My crush always talks about his girlfriend to me! What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I think I like this guy but he has a girlfriend and he always talks about his girlfriend to me. He totally friendzones me. It bothers me a lot. What should I do?

[mwin2030]

In my opinion if someone is doing something you don't like, then you should be bold and assertive and let them know how you feel. We aren't telepaths who can instantly read how a person feels or what they think. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being confident and just telling the person how you feel and that you don't like how you've been totally friend-zoned and how he constantly talks to you about his girlfriend. Let him know you don't appreciate his behavior.

You can judge how he reacts to your revelation regarding your feelings, but if you believe you like this guy and you want to be more than just a friend with him, then you need to be upfront with him too. Otherwise, he'll continue to just see you as a friend and will continue to talk to you about his girlfriend, because by your omission he's just taking it on an assumption you're okay with hearing all about it. Take the initiative instead and be brazen enough to let him know where you stand and see what happens from that point.

[America1st]

Stop. He's got a girlfriend. That says he's not looking for one unless he like multiple girlfriends. You don't sound like you wouldn't want that. Be his friend and support him. Who knows how long he will be with this girl. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

The best thing you can do is to move on, and separate yourself from him. I went through the same exact thing last summer, and it just made me feel sad all the time. We all worked together too. So I even had to see the two of them together all lovey dovey. It sucked for me, because originally he liked me and then she came into his life and he forgot all about me. So I switched shifts. I am in a better place than I was last summer. I still see them around, but it doesn't bother me anymore. The annoying part about him is that I've gone on a few dates since then, and he has found out. Sometimes he works overtime on my shift, and he will make snide comments about it, and gets jealous. It's messed up. I think maybe I dodged a bullet.

[KenM9215]

jc.. you say he originally liked you... did you not like him at the time? or did you and things just I don't know didn't kick off... like what happened there?

[Opinion Owner]

We liked each other and then she came to the shift and he forgot about me. We hung out quite a bit before that. The moment she came on the shift he started cancelling on me and then started ignoring me in favour for her.

[KenM9215]

why didn't you guys start anything? err like before she entered the picture?

[Opinion Owner]

we basically did, but we were taking it slow because of work. Why the third degree?

[KenM9215]

sooo you guys were officially in a relationship? (just curious is all).

[Opinion Owner]

We were dating. We both admitted we liked each other and we were dating. She came to the shift and he forgot all about me. She is very beautiful and she is also only 23. He is 39. She started flirting with him and the rest is history. I dont get why I have to talk about all this. I was just trying to give this girl some advice. I regret that now.

[KenM9215]

wow... thats really crappy of him. I'm very sorry to hear that. Also I wasn't trying to bring up any hurt feelings or anything for you (not on purpose at least). I was just being curious about your previous situation is all.

[Opinion Owner]

My apologies. it's just I've had people go in the other direction with this. sorry to get defensive

[KenM9215]

its no problem, I get it. I mean its probably not something that feels good to be brought up either way, which is understandable.

[BrittBratt2416]

Easy.. find someone else who doesn't have a girlfriend. Sounds like he's really into his girlfriend if he's always talking about her so I think you should take that as a hint that he is taken which is why he's friend zoning you. So leave him and start looking elsewhere

[Princessearth5678]

He has women. Your a friend. You like him. But respect fact that he has a women! Keep your feelings to yourself. Remain friends with him. But move on. There are plenty of other fishes in the sea.

[Asker]

So true

[KenM9215]

there is really nothing you can do. if he has a girlfriend, honestly I would just leave him be and move on. I mean I get that a lot of the time we can't control who we crush on and thats fine, but really there is nothing you CAN do in this situation other than accept it.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Accept the fact that he has a girlfriend and sees you as nothing but a friend?

[Sara413]

Get over it. He's not available. Either accept that and be his friend, or don't hang around him anymore. You have to respect his relationship.

[Phenix457]

Uh, do the half decent thing to do and back off for respect of him and his girlfriend. Put yourself in her shoes. Wait for him to get out of his relationship then hit him up

[posted]

He has a GIRLFRIEND, you're already friend zoned by default unless he's a scumbag. You can't say 'stfu about your girlfriend' because you're just a friend.

[wankiam]

get over it... he is with her and obviously likes being with her. you just need to ask yourself if you can still be his friend

[phil2]

Change the subject and or find a boyfriend and talk about him

[1GuyOpinion]

You should move on. In case you didn't heard it from 10 other people already.

[AngelDenna]

tell him how you feel and if he feels the same way just go for it

[MrPresident]

Move on, meet more people.
The crush will fade away, the less people you know the more easy is for you to get a hard crush on someone.

[Anhnguyen96]

move the fuck on. he got a girlfriend what do u expect?

[Gnana]

Nothing. He is taken. Forget him.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Move along if you can't take it.

[NajemEddine]

move on u had your chance

[UglyButHonorable]

Cut your friendship with him.

[scooogy]

I'd give him up