My boyfriend hates that I wear makeup?

[Anonymous]

So in the beginning when we started dating I didn't wear any makeup at all and he would say that I am cute or beautiful. Then I decided to start wearing some makeup because I have some pimples and freckles on my cheeks and I wanted to have a flawless face. My boyfriend says that he knows that I am wearing makeup and that I look like a clown. But other people have been commenting on my skin and saying how flawless it looks. I don't even use a lot of makeup. I just wear benefit primer, mac foundation, and loreal blur concealer and that's it. I don't wear eyeliner or lipstick because it looks ridiculous on me. Sometimes I would curl my lashes and apply mascara but those times are very rare. I also groom my eyebrows but my guy says that my eyebrows were fine before. I wear makeup not to impress guys, my boyfriend is always like "i don't like makeup, so who are you trying to impress?" I know he doesn't like makeup but I wear it anyways because I do it for myself you know? But lately I felt like he wants to dump me because I started wearing makeup and stuff, what should I do?

[tashasei]

It sounds like this guy is insecure/jealous of attention you may get from guys, and insensitive. I would tell him "I wear makeup because it makes me feel confident about myself. I don't wear it for you nor anyone else." Tell him he's being disrespectful. Try to tell him your side of the story.

If that better anything, I would dump him. A boy like this will not just stop at the makeup, he will start picking at other things about you, your actions and your life as things progress as well. You need a guy that will at least voice his opinion with respect and sensitivity, not by calling you a clown. And if you are really most happy about yourself with makeup on, and he can't accept that, he doesn't deserve you.

[Mouth268]

Currently having that issue with my wife, I've always hated makeup even on my siblings, however my wife has started and it's causing fights because like the above, it makes her feel confident about herself, so basically your saying having a husband who is willing to "hold you down" does not make you feel confident in yourself, when all I need is a smile from you and I feel like I can conquer the world. Also if he truly loves you he will hate it more because it feels like you're hiding from him.

[Cmasterson]

I think he just isn't use to the change, and it's for another reason, perhaps he thinks that you took a liking to make up you're trying to do it for someone else.. if he dumps you over wearing make up it's honestly his insecurities. He should want you to feel as beautiful as you are make up or not. Make up literally does not AFFECT his life in any way shape or form, and it's not like your morph into a whole nother person haha.

[jennifer_bloom]

He might like you better without make up or be worried you are sending the message to guys that you are still looking for a partner or that guys will want to pursue things with you and not respect your relationship. My cousin is married and her husband gets upset when she wears pretty clothes cause he is worried about guys hitting on her.

[That-Guy]

" My boyfriend says that he knows that I am wearing makeup and that I look like a clown."

- whoa, why would you put up with this? Are you kidding me? I swear if a guy ever spoke to my daughter like that, i'd tear him a new one physically and emotionally.

"But lately I felt like he wants to dump me because I started wearing makeup and stuff, what should I do? "

- if this guy dumps you for wearing make up? Great, a relationship that will crumble under something so trivial isn't going to last.

[Mesonfielde]

I think he is just being honest. If she looks like a clown with makeup on, which most girls do when they wear eye-shadow, it is better to be honest about it.

[Mesonfielde]

I sympathize with your boyfriend because you are ruining the way you look with fake crap that makes you look terrible. He obviously dislikes the mascara for a reason, and foundation/concealer hides your freckles even though freckles are cute. Of course he doesn't find the fakelashes and fakeskin attractive.

[Asker]

I don't wear fake lashes, eyeliner, lipstick or anything like that

[Mesonfielde]

You wear tons of foundation and mascara.

[ThisDudeHere]

"commenting on my skin and saying how flawless it looks. "
Your skin doesn't look flawless. Your face-mask does.

"because I do it for myself you know?"
Then why are you so worked up about what others think about your makeup? Kind of defeats the purpose of 'wearing it for yourself' (which I don't believe in).

Personally I don't really like makeup myself because it's kind of deceitful. But if you want to 'wear it for yourself' by all means but that's not my business to compliment anymore. I compliment only real faces (ones that I can distinguish to be real).
Either way, your boyfriend has a preference for no makeup. You either roll with it or you don't.

[archiz]

Eh it makes her feel more confident.
Of course the opinions of others matter to her.
What she meant is she isn t doing it to impress any guy she s just doing it to boost her confidence and make her feel better.
Plus she s barely wearing any.
I for instance tend to have pimples on my face during univ a lot due to streee lack of sleep bad food habit etc..
So when I go out and wesr makeup I feel rejuvenated, it s like I changed mood and feel better.

[quinoaflakes]

If you want to wear makeup, do it. If he doesn't like it and make's you feel bad for wearing it, break up with him! That doesn't sound very supportive and seems rather controlling. You can wear and do whatever you want. If it make's you happy and comfortable, then you do you. Your boyfriend sound's rude. Don't let him tell you what to do with your face. It's your choice!

[dogbert444]

It's all in the eye of the beholder. I prefer seeing a girl wear no makeup. That's just my personal preference.

It is up to you to be how you feel best. If you feel better wearing a little makeup, then do so. If your guy has an issue, it is his problem, not yours. "Who are you trying to impress?" The answer is "Myself"!!

If he dumps you for this petty reason, you'll soon realise you are better off without him. Find a guy that supports you in your quest to look your best.

[BellePepper]

It sounds like he's being a jealous little asshole. Tell him it's your time your money and your energy. If you want to use those things to look nice for yourself, it's YOUR decision and he can either accept it or move on.

Honestly what kind of boyfriend puts his own preferences ahead of respecting your personal decisions? Does that sound like a good long term situation?

[apple24]

What kinda of mac foundation do u use? Is it good? Also, I want try the blue concelar lol ! Now, to answer your question maybe this guy is insecure that u looking hotter or maybe he truly hates make-up. I think you need to tell him that u wear it for you and not for him and he doesn't like it he can shove his natsy attiude up his ass. He sounds like an anyoning person to be with! Don't give him power over how u feel thats just not fair for u!

[archiz]

True to that!

[apple24]

@archiz Thannk u

[Anonymous]

Honestly, woman to woman, if he doesn't respect your decision, he isn't worth it. I am not a feminist, but he shouldn't be that controlling of what you are wearing. Although, you still want to save the relationship. He is probably just jealous and doesn't get why you are trying to look good, when he doesn't like it. He might think you are trying to attract other guys. I would tell him why you like it and why you wear it. He might understand.

[dakraziest]

Its time you sat down and have a talk with him over this. Explain it to him that you wear it because you want to its not to show yourself off or get attention from others
Im sure once he hears your reasoning he will calm down and accept you

[Lava107]

Dump him girl! If he doesn't respect your decisions and what you do for yourself he doesn't deserve you. You should do whatever makeup and use whatever products you like because it's your face! He shouldn't get to make you feel bad about it.

[Tha_Girl]

Try just wearing concealer and blending it really well or just using a really strong face/acne wash. And if you really want to use makeup, let your bed know that you spent time on doing your face and his insults really hurt. Hope this helped!

[JuicyBrain]

If you feel your freedom is more important than your relationship, then keep putting on makeup. If you feel your relationship is worth making such a small sacrifice, then stop putting on makeup.

[mishiii]

Most guys intelligent guys hate makeup. When I go on a real date I don't wear much makeup at all

[Complicated-Soul]

I would stop wearing makeup.
I like eye liner tho, that would be hard to give up.

[Anonymous]

If he don't like it don't wear make up, it's really a big deal?

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend sounds strange!