If your girlfriend cut off her hair without telling you, would you break up with her?

[9mfeo]

Gentlemen, if your girlfriend decided to cut off her hair and didn't ask you what you thought about it first, would you break up with her? Assuming, of course, that you find women with short hair unattractive? Discuss.

[Transigence]

Well, I don't find short or no hair unattractive, but just differently-attractive, so it's hard for me to contemplate your question the way you want me to.

But I can think of few things less important than how you do your hair. It's your hair -- I don't own you. Do with your body what you will.

Now, if you had your vagina sewn shut, that would be a bit different. I wouldn't pretend to have any right to tell you what you can and cannot do with your body, but I also wouldn't pretend to be interested in a relationship with you either.

[9mfeo]

That sounds painful. I doubt people actually have that done in the modern and progressive parts of the world.

[Transigence]

@Asker
I'm not saying it does happen -- I'm saying that... hair is such a non-issue to me. Women, to me, seem to obsess over it like it's going to make or break a relationship (with me).

If it is that important, you have to ask yourself... was he dating you, or your hair?

[9mfeo]

I know, right?

[BertMacklinFBI]

I also like short hair so im all good. and no I wouldn't break up for that.

[9mfeo]

It's a silly reason to break up with someone.

[BertMacklinFBI]

its so stupid, like seriously that's so fucking... shallow!

[9mfeo]

And men accuse women of being more shallow. SMH. (Everyone is about equally shallow, in my opinion).

[BertMacklinFBI]

i will drink to that *raises glass* we're all equally shallow. I've seen girls say they won't date a guy who isn't taller than 6'1 and I've seen guys say they won't be with a girl who doesn't have boobs, ass, and a thin waist line. all shallow fucks! im so repulsed lol.

[9mfeo]

This is why I often say I had my dog's life. He doesn't have to worry about this bull.

[BertMacklinFBI]

your dog <3 you for it :)

[9mfeo]

I love him and he loves me. My puppy is my main man.

[BertMacklinFBI]

what breed?

[9mfeo]

He's a Sheltie!

[BertMacklinFBI]

ooh a Lassy dog :P I never learned the name of that breed until now, thanks! and thank you again hahaa.

[Nuqood]

Lassie was a rough collie, not a Shetland Sheepdog..

[BertMacklinFBI]

@nuqood my bad d00d lol

[MissHope]

Yeah well my ex was like " don't cut your hair, don't dye it, don't even think of doing something to it" we were fighting about this a lot and he get really upset when I talk to him about cutting it. Come on it's MY HAIR HE SHOULDN'T BE LIKE THIS.

[9mfeo]

Yeah, that's very controlling behaviour.

[MissHope]

He was controlling

[Esplorare]

This is a really great test to see if your boyfriend truly loves you or if his eyes and heart would wonder once you lose the superficial desirability...

[9mfeo]

I think so too.

[RationalLioness]

Wow, what? No. I wouldn't. That's like if my guy got a circumcision and I broke up with him... really?

[9mfeo]

Circumcision is a little longer lasting than a haircut, but yes, I agree.

[heavensgift2girls]

Yes I would break up with her. Hair is a major point of attraction for me. I would prefer she gain 50 pounds over cut her hair. If I did something to make her no longer attracted to me, then I would also suspect she would break up with me. Why would anyone remain with someone they aren't attracted to?

I am willing to make sacrifices to keep her happy, if she can't do this for me then it shows she clearly doesn't care about keeping me happy. There are plenty of girls that actually do care about keeping their man happy to choose from. She is free to do what she wants with her own body, but she is not entitled to a relationship with me.

[9mfeo]

That's... Intense.

[heavensgift2girls]

What is intense about it. Everyone cares about looks no matter what they say. Hair is simply more important to me, much like other physical features are more important to other people.

[9mfeo]

It's intense that you value physical appearance more than character in a relationship. Her having short hair (or gaining weight) doesn't change who she is as a person.

But of course, I will not tell you how to live your life, merely how I choose to live mine.

[RationalLioness]

It makes sense but it's also stupid, especially considering that she can can wear a wig or some women look beautiful with their hair cut short. I don't think a lot of guys understand how tiring and annoying it is to deal with long hair (having to wash/condition and then style it) yet expect their girls to do that for them. If she has to do that for him, he better be fucking perfect is all I'm saying.

