Oh, man. First of all, calm down. It's not the end of the world. You're gonna be okay. :)
My sister's husband cheated on her before. It broke her heart after she found out. It pissed her off too because she was always faithful to him. Not only did this happen to my sister, but it happened to my mom, too. My dad was never home and she knew why. Every time she tried to confront him, he turned it around and blamed her. My step brother did the same thing to my sister.
So just knowing that your husband cheated on you in the past just makes this kind of difficult. If you tell him, there's no doubt that word will get out and you two will have a big fight (your best friend will find out too).
Also, it's not healthy for your three kids, either.
Personally, and this is just my opinion, I don't think you should tell him. Have a talk with your friend and try to put it behind you guys.
If you don't want to do that, maybe you two could get together. I don't know about that though. It could just be lust...
You're still young. Please don't let guilt take over you. Good luck, friend. I hope everything works out for you.
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Your husband does not respect you. He has cheated on you with his friend's girlfriend (obviously does not respect him either). He goes away for long periods of time. He is only with you because he is afraid of being alone. I see NOTHING there that is salvageable. But I admire your interest in counseling. Set up appointments for couple's counseling and see how it goes. But be prepared for it to fail. He does not seem interested in your marriage at all.
Then it will likely be best to end the marriage.
Sounds like you're living in a world of chaos. You probably shouldn't be married to the guy you're married to, it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all. And as for everyone screwing their friends significant other's behind their backs? I vote get a divorce, hop on a plane, and start new some place far away. That's a LOT of chaos and destruction you're leaving behind... not only your marriage, but two FRIENDS marriages / relationships?
Move away and hope that your friend never finds out.
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Can't give you too much hate here. It sounds like everyone involved in this situation is just toxic. I mean it's BAD but it seems like everyone has other issues besides infidelity. You need to talk to a professional 'cause this entire scenario is a fucking dumpster fire.
The real victims here are the kids and possibly your "buddy's" wife. My mom's boyfriend is still dealing with infidelity in his first marriage. His kids at the age of 30-40 are still deal with shit that happened decades ago. Kids are smart, do you really want to stay in a marriage where you two just cheat on each other like this? Your kids don't need to grew up around that. Good luck with everything.Wow... That is a complicated matter. I can't say I have pity for your husband, but your close friend, damn... Poor her.
If you tell her, she loses a friend and a husband, and you might lose a husband too.
Damn...
What is your plan?You can stop it for ahead, but you should not tell your husband.
Whats happened... thats happened..Probably best not to say anything if my wife was cheating I'd just a soon not no about it
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