Hey pal, I've been in that position and have had some pretty bad experiences messing around in that domain, but I'll give you the advice I've learnt from experience.
You're not a bad person or defective in any way if you can't be as dominant as SHE wants, you're just being you, and that's totally fine. You don't HAVE to be what she wants, there are other people that will accept you just as you are.
Not ALL GIRLS love a dominant guy. Many do, but not all.
Make sure you share your feelings about it with her. If she's understanding and cares for you, she may want to help you along with it, as we can all learn.
I'm naturally pretty dominant, but apparently still not dominant enough for my wife, lol, so yeah, it's tricky. Just be yourself.
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Imagine yourself as the captain, and her as your first mate. Trust her, value her input, be willing to listen if she has something to say, but don't require it of her, be confident enough to lead the relationship, make decisions and have her be a part of it. Don't ask her all the time what she wants, try to understand what she needs, and what you need, and make it happen.
dominance is hard to learn.
Sure you can learn some tricks and such to make you "act" more dominant. But true dominance is natural. Some people are born dominant some are more submissive... of course you can always learn to act opposite to the way you instinctually feel but honestly, you'll be happier in the role you naturally take versus the role you or your girlfriend "thinks" you should take.
Lolz. Like sexually dominant? Cuz that's an easy fix...
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