The past few months have been tough with my girlfriend. We are good around each other, but she has been increasingly into her phone, working late at work, and so forth. She said I missed the boat with her and doesn't see a future with me. She says she loves me and care very much. But she wasn't sure her feelings would change.
This last week she has been texting me, saying she is home, that she is going to get groceries if I wants anything. She calls me by my pet name. Lays her head on my chest naked.
We haven't had sex in a while too. Thoughts on us? What can I do to get that lovin' feeling back?
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This sounds dreadfully like what I just went through... except I was in your girlfriend's shoes and I broke it off. Given what you said it looks a lot like what happened to my couple.
What happened for me is that I realized I cared very much about him, I liked him very deeply but I didn't love him enough to stay forever. I felt good with him in a day-to-day basis, nothing was particularly wrong. I liked being with him, but somehow I felt like I wouldn't spend my life with him. We started seeing each other less, because I was so busy all the time, and so was he, and our schedules didn't match. Sex also didn't happen much, even when we saw each other.
I wanted to tell you this because I want to show another side of the situation. We could think she's selfish for keeping you around, but deep down she may simply care a lot. She obviously cares for you, hence why she doesn't want to hurt you by breaking up. She seems to realize she doesn't love you enough to stay forever, yet she doesn't want or can't break up with you. She probably knows it'll be more painful later, but she could also be hoping for her feelings to change or for her courage to grow stronger...
I think it is a plausible explanation for your situation, but I hope it is not the case, because the most likely outcome of the situation I described is a break-up, regardless of what you try.
Good luck for everything.0
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