Otherwise I would encourage her to find a better man.

[heavensgift2girls]

Physical attraction is crucial for every relationship, and there is nothing wrong with that. Instead you want to try and make anyone that admits to having any type of standard you don't agree with sound shallow. Like every other human I value both physical appearance and character in a relationship. It takes both of those to make a relationship work, not just one of them.

[heavensgift2girls]

@RationalLioness So a woman keeping her hair long is equal to a man being perfect? That is nonsense. There are many different types of sacrifices men and women make in a relationship. Asking a woman to keep her hair long isn't nearly as big as some of the sacrifices people go through.

[RationalLioness]

I didn't deny that physical attraction wasn't important. What I said was that it was an easy fix. You're being stupid and not comprehending what I'm saying. Big surprise.

If a guy wants her to have long hair which takes a lot of time to maintain and do, he better be worth it. And if he's not, then she should move on. And if she's the only one doing the sacrifice, that's not fair as well and I would encourage her to leave.

Grow up. That's probably why you're still single.

[heavensgift2girls]

@RationalLioness No, you said a guy had better be perfect. Not that he had better be worth it, or that he had better be making sacrifices as well. There was also no need to resort to insults.

[RationalLioness]

Stupid people annoy me. Are you ignorant of turn of phrases? Do I have to explain that as well?

If you had any sense, you would have understood that I was saying that if a woman had to deal with a selfish fool who wanted that from her--and who is apparently oblivious to how hard it is to deal with--that fool better have something to offer to demand something so small of her which could be fixed and has NOTHING to do with him. How many times am I going to have to say this?

I don't know what woman would put up with an unattractive troglodyte demanding that she keep her hair long for him because if she doesn't he will say manipulatively that that means she doesn't care about him because she doesn't want to keep herself the same FOR him when she wouldn't do the same to him.

I'm not attracted to bald men but if my boyfriend decided to shave his head, I wouldn't kick him to the curb.

Whatever. I now brand you a loser.

[heavensgift2girls]

Everyone has different tastes and standards. There are plenty of physical traits I would over look that a lot of men wouldn't. Hair is simply more important to me than other physical traits are. It isn't right to act like I am more shallow or superficial for having my own physical standards, that are actually easier for women to reach than the standards a lot of people have.

[9mfeo]

Personally I find facial features and body type more important for physical attraction, but do you.

[heavensgift2girls]

Those actually rank pretty low for me. I see guys ranking girls as 5's, and I am looking at the same girls and seeing 9's and 10's.

[Red_Arrow]

When I married my wife she had beautiful long hair which I loved. Later she decided it was too hard to take care of and went short. I would have preferred she keep the long hair, but it is her hair, her effort, her decision. Of course I did NOT break up with her. that would have been extremely immature.

[epiman94]

I wouldn't mind how it looks.
But a girlfriend doing that without telling me or getting my opinion would make me feel like she doesn't care about what I think. So I would find it hurtful, but its not enough of a reason for me to end the relationship.

[findingdreamland]

breaking up is a big reaction
if they broke up with me just because I cut my hair, then it would be better without them

[bomba78]

only a controlling psycho boyfriend would see this as a reason to break up...
It's her hair and her decision all the way.

[Counterclocking]

Yes, because short on a woman is a dealbreaker for me. Some people say it’s wrong for a guy to break up with a girl/woman for cutting her hair but I disagree with it 100%. If I had a girlfriend, I want one that has hair that’s long and straight and if she cut it like into a pixie cut, I’d break up with her in a second.

[PT1911]

No, that's a dumbass reason to break up with a girl

But I would most certainly vocalize my disagreement with it, especially with a pixie cut. I like women with long hair, its just plain feminine lol. Yeah hair cuts are necessary (female friends of mine constantly complain about split ends) but like I said, gotta have long hair.

[BigDog1989]

Think about it this way. Are you upset when your man spends money, that belongs to the both of you, without you first going to you.

You ever see that George Lopez episode where angie spent $1000 or whatever it was on a mud bath or whatever it's called and george is like, WHAT THE HELL, so they have a competition over who can spend the less.

