I think that both physical and a mental connection are needed. One without the other are nothing. You can't fall in "real love" with a person you don't relate to at a mental level. Yes, you can lust after that person, but that is not love. However, I won't be such a hypocrite as saying that looks can be completely ignored. Even if there is a mental connection, if you are grossed out by someone's looks, you won't be drawn to explore that connection as a romantic one. But a mental connection can also make someone more beautiful than they in reality are in your eyes, because you are not only seeing the physical beauty, but also their inner beauty. To finish, one thing I have read in these opinions posted here and that I strongly disagree with is that you say a mental connection can also fade over time, so it would be more important to have a strong sexual attraction to someone you can tolerate. Well, the thing I see as being wrong in this is that mental connection, yes, can fade. But just because some mental connections fail, it doesn't mean all will. And I think it is a very sad view to have about life. you can't stop trying to connect to people on that level, because, even if some may disappoint you, other won't. Some people will fight for you and, even if you change, they will change with you and stay by your side, loving you, supporting you. People need to fight for the ones that are important to them. If sexual needs are a part of human nature, so are emotional needs, and the need to connect with others. Even if we might get hurt sometimes, i think this option is better. To actually feel something real for someone. Genuinely care about someone. Not connecting with others out of fear of getting hurt will eventually hurt you more in the long run. life is short. shouldn't we make it a fuller life, with some mistakes on the way, yes. Some disappointments. Some heartache. But at least we will be sure we are alive. we will be sure of having no regrets if we follow our hearts. We will be sure to not have missed great moments of happiness, out of fear of experiencing some moments of saddness. I say love, live, dream, because this is human nature and a man without dreams or love is just another animal in this world, just surviving, NOT LIVING, until death comes for him.
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Mental connection. Looks fade, but if you have an amazing mental connection, that probably won't ever fade. Mental connection is where love is born I guess. Physical attraction is more about lust. And ultimately love is more important than lust.
You need both they are equally important. When you have both connections it's easy to be with that person and all is right in the universe and pure harmony. :)
People who are below average and desperate go for "emotional connections". Due to the fact, that they know damn well they won't be able to attract an extremely attractive person. Those who disagree obviously fall under that category.
As for myself, I would see no purpose having everything a man could ever want and still go with an ugly woman. Unfortunately, that's not what I want. I would rather have a beautiful wife by my side who doesn't necessarily needs to have a STRONG emotional connection and neither should I. I need to be able to sleep with a gorgeous woman at night peacefully and not have one eye open and the other one closed in fear of getting scared through the night by my own partner. As long as she's beautiful and independent that's all that matters.
Those who choose physical want to FUCK.
Those who choose mental want a RELATIONSHIP.
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Hahaha, all the guys lying. 99% of guys will value looks/physical attraction over anything. They've just been conditioned to believe otherwise. Conscious thought doesn't change instinct however...
Physical attraction is what leads you deeper to mental connection, but mental connection is what keeps you stay in the relationship, so both are important. But if i really have to choose, for a long term relationship the connection is more important.
Mental. But I always say that the eye wants something nice to look at as well. But someone you feel really strongly about can grow prettier simply because of the bond you share.
The physical can rope you in but mental makes you stay
Still, You need both, cause honestly, When animals mate they look for a mate with the best genes to prolong their species/race. If they have a face of shit. I can't have sex with you sorrry. I just can't even though we get along 1,000,000%
Mental, hands down. Physical is just a bonus.
In the begining it's equal then later it's mental
Mental... is more powerful than attraction.
Mental first, then comes physical
mental! 100000%!
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