Should I be worried about my boyfriend talking to females on world of Warcraft?

[Anonymous]

Should I be worried about my boyfriend talking to females on Wow? I feel like maybe he might be starting a relationship with some of them and I wouldn't know? He's assured me that he doesn't really speak with them and if he does they talk about WoW only. he said he doesn't take the time to get to know them, he talks to his online friends like crap he swears at them and puts them down, he told me he'd speak to the females like that too if they are crap at the game. I don't know what to think, I feel very paranoid that he might leave me for a female he met on wow, I don't know if I'm just being silly... I need some advice. We have been together for 5 years and he started playing wow when we started dating 5 years ago, he has done nothing wrong before or now to make me think he's chasing after other girls he doesn't exchange emails or phone numbers with them.

[Arletty]

My boyfriend and I of 7 years just broke up because I discovered he'd met a 19yr girl through Warcraft, on the other side of the country.  We own a house together that we bought 4 years ago.  He maintained for a while that they were only friends but they talked every day for 5 months close to 8 hours a day including hundreds of texts and after finding out that he secretly starting talking to her again 2 days after promising me he'd stop I moved out.

Couple weeks later he started up with me again telling me that they are truly friends, that was two months ago, so we slowly but surely started to "date" again and soon he'd ask me to stay over here or there.  I just found out that during these past few months he had also started an intimate relationship with her, they used pet names, etc.  Now that she is becoming needy, and it's more like a real relationship he wants to slow it down and for me to come back.

My advice...be VERY careful with Warcraft.  Girls who play that aren't already in relationships are only on to get attention.  I actually mentioned my discomfort with the relationship when he first met her but I was trying to be the good girlfriend and not nag.  Now I'm 30 and have to start all over.

[Cool-Relax]

If you make an issue out of it, you'll be the one to push him away, not the girls he talks to online. It shows that you're insecure in your relationship, and that you don't trust him. If he's never done anything wrong, you really have no reason to think that something is going on with any of the girls he talks to. Unless your boyfriend does something that you can actually prove, you should try to let go of your paranoia.

[GirlsLie]

Don't worry, most of them probably aren't even actually girls lol

Seriously though it's ok to feel insecure over small things, it happens. But if he's never did anything to make you question him then don't worry about it.

I play a lot of games and if you're a girl the attention you receive from it online is never ending, they probably never even think twice about your boyfriend, if that helps any.

[WhatIsThisIDont]

I doubt it. This is kinda funny but most of the girls on WoW are the wives or girlfriends of guys that play too much. The girls started playing to spend time with their boyfriends/husbands and then got hooked. I wouldn't worry about them though. If he speaks using ventrilo or team speak then make sure its on speakers instead of headphones so you can hear them talking. Shouldnt have to worry about it though because WoW is just a game to most people and they just want somethign fun to do when theyre on it. I've never known of anyone hooking up on WoW and I played it since 2006.

[Asker]

Earlier today he was talking to two random girls who asked to join his guild, he's and officer or he was the creator of the guild, he spent at least over an hour talking to them, about what I have no clue. when I question him about it he gets p*ssed because he doesn't think I trust him, which I don't always do. He tells me who he talks to doesn't matter to me. but it does. I know who he talks to on vent, I'm not concerned about that.

[rawr123]

no one I know of socializes through wow except to have a buddy to play with. chances are he's not even gonna know where the girls live. you shouldnt worry

[Asker]

Its not the fact of knowing where they live, but its the fact that I don't know if he's building a relationship with any of them. he's told me before that I'm stupid to think it, but he's on there constantly talking to so many different people. Plus his friend (in real life) met his girlfriend on there and flies out to see her. if it can happen to his best friend it can happen to him too.

[rawr123]

Well socializing is just part of the gameplay, and that's so rare that someone meets a girlfriend/boyfriend through wow

[Anonymous]

it's very unlikely that anything would come of him talking to a female on WoW especially since he's already with you. don't worry yourself because as you said he hasn't done anything to make you think otherwise in the past

[Asker]

He says things that make me think otherwise, like "It doesn't matter who I talk to on here or it shouldn't matter to me" but it matters to me because I don' exactly want him to go and hook up with some chick on there. I know it doesn't seem likely that it would happen, but crap happens all the time.

[Opinion Owner]

Try to be confident in who you are and why you guys are together in the first place...it sounds bad but most of the females who play WoW are definitely not uh super models ..so you don't have to worry about him leaving you for that reason lol

[Asker]

Its hard for me to be confident abt our relationship when he gets annoyed at me for askingwho he is talking to on there.. like earlier he added to chicks to his guild without having them apply. Which is weird to me, seeing as everyone goes thru a process, which makes me think somethings up..

[Hollipop]

Honestly I play WoW with my boyfriend and the community isn't a very chatty make friends one. If you really want to know though get on his account and check if he has any characters on the Moonguard server, if he does he's probably in it for the erotic roleplay.

[I_am_repulsive]

Nah. there are only a handful of females that actually play WOW. Of those females, make 1/10 are actually female

[Anonymous]

idk. its hard cause its jus WOW. but I don't think its a good idea for him to be talking to girls. Id watch that.

[Anonymous]

i think the bigger problem is that you're given half a decade of your life to a grown man who plays shoot-em-up games.

[JustinPrice]

They are probably dudes or really fat chicks...