[LuasO]

Well I think is a thing you need to share, because when I date a girl I like to do what she wants, so I ask what does she likes and stuff. So I think is normal to ask. To break up I dont know but is not nice to do it without asking.

[9mfeo]

Would you ask her every time you got a haircut?

[LuasO]

Only if Im going for a radical change, for example in my pic I have short now I am letting it grow because mi girlfriend likes long, if I were to cut it off I would tell her.

[aamy811]

Nope, it's just hair. I actually really like girls with short hair.

[singlegirl1992]

What a superficial reason to break up work someone.

[Nuqood]

Haha no, why would I do that? She can do whatever she wants, but no girl dating me would just go out and do it knowing I like long hair better.

I wouldn't dump her at all; I'm not a woman.

[9mfeo]

What if she prefers having short hair?

[Nuqood]

What does that matter? If she had long hair with me then I know she wouldn't just cut it off without first coming to me for approval. I know this because the type of women I date always care about what I think of them, and them asking "Do you like long hair on me?" (because no woman just asks upfront) would result me saying "Yes, I like long hair", and she'd think "dammit I don't want him to look at me like I'm gross".

Again, she can do what she wants to do; I won't leave her for cutting her hair since I don't own her hair, but I know already that no girl I'm with would just do that spontaneously.

[9mfeo]

I have never and will never date anyone who requires me to get his approval before I can make a decision.

[Nuqood]

I didn't say my approval was a requirement, and good to know that bit of redundant information. You need to work on your reading comprehension.

[9mfeo]

Dating the type of woman who would feel the need to seek your approval implies that you need to give your permission in order for her to make decisions.

[Nuqood]

No, I just date women who care about my opinion a little too much and care whether or not I find them attractive because they personally want to please me visually. It has nothing to do with me controlling anyone or making anyone feel obligated to seek my permission before making decisions. You're just projecting your own insecurities onto me at this point.

[zombiebabe]

i don't think its a valid reason to breakup... hair grows back

[as_gamer05]

Brother u just have to accept her that way... cuz if u love her... then just accept and love her just the way she is... Hair will grow again... but if u leave her for this small reason... then she is not coming back... so just be happy and accept her... ok

[SomeoneWeird]

Without telling me then yes I’m done with her. If she discusses with me first before cutting I would definitely support her. I like long hair so it’ll hurt me a bit but that’s fine as long as she is happy. In the end if it’s without my opinion or hearing my side of it she goes ahead and cuts it, that’s it for me. She doesn’t care enough to ask and I would never do something so drastic without talking to her first.

[ritxi]

I wouldn't break up unless there are more reasons to do it, but she would be less attractive for me and I would probably be colder with her until I get used to her new hair length.

[9mfeo]

Wow. A response over seven months later. That's a first.

[GamerArtNerd]

I wouldn't break up with her but I'd be pretty upset with her. Something of that magnitude should definitely be discussed with your S. O.

[9mfeo]

Would you discuss it with her every time you got a haircut?

[GamerArtNerd]

No because having short hair is a normal thing for guys. That's like me wearing a dress and expecting her not to care at all.

[9mfeo]

I fail to see the difference. A haircut is an inconsequential physical trait. So is clothing choice.

[GamerArtNerd]

I'm saying that cutting your hair dramatically altar's your physical appearance. Short hair traditionally is a "male" thing in our culture. That being said, if my long-haired girlfriend randomly decided to chop off her hair one day, I think it would be common courtesy to discuss it with me first. I don't see how or why it's hard to understand. Guys normally have short hair. I think the same discussion should be had if a guy wanted to grow his hair long.

[Orion1084]

Of course not. That would be a stupid reason to break up with someone. It's her hair, and she can do what she wants with it.

I'd still find her beautiful.

[ilovesexyfeet]

Its their hair to do with as they please. What guy would have the right to tell a girl what she can and can't do with what is hers.

[9mfeo]

I agree, man.

[kambo_trick3y]

Fortunately, I like both long and short hair girls. But even if I didn't, breaking up over that kinda shit is poco loco.

[9mfeo]

I agree, man. I saw some dude get upset because his girlfriend didn't ask him before she cut her hair off.

[kambo_trick3y]

The fuck? Does he have to ask her every time HE goes to the barber? Gat daym.

[9mfeo]

I know, right? Some people are ridiculous.