Guys, my boyfriend makes comments about other women?

[CassieKnight]

I have tried so hard not to let this get to me and now I finally need other opinions to set me straight. Am I being dramatic or sensible? EVERY time my boyfriend and I watch a movie or go somewhere he always makes a comment about other women. He'll do the whistle signifying that he thinks they're sexy, or he'll say "damn" or "this is my new favorite movie now." He knows that it bothers me/makes me feel self conscious but he keeps doing it! I've never made comments about other guys in front of him and will never do that. I get so mad when he does this and I feel as if I'm not good enough. It's so rude and I'm at my breaking point because it happens all the time

[Anonymous]

This is a difference between men and women that will probably never be resolved or, for that matter, understood. When I find a woman attractive, it does not by any means imply that I would have feelings for that woman, or have any intent to develop those. I'm simply heterosexual and find attractive women attractive. Don't blame me, blame mother nature.
Why I feel the need to point it out? To be quite honest, I'm not sure. Just to tease, I guess. It IS completely meaningless.

Women then take offense because they think because the woman on tv looks better than them (even if that's not necessarily the case), it must mean that the guy thinks you don't look good enough. And that's where you get it wrong. Besides I'm not with you for your looks, regardless of how pretty you may be - I am with you because we match on a personality level. When we are both 60 neither of us are going to be anywhere near as pretty as we are today, and I will still look at attractive women. I am, after all, just a man.

[Anonymous]

I'd never say stuff like that in front of a girlfriend.

I might think it, but I'd never say it.

Best case scenario, your boyfriend is an insensitive idiot. Worst case, he's intentionally trying to make you feel worthless as a control tactic.

[CassieKnight]

I know! Is it worth a breakup? I don't know

[Opinion Owner]

If he doesn't stop doing it when you ask him to, then there's a reason for that, and that reason ranges from bad to worse. If he doesn't stop, dump him.

[OlderAndWiser]

How much time do you have invested in this relationship and what are you getting out of it?

[truthbeknown]

It is almost like he is constantly reminding you that there are other women out there for him should you fail at being his girlfriend. Maybe he is not getting the attention he wants from you and feels some sort of need to point out these other women to make you jealous? Whatever it is, it is a jerky thing to do and not right. Some guys are just idiots and are wired wrong from the factory, you know?

[BadApple69]

You are right… it’s very rude. If it was only at tv actresses I wouldn’t be that worried. If it’s to people on the streets, then that’s really crossing a line. Either way you should say something. Communications is key in any relationship. To me the rudeness and disregard for your feeling is the biggest issue. Think about having a serious talk with him and if that doesn’t work, think about finding someone who would properly respect you.

[Song4TheBroken]

Tell him that it upsets you and that he needs to cut it out IMMEDIATELY. I can relate because my ex used to this too and it upset me. I think it's a very disrespectful and disgusting thing to do to your partner. I just can't understand people who do this type of thing, it's as if they're intentionally trying to hurt you. I'd never even dream of doing it to someone I love (or at least someone I really like).

[HappyDominant17]

Honestly i do not understand people in general, maybe i'm just far more advanced.. Listen up missy.

He says she's sexy. Next time you see a fit guy on tv, say holly fucking shit, id ride him. And do not look at your boyfriend. If he then goes cough, or laughs or says something, he doesn't like it and its effected him. Now he has a choice, to feel like shit when you say it, or to stop saying it in the hope you will to.
Sorted, that's all from me folks.

Tell your friends!

[slatyb]

If he keeps doing it after you asked him not to, then he's not much of a friend. You deserve someone who cares about your feelings, not someone who ignores them. DTMFA.

[FierceBrosnan]

Yeah that's kind of a dick thing to do on his part. It's one thing to joke and another to really mean it. Remind him of how it makes you feel and talk it out. He just may not fully grasp the "why" of how it bothers you.

[Anonymous]

There's this theory about behavior like this. So after about five years the woman becomes completely sexually disinterested in the man. (This is true 80% of the time). To counter this men will employ tactic used to create competition anxiety (the competition being other girls) so that the woman will requalify for him by favorable behaviors. This is usually done throughout the relationship.

[LibraPisces66]

Please, find a guy who treasures you, respects you, and cares how you feel. You sound like such wonderful girl. You deserve it.

[DeltaDanner]

Tell him off, let him know it's not cool. I HATE when my SO does stuff like that! Tell him you don't like it and get your point across