How can I stop being so jealous of my boyfriends best friend??

He is constantly on the phone to his best friend. His best friend always comes first in my boyfriends life and whenever his is around I seem to be pushed aside and I hate it. Am I just jealous? What should I do? My boyfriend changes when he is with his friend and speaks to me horribly, just as his best friend treats his girlfriend.


Most Helpful Girl

  • you need to tell him how you feel, if you dont, he will keep being like that and finally you get frustrated. My boyfriend was same when we first dating, I got upset and we had fight, but after sometimes he realised how important I am to him and he started to think about my feelings, of course he is still good with his buddies but he calls me and let me know who he is hanging out with and ask if I want to come along, calls me if he gonna be late instead of making me waiting for him, stuffs like that

    so talk to him, if he won't change, I think you should either give up on him or accept him as how he is,

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What Guys Said 3

  • Most guys will act different around their girlfriends while they are around their friends. We tend to act more like the other guys around us. However if he's speaking horribly to you and its not jokingly or playful and its bothering you enough to post somewhere for advice then you do need to eveluate your feelings towards him.

  • dont be jealous. just know that you are his girlfriend, not his best friend. you cannot be replaced by his friend because you offer your boyfriend something unique that no one else can offer

  • Let him know how you feel. I mean, if he's close to his friend, it would be wrong to ask him to cut his relationship. However, if he is showing out at your expense to impress this dude, then you should speak up. Tell him how it upsets you whenever he does that. If he doesn't take your feelings into consideration, then maybe you should re-evaluate your feelings for him.


What Girls Said 5

  • Girl if he's treating you bad in any way, stand your freakin ground! If he's gonna be that way, is he really worth it? If someone changes when other people come around, he's being fake somewhere to someone, and do you really wanna be with someone like that? I'm sorry, I can't stand it when people are like that, whether their my significant other, or their just a friend. And the fact that he treats you badly just because his friend does it to his girl? The first thing you need to do is sit your man down and let him know how your feeling and what's going on. Relationships won't last unless you communicate with each other effectively.

  • oh ew what a jerk. ummm well I think you should talk to him about it first. some guys really are jerks and others dnt want there friends to to feel the way you do now. id say dump him cause if his friends are that importat then he can keep them but if you do wanna try to work it out then just try talking, there's no much else you can do.

  • i kinda am in the same position. but he treats me ok. is it that he's irritated?like this, " I'm so uptight because she's always around when I'm with my friends" or does he always treat you like that? but its not right at all for the guy to treat you in a bad way with his friends .soo tell him politely that he's not treating you well with his friends but in private and just break it to him genltly but make sure he gets the point. belive me he WILL change if he truly likes you or at least TRY to be more attentive to your needs.if that doesn't help or you don't feel better. sadly I would reevaluate your relationship with this boy.

  • that does not mean your jealous. -- just you wanting more attention or not wanting to feel as if he is neglecting you. Most guys are like that though around they're best friends( tough guy attitude). although I would not take the disrespectfullness he shows though. <~that has got to stop. Have you tried talking with him on how you feel. Communication always helps. I was in you position once before so I know how your feeling.