because tey don't like someone around to shed light on all their irrational tendencies. its a lot harder to convince yourself, you're amazing& not f***ed up, when you have an objective observer, standing right there.
that& they worry they will be dumped.
a boyfriend, or girlfriend, isn't a 'burden' its someone you are with. its not a pet, its an adult human being. a lot of people don't understand, they are not supposed to try to control their partner. they do it anyways, then feel burdened.
i think anyone who sees relationships as a burden, obviously int interested in one. or ready for one.
dont date someone who thinks of people as a burden.
its OK if that's how they feel, but you don't want to be with them.
because some boyfriends and girlfriends don't know how to act right and being with them is like a chore. It's emotionally and mentally draining and ultimately becomes a burden.
There's a misconception that having a boyfriend or girlfriend is just this huge happy experience, but I've seen with my own eyes, that is not true. It depends on the particular boyfriend or girlfriend in question. There are a lot of guys and girls out there who are so complex that it makes them frustrating to deal with. Some people have this toxicity rooted deep within them and that toxicity can overflow into their relationships, smothering the happiness out of them.
That's why I tend to not have a "boyfriend"
I think it's much better to just date before deciding to be in a full relationship, because if you don't really like the person enough, it's like having a job.
People have decided they'd rather be with someone they don't like than be alone.
odd isn't it?
For the same reason that people sometimes find owning a dog a burden. Life isn't always skittles and beer - sometimes it gets rough and, during those times, it is easy to reflect on the fact that you wouldn't be carrying this burden if you weren't dealing with the pet/relationship. Like most everything in life, when it is good then all is well, when it is bad people tend to complain. Human nature, grass is always greener, call it what you will but it extends to everyone and almost everything.
I guess they want certain aspects of the relationship and are going through the motions on others.
We've seen posters here (male AND female) who only really want sex, or companionship, or emotional intimacy, and don't really want the rest, or not often, but they go through the motions to get the pieces they want.
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The stress of having to deal with another person who thinks they have any say in how you live your life or what you do with your time as well as financial expenses make anything she has to offer seem like it isn't worth it.
You have to open yourself up to them and trust them. I can't do it that easily. I just can't do it. I'm always suspicious of everyone at all times. Maybe I'll change one day and it'll be a viable option.
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