How do I tell my boyfriend I'm on my period?

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Okay I'm 20 and have never had a boyfriend in my life. I'm really shy and get nervous and am pretty embarrassed about this issue. I've slept over at his house plenty of times. And there has been a few when I have been on my period but this was before he started fingering me and I'm a virgin so it never really came up. Anyway the last month things have gotten more heated. We said no sex till marriage but he does touch me down there and sometimes we sleep almost naked anyway I'm not planning to be spending the night there until the weekend which I will be done. But in the mean time sometimes when I go over we go to his room and fool around and I'm really nervous if he wants to stick his hand down my pants and I have to say stop I'm on my period. Plus I'm really nervous to even tell him I am. So if this happens what's the best way to tell him? And do you think he'll be weirded out or anything?

soneoak · Accepted Answer

Um, why are you nervous about talking to him if you're at the sexual part of things? Isn't that a little rushed?

Hmm yep you seem to be pretty new to the relationship thing. Usually people would be a lot more comfortable with talking, speaking their mind, having a plan for what they want in the future and setting rules to make sure that future comes to pass.

Remaining virgin til marriage is an IDEAL, like a "Dream". Not everyone makes it, but it's pretty worth it if you can hold on to it (like getting into medical school or building a successful company). They all take planning, communication, rules that help ensure the dream come true that you both can agree on and ENFORCE for each other (e. g. NEVER both without underpants off, it one has it off, the other got to keep it on or something like that). And guys are pretty retarded about that til they reach about 25 years old or so (brain development theory).

You should be focusing a bit more on the communication aspect, the respect for each other's sensitive topics (so you would know that you both respect each other when you talk about stuff like health, diarrhoea, needing pads, feeling grumpy, bad mood, blah blah blah, wanting to explore some stuff, trying new things etc).

Those things take time, all that sexy stuff usually waits until you've got those established.

People with more relationship experience usually get those stuff down fast and them BAM go into the sexual stuff... or they're not into the relationship thing and just in it for sex.

It should' be just about the sex of course, you'd want to figure out how to enjoy other aspects of life like sports hobby, or other stuff you do together (e. g., both go canoing or something)

You're going a little off the standard path here. Just so ya know =P.

zorro8888 · Accepted Answer

You: " Hey babe... I'm on my period" Him: " I knew it since the moment you came in  **Release the emergency chocolate and begins cuddling procedure.

SammyGurl · Accepted Answer

Don't be embarrassed in the least. Just come right out and tell him your monthly visitor is in town for the week and dowdy want to be disturbed. Tell him you're uncomfortable with his hand down there right now.

You could do what I do, if you can comfortably wear a tampon rather than a pad. He can play a little on the outside only make you feel good and help ease cramps too. Unless he's grossed out about it if he is he can wait until you are finished.

I'd expect a guy who's serious enough with me to play around with my girly parts (vagina) to be mature enough to deal with my period as well. So don't hide the fact from him, he's going to figure it out himself sooner or later.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Okay wait, so how long habe you been with this guy? Youve never told him about you being on your period, never mentioned it? Im assuming not very long. This concerns me because if you can't even tell him that without being scared how is it that you guys already have these plans about no sex til marriage? You guys are talking about marriage but yet you can't even let him knkw you're on your period? Wow. Just wow. I can't.
you're approacing this relationship entirely opposite of what you should be doing. Sounds like you're not very compfortable with guy if u can't even say that. Geez.

MaskedSanity · Accepted Answer

Tell him you're bleeding from the vagina.

There's really nothing to be embarrassed about, it's a natural thing that happens every month and every guy is aware of it.

If he gets all freaked out about it, it's on him. I imagine he's roughly your age, so he should be mature enough about the subject.

beeturner · Answer

Just tell him straight out that you're on your period... Otherwise you can use hints like it's "that time of the month" or something along those lines... Guys know that girls get periods, and it's honestly nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about, so try to not stress about it too much :)

DanteRules · Answer

the way i see it, he's you man and it shouldn't be a big deal when you on your flow. just tell him. trust me he'll take note and either consciously or unconsciously calculate your red robot days for himself.

kheserthorpe · Answer

If he's reaching in that direction, just say 'not there for a couple days' and move them somewhere else. If he freaks out, well that's his problem to deal with it. He's gonna have to learn.

Anonymous · Answer

I just honestly say "I'm on my period". For me, it's not a big deal, it's something I talk about with my girl friends, so why shouldn't I talk about it with my boyfriend? Not to mention, I tend to have bad PMS, so it's just natural to talk/complain about lol. It's not a secret girls have periods. But you said you're shy so maybe be less blunt. Just tell him "it's that time of the month" or something and don't sweat it.

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

Guys are aware that girls have their periods. You just tell him.

DodgersGM · Answer

Just tell him straight up in whatever words you're comfortable using.

You know you have a period, he knows you have a period; everyone knows you have a period. It really doesn't need to be a huge ordeal, and I'm sure he won't make it into one.

madhatters4 · Answer

just tell him. that's really all there is to do. if you guys are starting to be physical before he goes down that way just mention that you are on your period. every woman has a period so it shouldn't be weird to him

amybeelicious · Answer

Its a normal part of life. Nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed of. I tell my fiance I'm out of commission for a week and he gets the hint and goes lol aww OK. Its as simple as that..

In-sight-ful · Answer

Just tell him he needs to keep his hands above the waist for a few days, he should get the hint, but if he's doesn't just flat out tell him it's that time of the month.

Findingmyway · Answer

Periods are a normal part of life and guys are fully aware of that. So just tell him. Its all good :-)

Rahdle · Answer

He'll understand. All guys know it happens monthly so it's only a matter of time that it happens while your with him. Just tell him be careful it's shark week. He'll understand

jayyyjayyy · Answer

Just tell him. Guys know girls have periods you're the one being weird about it.

TadCurious · Answer

It's easy for me as a guy to say you shouldn't be embarrassed, but really it's just a normal part of life. It's not like he doesn't know you have periods, and he shouldn't be freaked out by it.

FistSlaminElite · Answer

Just be like "well I'm on my period so I need you to be extra cuddly" , haha if he's smart like I was he'll keep extra chocolate and money for more just waiting for your time, to , you know, tame the beast

SweetNovella · Answer

Babe, I'm menstrating… lol maybe not that subtle if you're not that comfortable.

Anonymous · Answer

It's normal once you tell him. He will remember it which days to avoid. There is nothing to be embarrassed of instead. He will like to be more care taking during those days. I am sure he already can smell that oestrogen whenever you are on period.

Jumaru138 · Answer

That's normal, you shouldn't be nervous telling him. It's nature.

theCatcherintheRye · Answer

Just tell him you are not feeling well. He'll understand.

Anonymous · Answer

If he goes to, just gently move his hand out the way and say sorry, it's that time. That's what I do anyway, and nobody ever really minded it.

Anonymous · Answer

Bah just tell him there's a crime scene in there  Then air some of that odour his way lol see what he says

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