So my bf (of 4-5weeks.not good with numbers and dates) and I had a major argument 3 days ago. It was more of an argument of him ranting at me because I upset him so much.
the argument:
He wanted me to send a picture of us together to one of my good friends because he said he was going to do the same thing to his friend, and this isn't really my thing at all. but I agreed to do it. When he told me he did it I thought he was just joking and didn't take it seriously so I told him I sent a pic to my friend as well. Later, he asked me if I really did it, and I just smiled, and he got very upset b/c he found out I didn't actually do it. I lied. He felt betrayed. Then he didn't talk to me and was on his phone when I was sitting in front of him. Silence so I told him I was going home and was about to leave the restaurant, and he immediately got up and left. Then we got into an argument, and for the first time he cussed. He didn't label me or anything, but he just dropped f words here and there. I never saw him that angry before. I didn't feel threatened or anything. He was just extremely upset and mad. He was more mad b/c I acted immature and told him I was going to go home when he drove in rush hour to see me after stressful work. He didn't like the "stunt" I pulled.
We didn't talk for two days, and last night I called him to see how he was doing. He said he's already got stuff on his plate besides me and that I was rather a distraction to him right now. He said he won't put much effort into our relationship anymore and said that I could/should leave him when I want to. He told me not to get surprised if he doesn't act the way he did before. (super romantic and caring). He said if I hadn't called him this night he might not have talked to me for weeks. At the end, he said, "I'll talk to you next time".i'm confused.
I don't want to just stop talking to him, but I feel that he needs space.We're supposed to go on a mini vacation next weekend..Don't know what to do?
the argument:
He wanted me to send a picture of us together to one of my good friends because he said he was going to do the same thing to his friend, and this isn't really my thing at all. but I agreed to do it. When he told me he did it I thought he was just joking and didn't take it seriously so I told him I sent a pic to my friend as well. Later, he asked me if I really did it, and I just smiled, and he got very upset b/c he found out I didn't actually do it. I lied. He felt betrayed. Then he didn't talk to me and was on his phone when I was sitting in front of him. Silence so I told him I was going home and was about to leave the restaurant, and he immediately got up and left. Then we got into an argument, and for the first time he cussed. He didn't label me or anything, but he just dropped f words here and there. I never saw him that angry before. I didn't feel threatened or anything. He was just extremely upset and mad. He was more mad b/c I acted immature and told him I was going to go home when he drove in rush hour to see me after stressful work. He didn't like the "stunt" I pulled.
We didn't talk for two days, and last night I called him to see how he was doing. He said he's already got stuff on his plate besides me and that I was rather a distraction to him right now. He said he won't put much effort into our relationship anymore and said that I could/should leave him when I want to. He told me not to get surprised if he doesn't act the way he did before. (super romantic and caring). He said if I hadn't called him this night he might not have talked to me for weeks. At the end, he said, "I'll talk to you next time".i'm confused.
I don't want to just stop talking to him, but I feel that he needs space.We're supposed to go on a mini vacation next weekend..Don't know what to do?
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