Why are women so indirect when all men want is for them to be direct?
Is it me or do you some of you notice this also. Women seem to be indirect about everything they want. I have recently just broken up with a girl. I asked her the following direct questions. Are you confused? What are you feeling? What are you thinking? Why have you been so distant lately? An example of a direct answer would be: I really feel that we are not right for each other. I really think you are a good guy but I don't think you are the guy for me. An example of an indirect answer: Regardless of what I feel. I did not like the way you acted that day. Just some advice for your future relationships no one is going to put up with that. The indirect answer also includes little things like still hanging out with the guy even though they really don't want to and doing little things to annoy the guy just to cause some type of confrontation. So my question is this: Why is it so hard for women to be give a man a direct answer? Why must they beat around the bush? I included a poll so people can voteWritten answers are very much appreciated.
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As per the questions at the bottom, I think:1. Girls feel emotions on a whole entirely different level to guys. Some guys may think that rubbish, but it's honestly true for all the girls I know. They see things like how hard it is for guys to come up to them and be vulnerable in saying how they feel about that girl - and they don't want to hurt your feelings (let's face it - it's bloody difficult). 2. They beat around the bush because they want to soften the blow of whatever they want to say. Another reason is that they maybe want to feel that you're listening and are ready to engage them in the current conversation. Basically, I say it's because they care and analyze everything they do on a level that most guys will never comprehend. They feel every conversation emotionally , and very deeply. Some guys joke and say that a girl will analyze the answer to the question of "What's for supper, darling? " and come up with your having said "Have you finished cooking for me so I can go watch television, and perhaps we can do something. Special. Later. "They do it to themselves all the time, and it means that if they want to have an easier time of life, they need to be indirect, strange though that may sound.
What Girls Said 3
Mentally girls can make everything about their life connect. I would give you an example but it might seems as if I am beating around the bush. From school, family, friends, that TV show we watched, and stepping on that spider this morning, as each event relates its importance increases drastically. Now if stepping on that soulless spider this morning can connect so much that it hurts us emotionally (I'm not going to lie I wouldn't kill a spider once because I over analyzed the situation so much that I viewed myself as Hitler) Imagine in our minds what it would feel like to be dumped. How it would impact EVERY part of our life. Not being able to truly understand our male counterparts and "always assuming that they hide their feelings" understand how a girl would want to sympathize. When something significant enters our life, a hard decision that we feel is for the best - like choosing sides between family, we always like to be as vague as possible. Call it avoiding the situation, ridiculous or maybe even survival, its how we work. But then again, isn't that how life works, guys get to drive and girls make sure everything is in order (Gas, food and possibly a map - because we know boys don't stop for directions ;) )? I personally love softening the blow, however, more often than not, in life it is just easier to be direct. We all have to learn lessons. It would be like when we first realize the value of the dollar, or reality in general. You can't soften that blow, anything you do to soften such cases, often result in a much deeper wound. I will let you tell it how it is, so I can pick up the pieces afterwards and enable others to live in such a harsh world. Call it emotion, but what I have will give a little kid the kiss that makes them feel better, when someone else says "suck it up."
Women are indirect because they can understand when other women are indirect. They don't think they're being indirect. Also, they're scared that whoever it is won't agree with them. Or they're afraid of hurting feelings. Basically, they feel that they can get their feelings across without being to bold.
Because girls don't know what they want. Most people just have down knowing their instant gratification pleasures but any thing deeper is clueless to some. We think we know what we want when we want it. But really, not so much. No one really want to hurt any one else esp. Some one we care about. But manning up and telling it straight is harder then you think. Even when we jerk some one else's emotions around. She might not know or be letting herself know how much this is distressing you. Does not know what she really wants. Does not wanna be a person to hurt you.
What Guys Said 2
Here is my list, 1. They don't want to "hurt" us2. They are embarrassed3. Women are really weird and can't make up their minds4. They don't think they are being indirect5. I'm still thinking of a fifth.
I don't think you'll get any direct answers from women on this. :) I truly wish I knew to answer to your question but I just attribute it to the differences between woman and man. I'd definitely would prefer for them to be more direct in their needs, desires, and wants but alas, I don't think I'll see it in my lifetime. My only thought is that perhaps they want us to improve upon our mind reading capabilities so they give us these little tests to aid us. :)