Yu weren't a crappy girlfriend he was a crabby boyfriend. You shouldn't blame your self. He killed him self not you. Don't blame yourself. Also is there a chance if u can possibly send a picture on what he looks like, I am just curious.
You are young and it is an opportunity for you to think about the reasons you ended in such an unhealthy relationship, and you are not responsible for anyone who has no to little respect gor his own life.
Your not to blame for him killing hisself, that's his choice alone. But I feel you are to blame for not getting him help or at least talking him into seeing a counselor.
I did tell him to seek help repeatedly. He always refused. I cpuldnt do anything except that. I'm young, and I was in no position to tell my parents about it
I agree entirely dude. Looks like all he wanted was for her to say "I love you" back once in a while. Her whole rant was nothing but insults directed at him to paint him as a manipulative asshole, though she doesn't give one actual example of him manipulating her, just her being a cold, heartless bitch toward her boyfriend.
How it is manipulative when he actually did it? He wasn't playing games, he actually had a problem and was telling the truth. Someone should of took those threats seriously because for anyone to suggest that, it means they need support for something major
And how was she supposed to know that need actually follow through? Nine times out of ten, sucide threats are empty ways to manipulate people into doing what they want. You can't burden this girl with the full responsibility for his death, that's cruel. I recognize that more should have been done to save him before hand, but hindsight is always 20/20 and there were more people in his life than just her who also could have done something.
I think she made it clear that she was aware that there was no one else in his life except for her, not even his own parents. I want you to YouTube search the term, 'the disposable male'. Had this been a female suicide i think your reaction would of been different. How quickly you are to speak ill of the dead.
If it were a female instead I'd say the exact same things, assuming that I'm sexist will get you nowhere. Even if she was his everything, he sure treated her like shit for being so valuable. And being dead doesn't make a person flawless. If I don't like someone alive, I don't magically like them nor respect them when they're dead either.
@jeanbean I can't help but agree with that last sentence. He died, but that wouldn't change what type of person he was. But I still find things confusing. What should I do?
All you can do is ignore the people trying to put all the blame in your shoulders. They're being irrational and insensitive. I know that this is very hard on you too, the thought of being the reason someone is dead is a terrible burden! But you are not to blame, don't ever believe otherwise. Talk about your feelings to people who will listen, focus on your studies and do things that you enjoy, just try to keep your mind occupied by other things until it doesn't bother you as much.
it's not your fault. How were you supposed to know he was going to do that? It's not like you encouraged him to do it or mistreated him in any way. Nobody's going to blame... except for maybe the parents. Stay clear of them.
you're not the one to blame, he took his own life, don't blame yourself, he needed help, and he needed to help himself or others to help him, not your fault all
Different people deal with death in different ways. Asker may have already passed the shock stage or it hasn't sunk in yet.
When my grandmother died, I wasn't in shock until a few days later when I saw her in the coffin at the funeral home. Until I actually saw her being dead, it didn't feel real.
Don´t blame yourself for what he did. He needed professional help. The decision he took to take away his life I imagine it was fill with excuses. It was never your fault.
Unfortunately stuff like this happens daily. I know someone who killed his whole family because his wife was going to divorce him. And someone else who committed suicide by cops because he saw a new man taking care of his ex and child.
No, Your boyfriend had some serious issues and should have been in therapy. That isn't on you.
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first of all, why did you not tell adults/police/anyone about how he is threatening his life? that is the extremely important part here... tho it doesn't matter anymore, looks like this was like 10 years ago.
I think one of thee BIGGEST reason for people to get in Relationship is to recieve emotional support as well besides physical support? Tell meh if im wrong ;P
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Yu weren't a crappy girlfriend he was a crabby boyfriend. You shouldn't blame your self. He killed him self not you. Don't blame yourself. Also is there a chance if u can possibly send a picture on what he looks like, I am just curious.
You are young and it is an opportunity for you to think about the reasons you ended in such an unhealthy relationship, and you are not responsible for anyone who has no to little respect gor his own life.
Your not to blame for him killing hisself, that's his choice alone. But I feel you are to blame for not getting him help or at least talking him into seeing a counselor.
I did tell him to seek help repeatedly. He always refused. I cpuldnt do anything except that. I'm young, and I was in no position to tell my parents about it
there's other things you could have done but all that matters is how you feel about it. As long as you feel you did all you could.
I agree with SuperMommie 100%
Your completely correct
So he devoted his life to you and you broke up with him. I hope you guys here are reading this question. Don't be like him.
Don't be a batshit crazy manipulative asshole? I agree, terrible boyfriend material.
