I was taught by my mom from a very young age to save my apologies if I don't mean to back them up with actions because they're useless otherwise. I've thought that way since.
This is probably why I don't mind people not saying sorry to me and why I actually much prefer it. Spoken apologies in and of themselves are actually pretty useless; there are those who have too much pride to apologize but show through their actions that they know they were wrong and that they're sorry even if they don't say it out loud. I much prefer them over those who just say sorry for the sake of saying it.
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I need "I'm sorry" followed by an explanation... then I need time to think about whether I accept the apology or not... if the person was actually DOING something to make me feel better, that would of course be in their favor. but "I'm sorry" on it's own does nothing for me.. sometimes I'll forgive someone who says "I'm sorry" but I won't forget that that person can potentially hurt me and I'll keep a head count of all their fuck ups...
Kinda reminds me of this:
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They know it doesn't fix everything but some people are genuine in saying it because they really feel bad about what they had done.
Some people however are apethetic and just say sorry because they think that is what you do after you did something wrong but they don't care to say it.
Kids think saying sorry automatically fixes things though wether it was a forced sorry or a from the heart sorry.
simply because sorry is the most they can offer they dont really owe you anything more. in my experience if i say something that offends a girl accidently she gets unreasonably upset. for example say they have a bad hairstyle or they favorite clothes dont look as great as i thought and i told them. theyd get pissed id say sorry but no its not enough. it should be.
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Insufficient mr. rogers watching.
My five year old loves 'daniel tiger's neighbourbood' which is a mr. rogers spin off.
They have a fine song about how saying sorry is the first step. The second step is to see if there's something you can do to make it better.ok bare with me here ok... imagine someone giving you a glass plate and tells you to throw it on the ground ok? you do so they tell you to say sorry to the plate. then they tell you to put it together again? you try to but it doesn't fit perfectly anymore. .. sometimes sorry doesn't help be careful when you use it. to many sorrys become meaningless.
Well, it depends. Did that person punch the other intentionally or was it an accident? Even so, I'm not sure if I'm correctly understanding your question. Of course an "I'm sorry" can't fix everything, but sometimes it's the best that person can do. Especially if it's something that that person is struggling with internally. The other person can't fix that even if they are the one to cause the problem.
I have taken "I'm sorry" but not at heart, just leave it there. I only truly accept an apology if the person offers a solution or something else along with it.
I guess saying "I'm sorry" only, means they do not really regret what they did. They may understand that you are hurt by something they did, yet they don't sympathize with whatever it's going on.It's just the way it is! I don't know why but it's been like that since I don't know when. Lol. "Sorry" doesn't fix anything that is broken but it can make us feel better to forgive when someone apologize.
because it's the first word that comes to their minds basicaly, when they want to make-up for sth ;-)
Sorry, I am not sure what to reply to this question. So I don't think I will post anything of actual value.
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ReallyIt's the first step to forgiveness. It doesn't solve the problem but it lets the other person know that they acknowledge that what they did was wrong.
Did you know you're strongly advised to not say sorry after a car accident? It can be taken as an admission of guilt or liability and used against you during the insurance process.
Worse yet is how politicians say "I take full responsibitiy" and then dont accept of expect any consequences. they say it to close the issue and move on, thats it.
You know what's f'd up? If they act like nun happened. Thats when the straw breaks the camel's back...
sorry doesn't fix everything. but the offended person shouldn't be a bitch about it...
Even worse is when people get pissed that you don't magically and instantly get over it after they say sorry
It doesn't solve automatically. But it is an important step to solve.
Just out of curiosity what do you expect the person to say rather than apologizing even if it is not genuine. Like would you rather them ignore the problem and not apologize
we are told as kids once you say sorry everything will be ok which is BS.
I hate you!
Sorrrryyyyyit doesn't, it's just the way of pussies/cowards.
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