor" to "sweep her off her feet" and "live happily ever after." That's completely unrealistic, but such women make themselves easy targets for manipulators, because it isn't hard for a guy to figure out exactly how to play her to get what he wants. Such girls need to realize that these are FANTASIES and things don't work that way in real life, and they need to adjust their expectations and behaviors accordingly.
The way you defend against this is to take a bit of time, don't rush into a relationship or sex, and get to know the guy before you become too emotionally invested. Ask LOTS of questions, and if you discover a red flag, don't ignore it and hope it goes away; DEAL with it, even if that ultimately means breaking up with him. So often girls KNOW what a guy's problems are, but they pretend those problems don't exist because they don't want to lose the guy (who isn't worth keeping) or admit he has a deal-breaker. That just sets the girl up for a much bigger, uglier confrontation later on down the road.
Genuinely? I suppose part of the time its to gauge their personality and how they react/respond to various situations with the purpose of understanding them more, sometimes with the intention of heading towards a relationship.
Yes, it's by their nature, and yes the problem is also the girl. Selfishness is pervasive and guys are not untouched by it. They play on girl's emotions to gain some measure of power and control over them to get what they want. Guys who do this obviously don't love you, they love themselves. Dump them faster than a rotting rodent corpse.
Women do it too. People do it. just no one you should be in a relationship with.
Get to know people first., if they play games call them on it. sometimes its just out of insecurity and its not intentional. they just react irrationally from a place of fear and insecurity may not be aware of how they are coming across towards you... If they continue, most likely its on purpose and they get a high from the feeling of power over you. In which case walk away.
You have to be accountable for _yourself_ and _your_ actions- not _them_ and _their_ actions.
Act on behalf of your self respect. trust your intuition/ observations...Dont ask 'why' to someone who may are may not give a sh*t. Tell them what you see and or move on. Be proactive- - Not an emotional dumpster.
btw It is EXTREMELY difficult to be truly confused by another person when you are yourself being absolutely honest with yourself and them.. usually when we feel played its because we ere playing games ourselves.. otherwise you would have spotted the problem clearly. identify it. dealt with it. resolved it. or moved on. not sitting around wondering why you get played.
Imo. The most efficient way to bypass games. is to not play them yourself. fdeal with it directly and move on from the games, or the person. either way don't get stuck in emotional quicksand... Act. Dignity keeps you dry. ;-)