I agree entirely dude. Looks like all he wanted was for her to say "I love you" back once in a while. Her whole rant was nothing but insults directed at him to paint him as a manipulative asshole, though she doesn't give one actual example of him manipulating her, just her being a cold, heartless bitch toward her boyfriend.
Dude, she said that he threatened to kill himself every time she tried to break up. How is that not manipulation? @Butthearth
@jeanbean
and he really did.
@jeanbean
How it is manipulative when he actually did it? He wasn't playing games, he actually had a problem and was telling the truth. Someone should of took those threats seriously because for anyone to suggest that, it means they need support for something major
@Tokana , @TripleAce.
And how was she supposed to know that need actually follow through? Nine times out of ten, sucide threats are empty ways to manipulate people into doing what they want. You can't burden this girl with the full responsibility for his death, that's cruel. I recognize that more should have been done to save him before hand, but hindsight is always 20/20 and there were more people in his life than just her who also could have done something.
@jeanbean
I think she made it clear that she was aware that there was no one else in his life except for her, not even his own parents. I want you to YouTube search the term, 'the disposable male'. Had this been a female suicide i think your reaction would of been different. How quickly you are to speak ill of the dead.
@Tokana
If it were a female instead I'd say the exact same things, assuming that I'm sexist will get you nowhere. Even if she was his everything, he sure treated her like shit for being so valuable. And being dead doesn't make a person flawless. If I don't like someone alive, I don't magically like them nor respect them when they're dead either.
@jeanbean I can't help but agree with that last sentence. He died, but that wouldn't change what type of person he was. But I still find things confusing. What should I do?
@hapyshiny
All you can do is ignore the people trying to put all the blame in your shoulders. They're being irrational and insensitive. I know that this is very hard on you too, the thought of being the reason someone is dead is a terrible burden! But you are not to blame, don't ever believe otherwise. Talk about your feelings to people who will listen, focus on your studies and do things that you enjoy, just try to keep your mind occupied by other things until it doesn't bother you as much.
it's not your fault. How were you supposed to know he was going to do that? It's not like you encouraged him to do it or mistreated him in any way. Nobody's going to blame... except for maybe the parents. Stay clear of them.
you're not the one to blame, he took his own life, don't blame yourself, he needed help, and he needed to help himself or others to help him, not your fault all
People are soon going to start blaming me, I don't know what to say? Or how to respond
So a FRIEND, and an EX committed a suicide, and you have the nerves to log in, and ask questions?
Escaping the reality of death by speaking to people, who aren't directly involved in the situation, is not unreasonable.
Strangers are impartial and are more capable of giving objective advice that isn't based on emotions felt for asker and the ex.
I understand. But there is this SHOCK thing, which no matter what a person was, it would render you speechless. @MaskedSanity
Not really. Even if someone was to kill themselves right in front of me it wouldn't bother me because it's just death. No one lives forever.
Different people deal with death in different ways. Asker may have already passed the shock stage or it hasn't sunk in yet.
When my grandmother died, I wasn't in shock until a few days later when I saw her in the coffin at the funeral home. Until I actually saw her being dead, it didn't feel real.
Don´t blame yourself for what he did. He needed professional help. The decision he took to take away his life I imagine it was fill with excuses. It was never your fault.
hope all this post is a joke, and not real, because i can't believe there are people who would commit suicide because a girl broke up with them
This is not a joke, and yeah, even I can't believe a guy would kill himself over a failed relaionship in real life.
Unfortunately stuff like this happens daily. I know someone who killed his whole family because his wife was going to divorce him. And someone else who committed suicide by cops because he saw a new man taking care of his ex and child.
I don't know what to say. I've been with crazy chicks like that more than once. It's hard to shake the feeling that it's your fault. SMH
You cannot blame yourself for the actions of others.
All I can say is that I'm sorry.
It's now time to pick up the pen and start writing the next chapter. Learn from the previous chapters.
No you shouldn't be blamed for his death. You might want to talk to a therapist to sort out where your emotions are and help you process
I wouldn't worry about it. He made his choice. Forget that loser and find someone worth being around.
Absolutely not. He made the choice. You and no obligation to sacrifice your life to emotional blackmail.
No, Your boyfriend had some serious issues and should have been in therapy. That isn't on you.
first of all, why did you not tell adults/police/anyone about how he is threatening his life? that is the extremely important part here... tho it doesn't matter anymore, looks like this was like 10 years ago.
All I can say is that this is really sad.
He had issues, shame.
But its not ur fault,
I don't know what to say, but I'll pray for you.😐😶❤
I think one of thee BIGGEST reason for people to get in Relationship is to recieve emotional support as well besides physical support? Tell meh if im wrong ;P
No of course not, you have no fault in this. He would probably have done it anyways. You shouldn't feel bad at all.