How to have a healthy long Distance Relationship

[Demi_love]

Hey everyone, this is my take on long distant relationships. I have been in one for four years and the only way it has affected my relationship is the fact that when am in the mood I can't just do it right there on the floor with my boyfriend.

The best way to maintain a long distant relationship is to:

• Keep in contact. This is important because, since your physically far away, not keeping in contact also makes you far away emotionallly, am sure you don't want that.

• Be involved. Even though your not next to him/her, doesn't mean you can't be involved in his personal life. For example: If he goes to work and come home a certain time, text or call him after he's refreshed himself and is relaxing. Ask about his day, if it was a bad day, ask what was bad about it. Show him that in spite of the distance your still intend on being apart of his daily life.

• Visit each other at least once or twice a month. That one is self explanitory but i'll explain anyway. Make sure you see thim every now and then to release some sexual tension or to just be romantic with each other and make memories.

Thats basically it, stay involved, talk about your feelings, allow him to talk about his, share intresting things about your day, your thoughts, talk about the future and anything else that you feel is important to mention.

Another thing is keeping you eyes open, even if you trust you guy/girl it wouldn't hurt to watch for the little tell tale signs that might suggest he/she is cheating, and it also wouldn't hurt to keep track of what time his work ends, how long it takes him to get home. That way you can tell if he/she was idling on the road with someone, or if they came straight home after work.

Please Note: dont be a control freak or flip out if he/she came home later than they should, just calmly ask 'Why were you so late getting home.' Trust is vital factor, especially in long distane relationships.

Another thing, make sure you remind him/her now and then how much they mean to you and pour your heart out over the phone or over Skype, it keeps the spark alive.

I hope that I gave some helpful pointers and comment your opinion.

[sawno]

There is one very important thing to add.
I was about to have a relationship like this if it wasn't for one thing, she wasn't the type of girl who was able to have long distance relationships.

Did we have regular contact? Yes, we where the best friends you could imagine.
Where we involved? Yes, totally!
Where we always there for each other? Completely!
Did we have a very close strong bond? It was almost like brothers and sisters.
Where we both ok with an online long distance relationship? This is where it goes wrong, before you begin the relationship you should both ask yourself if you are ready for such a thing. In my case i was prepared to do it as it was more on an emotional level for me rather then a physical level. While that was also the case with her she needed regular physical contact with her boyfriend, not as in a lot of sex but as in being physically close to him and held by him.
As a result of this we both knew she would only be hurt immensely by the thing i couldn't provide and that was being very close to her very often. So in the end we continued as best friends.

[Demi_love]

ok so the only thing i left out was if the person was ready for that kind of relationship.. thanks for ur opinion

[Masamii]

i don't think you should follow their every move (ie know how long it takes for them to get home). it seems like that would lead to more issues than it would resolve...

[Demi_love]

no that would be stalking, just know what time he leaves work and how it takes him to get home. lets be real, there aren't always honest, i trust my man but you can't be naive and say 'he won't cheat on me' when he is. just keep your eyes open in case

[Masamii]

i don't think you should be tracking how long it takes for him to get home or asking what he is doing because he was away longer than he told you. thats where trust comes in.

[Demi_love]

so how would you know if he came in later than he should if you don't know the time he leaves work? what if he leaves work at 5 and comes home 9, and he does that every night. Because cause you dont know what time he left work your gonna think that how long it would take him to get home from work, when poor you don't know he left at 5 and been spending time with his side chick for 3HOURS before he comes home and text you. Who would look like the idiot? He can slip up everyday and you would never know. When you keep a tab on him he'll know that if he slips up, you'll know and there gonna be problems. I have done that for four years and it hasn't cause extra problems and my r/shp still strong, so you should know whats best for your r/shp hun

[Masamii]

excuse me, but i am in one too, and have experience too. i don't think you should track his every move to make sure he isn't cheating on you. if you feel like you have to "watch" him then there isn't trust, thus no love, thus there shouldn't be a relationship.

[Demi_love]

Smh no matter how much i say it you only listen to what you want. Where in any of my comments did I say track his every move? I even agreed with you that would be stalking. All am saying is and let me put it in bold so you'll register all of it YOU SHOULD KNOW WHAT TIME HE LEAVES WORK. EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW WHERE HER MAN IS! and It's not my man i don't trust it's the hoes and bitches out there that I don't trust. Am done with this convo so just take what I said and don't reply.. kool.

[bootycamp4me]

nevertheless, I miss her soo much I want to be with her this is so hard ! argh

[Demi_love]

i know right! It's hard but its worth it right?

[bootycamp4me]

I think so. I think she thinks so. She is so totally awesome in so many ways.

[Demi_love]

:) good for you