Should I say, "fuck you" to my ex?

[MehGuy]

Well about a month ago my ex broke up with me. She didn't give a clear reason, mostly "it's me not you", "I don't know", "it's not ankther guy or anything." Of course I was devistated because it was out of the blue. And I really loved this girl. Anyways, now everytime I see her I kinda get this weird feeling of anger and sadness at the same time and I end up having to like do shit tons of physical excercise to kinda blow of steam. But I'm starting to get this urge to just say "fuck you" or something. Straight up. I mean when she walked away she seemed so, okay and kept saying not to make her feel bad, we should be friends, you're a nice guy, I don't want you to be hurt, etc. etc. etc. but I really just kinda want to say "fuck you" for some reason. It's... A weird urge... I can't really explain very well...

Yes say fuck you.

Don't do it, you asshole.

Say something else

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>> she also seems to be doing fine which really gets me. She's also hanging out with other guys (and to be fair in haning out with my female friends)

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The main reason I want to do it is to kinda let some of my emotions free because I tend to hold them in ya know

[lumos]

No. You think it'll make you feel better but it won't. You might get a small relief out of it but then you'll just go back to feeling angry and sad. The best way to get over her is to just let go. She had every right to break up with you and move on from you, even if you think her reasons were invalid or wishy-washy. She clearly lost her feelings for you and that's something you'll just have to accept. Saying "fuck you" to her would only prove that she made the right choice and it will only make you look immature and needy. You won't get over her by thinking of ways to bring her down or having a revenge. You'll get over her by not caring about her anymore and by focusing on other things. Saying "fuck you" will only feed your anger and bitterness. If you need to vent, talk to someone and then move on. Don't talk shit about her or say rude things to her, like I said that'll only make you look bad and you really won't get anything out of it.

[Makeawish1981]

I wouldn't contact her, she is probably thinking you will contact her, so by not showing your bothered about her, if you still want her back, there is everychance she will reach out too you. No contact is the best way forward. But even if she doesn't, don;t give her the satisfaction, like someone else said, she will know that you still care!

[Anonymous]

Mate you're 14, enjoy the rest of your childhood/teen and then worry about relationships when you hit adulthood. Trust me, falling in love young fucks you up (I fell in love when I was 16 and I ended it when I was 20). Enjoy being young because it soon gets snatched away from you

[Anonymous]

Dude just accept that it's over now. How would you want her to remember you? As a relationship that just didn't work out or as an asshole? Let it go man. I know it's not easy but you gotta let it go especially if you care about her. If you care about her you should want her to be happy in life and to find happiness.

It isn't easy to break up with someone because I was there before too. I think it's natural to get the "it's not you it's me" thing even if it's partially crap. It just shows that she doesn't want to hurt you. It's natural to want to hear all the answers but would that really help you move on? Would that make the situation better? Just remember what you learned from the relationship experience and in the future you'll be able to look at the past with fondness. Most relationships have some good times. Use it to grow and to look forward to more good times in the future.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MH!

[Jay-Are]

I understand your emotions. There is nothing wrong with letting out some steam. But I am not fan of stuff like that to people... unless they really deserve.

I advise you to stay a gentleman. What if another really likes you and she saw you do that? She might think "this is a guy to stay away from".

Let me give you some further advise. She seems alright because she is alright. But it could also be that she is alright just because you are not alright and she gets off on that. If so turn it around on her. Be alright. Be that happy guy everybody loves. Just go on with your life. Don't fake it, be it. You will see that things will change in ways you cannot imagine.

[Blobb]

Well you're better off going with no contact for a while. You cared she didn't. That happens. Be clear with her, that you had real feelings and that you need to be away to get over it.
Then cut her off completely until you're over her. No need to be rude or mean. Just do what you gotta do for yourself. This whole "lets be friends so you're not hurt" bullshit is obviously hurting you so don't let it. Cut contact.

[pharaoh_lover48118]

Just forget about her dude. Block her from every thing facebook , phone , etc don't look at her if she stopped to say hey you go on moving. if she is standing with your friends you step away. just don't give her a chance. and never NEVER EVER be a friend with her it'll never work.

[GuyAdviceFromGuy]

Well, physical exercise is great, you will get in shape and that will give you a confidence boast,

saying fuck you to her will give her all the more reason to have left you, if you really want to say fuck you to her... hook up with her best friend

[MehGuy]

No I'm already like super in shape TBH. It's just that I kinda get so pissed it's not good.

[GuyAdviceFromGuy]

I'm telling you, hook up with the hottest female in her inner circle, that will make her super pissed and very horny at the same time, steamy sex will ensue, trust me

[AmandaLynn1930]

It's doesn't make u a jerk to say it, but it will make u look like u still care. And it will ultimately give her the upper hand... again...

[Briseide]

No, don't say it. exercise harder if you have to but control that urge. she didn't cheat on you or did something terrible to you so you don't have to be rude towards her. write down your anger rather but never send her anything.

[OnceUponADream143]

No. There is no reason to say that. You are just going to start an agrument/figth that isn't nesscary. You don't know what may be going on with her life. If she says it's not you, it's not you. Don't take it personally and leave her alone.

[butimsharon]

don't say it.
instead, I would tell her to live her happy life and good luck and that's it.
show her you don't care too, and end the relationship nicely.

[NerdInDenial]

Yelling fuck you won't solve the problem. Find another girl; why waste your time on this? It'll be better if you seem like you are doing better than being with her. That's the mind fuck you need to do.

[cristiana]

don't try to be friends while ur angry. maybe later...

[Anonymous]

Yea, we all know. As if calling her things will make you feel better... just sayingggggg

[Anonymous]

All it does is make you look like a socially retarded child. Just avoid her.

And move on.

[RainbowFanGirl]

How about not contacting her at all? ☺️

[OrdinaryGentleman]

how about you go find another girl.

[orphan]

The best "fuck you" is replied.

[Anonymous]

No, that'll only make things worse for you.

[Anonymous]

Yep for sure dude