My boyfriend doesn't want me to wear makeup at work because he thinks guys will compliment/flirt with me?

[Anonymous]

This morning I woke up and got ready for work, My boyfriend saw I was wearing foundation, winged eyeliner and mascara and matte lipstick
He completely freaked out and screamed "take off the makeup now! If u don't I'll drag you to the sink!" I got really scared and I asked him "why are you like this all of a sudden? I didn't wear makeup to work until recently?" Then he said "coz I know guys from your work will approach you/flirt with you!" (Which is completely untrue)

As I washed off the makeup off I said "babe don't you remember!! The first time I met you I had NO makeup on so obviously you think I'm hot without makeup" at that point he walked out of the room and slammed the door :( at work he texted me "I don't want you to leave your hair down please tie it up in a neat ponytail for work" I didn't reply back to him

why did he react this way?

I think he is insecure

Your boyfriend is fucked in the head

[HappyDominant17]

Extreme jealousy and very insecure. He thinks he's doing the right thing for himself by making you listen, but he's making himself obviously look less attractive and more like a scared little boy. Honestly theirs a very thin line between being "fucked in the head" jealousy and obsessively, and being insecure/jealous. If you let this persist and you don't like it, he will continue to get worse and worse, if he smokes weed, or drinks daily.. it makes it worse. (Smoking daily, not saying "weed fucks people up" but it messed me up exactly like this for a couple of years. Anyway. To the point. Do not let this persist, tell him you love him or bla bla but you cannot deal with the possessiveness, and if he really loves you he would trust you to tell other guys to go fuck themselves. Just make sure if he ever is physically violent towards you due to this shit, you let it happen, cower, whatever, do not fight back. And then that next day, get the fuck out of there, call the cops, call your hardest male friend/s and stay with them for a couple weeks. Just be safe miss, men can go totally fucking insane over this type of thing, don't be around when it happens.

[foxloversi]

I voted A before reading the option B. I'm definitely for B, sorry for ruining your poll :)

This guy of yours is a moron. An insecure jerk that will never stop bugging you. I wouldn't waste a second more with him. Break up ASAP.

Oh, I *hate* jealous people, I guess it's pretty obvious. :D

[macncheese]

That's a little much. There's a limit to how insecure you can be, and after a point, you just cross the line and sound deranged. That's what he sounds like now. Not a pleasant person to have as a boyfriend. If my boyfriend EVER tried to tell me what to or not to wear, I'd get pissed

[Alynaresque]

Red flags. Red flags. That is terrifying. If my boyfriend of 4 years ever tried getting upset with me wearing makeup out I would probably break up with him. It is crazy stupid to get upset over something like that. Threatening to drag you to the sink? Fuck off.

[GirlsLie]

You're both fucked in the head if this is even real. He's fucked up for telling a woman how to dress like she's a child and you're fucked up for staying more then 1 minute in that relationship after that happened.

[Asker]

Yeah it is real it happened this morning

[GirlsLie]

I don't understand why women listen to men like that, you should have kept your make up on and went to work the way you wanted to, once you give him that power over you, he's going to continue to abuse it.

[9mfeo]

He's insecure and fucked in the head. So much jealousy. Like, can you even live your life? I feel like you should leave him before he becomes even more emotionally abusive.

[xxxHolicxxx]

I don't mean to scare you but this to me sounds like a guy who will turn abusive. His actions show he thinks he owns you. Like you said yourself, he scared you and that is something your partner should NEVER do. Please, get out while you can.

[Klaatu51]

definetely a jealous guy...

and by the way, wether u were make-up or not... guys that lke u, and they r not shy... might give u a compliment basically

[dipta]

Klaatus is on to something here.
I doubt you've to wear make-up for guys to come up and flirt with you - your boyfriend isn't paying you any compliment. Besides, it's a work setting. How far does he want to control you?

[Tokana]

You must listen to your supreme commander and do everything to make him happy.

No just kidding.. he's Loco and insecure about himself.

[zombiebabe]

damn sorry to tell you this but he sounds fucked in the head

[LionelMerelGlisem]

He's jealous because he think you could attract other guys.

[Kayla_burke]

He obviously loves you to ask you not to look good so other guys don't hit on you

[Alynaresque]

If this is your mind set now, I certainly hope you grow up a little bit before dating. Threats aren't love. Raging because someone else might find you attractive isn't love. It is jealousy and after a point it can get terrifying and abusive.

[Alynaresque]

I only say this for safety reasons. I've been in abusive relationships with your mindset, and they are terrible, terrifying and difficult to break free from.

[MrDetermined]

He is just jealous and insecure not fucked in the head.

[HoneyButterCup525]

Leave him ASAP!!

[HoneyButterCup525]

I actually got a little pist reading it he is such a whimp.

[Mentality]

What a dick...