Let me tell you my experience. I dated a guy for a year who never took me anywhere. We would go out to eat, and that was it. Otherwise we stayed in and had sex. He bought me nothing, not even a card for my birthday. For his, I bought him towels and his favorite candy. Every time I saw him using those towels I got so angry I wanted to shred them. Christmas came and I asked him to bring me back a pinecone (I collect them) from his hometown. It's free, I thought. Can't be that hard to pick up a goddamn pinecone. Did I get the pinecone? Nope. He forgot Valentines day. Slept through it and didn't text me once. My guy also said he loved me. He was also affectionate. I accepted that he was a broke musician, even though he had enough money to buy me food. I asked him for wildflowers on multiple occasions, didn't get those. Hell, he wouldn't even drive THIRTY MINUTES from his house to come see me. I had to BEG to get him to come to my place, otherwise I drove out to see him.
Honey, this man does NOT CARE. He is in it for the sex, plain and simple. I was too stupid to realize that I was being used for a year, and I regret the time I wasted. He is using you and pulling you along by the nose with his fancy words. You have done all you can do. Please get out of this relationship before you get hurt even worse.
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If going out is important to you, then make plans! Don't wait for him to do it because it sounds like he's not in a rush. My boyfriend is also pretty reluctant to go out places, so I just tell him, "I want to go on a date this Friday. There's this restaurant that I really like and I want to go there with you." There's no shame in taking a guy out on a date. And if you guys have a really great time, maybe he'll enjoy it enough to take some initiative and make his own plans. Also, I would definitely consider what @Boomer123 said. It is a little suspicious that he's so quick to leave after spending the night with you.
You are not his girlfriend. That's probably something he leads you to think you are so y'all can have sex, but based on his actions I highly doubt he refers to you as his girlfriend when you're not around.
How about just snuggling up to him and talking to him about it? I think this kind of thing can solve so many problems. Snuggling up first is important, it makes it friendly instead of confrontational.
Some guys just don't take naturally to the dating scene and are just really bad at scheduling/planning something (I'm somewhat like this, though I remember to plan something special for birthdays at least). They like having a girl around the house and chilling out with her, that sort of thing. It doesn't necessarily mean they don't love you.
You might also somewhat train him sexually, like if he does something romantic, you reward him with sexual gratification. He might start to get a clue that way.
Or you might leave him and try to find someone better at putting on a romantic scene, taking you out, well-dressed, that sort of thing.
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You should most definitely end it. He's obviously keeping you around for the convenience of sex. I think your mistake was making it apparent that you don't intend to be with him forever. So he doesn't intend to treat you like it. Dumping him will solve one problem. The way you don't end up a friends with benefits again is you don't act like it won't last. & He won't change. Guy's will say that just to get sex.
He seems to be using you for sex. Next time he comes over agree to cuddle but nothing more. If it's just his anxiety keeping him from spending time with you, cuddling and talking all night will be fine... if he just wants sex and you refuse, he will leave and you will have your answer
What kind of anxiety prevents him from going out w you but not out to class or just interactions with social beings?
The fact that you've stated this is an issue & he hasn't done anything to change it is a problem.
Doesn't sound worth it to me. I would leave him tbh.How many dates have you taken him on?
Not 1 date😧
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