It's his stuff. It's up to him to come and get it.
You have tried to organise to let him have them and he is being difficult.
I agreee, don't throw them away. Put them away somewhere dust free and out of sight for you. Alternatively you could just post it. I wouldn't say go knocking on his door. It might hurt you if you get a bad reaction to showing up unnanounced. To be honest I would be mortified if an ex showed up at my home unexpectedly.
If you must drop it to him go leave it on the door step. But actually if you know the address posting may be the way forward. He will not expect it and it takes away his power over your mind at the moment!
He may be hurt by the break up and trying to move on and can't bear to talk with you at the moment.
Having his stuff there is also always an open path to still talking to you.
Until his stuff is back there is always a reason for you two to talk.
My ex broke up with me. It took him well over a month to get my stuff back. He would text me and arrange to drop it off then I would hear nothing. I only asked once what was going on. I couldn't be bothered to chase around. Then he said he would come over and I could come out and get it (basically he wanted to see me too) Then he didn't show. Then finnally one day he said he would meet me in the evening then changed his mind and left it on the door step whilst I was at work.
There could be several reasons why your ex won't text you back or get his stuff at the moment.
Best thing is just get it out of sight and leave him to contact you to get it. Or just post it. This whole time you cannot move on and are thinking about him over the stuff.
If you live with someone else make sure they know where it is so if you are out or don't want to see him they can hand it over.
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It sounds like he's going through a bit of a rough time, and him breaking up with you may not have much to do with you at all--more like he can't be in a relationship right now.
But anyhow, I think you should message him/his mom a few hours in advance of dropping off his stuff, to let them know you're coming. Preferably put the stuff somewhere safe from weather and somewhat concealed, such as a porch--but if you can't don't worry--and knock on the door to let them know it's there, then leave without waiting for them to open it. You may want to take a picture of the stuff when you leave it there too, just to document that you didn't damage it, for legal purposes.
If he isn't picking up his stuff after 3 months either just throw it out or donate it to good will. And text him a day before you do it and tell him if you don't pick up by this time then I'm throwing it out or donating it to good will.
Pack his things and have it ready.
If it's an option, drop it off at his parent's place.
Document it, like have a friend video you going to his folks place and giving them the stuff - so that he cannot claim you never returned it, or threw it out.
Option 2, give him a deadline to pick up his stuff. Tell him his stuff has been lying around for 3 months and taking up space and it's all going to be donated after the deadline. An email or text record should suffice in protecting you from legal action if the items are donated and he wants them back in the future.
I would just dump at his front door and whatever happens to it happens to it. If he wants to be immature and not reply when he knows you have something from his father he would love to have then you are doing more then enough.
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Box up all the things securely. Have a friend or family member contact him with a set specific time left on the porch for him to pick it up. If it is not picked up at that time then you are no longer responsible for what happens to his possessions.
You should not be present during this time.
the past is the past and you gain nothing by worrying yourself about what he does or doesn't do.If you know when he would be home just haul his stuff over and knock on the door. When he answers just tell him you need him to get his stuff out of your car. If he refuses just set his things on his steps and leave
He can't be that sentimental about it or he'd have it. Give him fair warning and a deadline and if he blows you off throw it out. Why can't you mail it?
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put it at his doorstep when he is not there, unless you want to see where he stands with you
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