My boyfriend *seems* obsessed with his niece.

My boyfriend is constantly talking about his two year old niece - which is totally fine, she's adorable. What bothers me is how many times he's brought up the subject of child sexual abuse, in various ways, in combination with being preoccupied with his niece. I told him once that I didn't want to talk about child abuse - it's the one thing I can't handle and don't want to discuss because I think it's totally messed up. Of course, I have issues from my past that I do not, and never want to talk about with him. There are other things too that he's said that cause me to be concerned. The question here is - is it normal for an adult man to constantly talk about a two year old? And why is he bringing up the subject matter so blatantly, (showing me movies about it, talking about Sandinsky, even said "What if he's innocent?" which made me so irate, but I let it go, etc.) I know that he loves her, but I worry that it goes beyond that, that he might have a problem being attracted to children. I have seen him look at other little girls and I don't know if he just notices them now that he has a niece in his life - I don't know if he's trying to give me the message that he loves kids and wants to see if I want kids in the future - I don't know if he suspects that I have issues with it and he brings it up because he wants to talk about it - and I don't know if maybe he was abused as a child and is trying to bring it up in an inadvertent way - and mostly I don't know if I'm being paranoid based on my past experiences. Do I have a reason to be concerned?


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  • Tough one. He and I had a lot in common until you brought up child abuse and Sandusky because I have two nieces ( 6 & 2). And I love them with all of my heart. As a matter of fact, crazy thing is, my evil ex had a problem with me loving my niece so much in the beginning of our relationship, she would get jealous. As far as child abuse, I HOPE he doesn't do it. But you should just ask him because it's hard to give you and accurate answer because I don't know him or his personality personally. I think the guy just love kids, which is completely OK. I love kids. I love playing and spending time with my nieces, it makes me feel like a kid again. There's no better feeling in the world than having fun without being judged, but loved. The look on their faces and the way their eyes light up with laughter is priceless, especially after a long day of people beating you down.

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      I agree - I should have phrased the title differently - because I have no problem with his love for his niece - it's that it's in conjunction with the other stuff. Thanks.

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      It sucks the way society has made people think that every guy who loves kids is some type of "weird" guy. Some people just have huge hearts, but yea, it's a shame how a few bad apples has helped to make people on edge about guys who actually cares about children. Although, with that being said, you can never be too careful