My boyfriend and I currently live with my mom and have been together for 5 years. It's had a lot of ups and downs but we have been through a lot. I believe our relationship would be so much better if he could just stop talking to other girls. A couple of years ago he began to talk to a girl that he met through friends. I found out that they were meeting together when he would drop me off at school (according to his text messages) as well as he would compliment her calling her "beautiful" and just plain old hitting on her. I asked him to stop and finally months later it seemed to have. Now I seem to have come across double the problem. First- He has many text messages in which he is complimenting other girls, hitting on them and meeting with them, girls I don't know because they're not saved to his phone. He even goes on this online dating through his phone in which he talks dirty to girls and as always compliments and meets with. At first I did let him know that I was hurt, but I also noticed that he talked himself up a lot, saying things such as "I'm in English class", "I've got a lot of homework", but he doesn't even go to school. So I told him I was sorry for neglecting him (College courses are crazy!) Anyway he apologized and I thought it stopped. But sure enough next time I checked his phone he hadn't. Now months later I find myself here where the second problem comes in. He is talking to that same girl again, asking her out, how her day is, yada-yada. I do realize that I shouldn't be going through his phone, but I keep hoping I won't find anything, but I do. There is no trust in our relationship. He is constantly accusing me of cheating, at work school, anywhere. He also says that I "put it in his head" to do such things. But like I tell him, no matter how many times he "puts it in my head" I won't subject myself to such behavior because I can't live with that guilt on my conscious and won't do that to him. Now every time that I find him doing this I just don't bring it up. If I do I cry and he just pulls out of the conversation and sometimes he apologizes. What should I do? How do I tell him to stop? Will he ever stop? It's difficult for me to just say I am done with this relationship because I love him. I need him a lot and he needs me. He doesn't have a real stable home because his mom doesn't want him to live with her. (Please don't label him a 'loser' based off of that and instead answer honestly) Thank you.
My boyfriend won't stop talking to other girls, what do I do?
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