Broke up 3 months ago, been in no contact and in limited contact.(he did the breaking up, said he loved me but wasn't happy the last couple weeks and he didn't know why) I text him a few weeks back asking does he want to collect his things or will I drop them off and he didn't reply. Should I ask him again/how do I go about giving Him his stuff back? (Im not throwing them out or giving them away, he has something very sentimental here from his father who passed away so I want to give it him and wouldn't feel good giving it away) bare in mind he knows I still love him because I drunk text him last week and he replied so I dont know how to approach this again? I was thinking of just showing up and giving them to him because he probably won't reply if I ask him again but scared he will annoyed , why did he not text me back?
- Call to his house with them unexpectedlyVote A
- Contact him again about how to give them backVote B
Most Helpful Guy
Pack his things and have it ready.
If it's an option, drop it off at his parent's place.
Document it, like have a friend video you going to his folks place and giving them the stuff - so that he cannot claim you never returned it, or threw it out.
Option 2, give him a deadline to pick up his stuff. Tell him his stuff has been lying around for 3 months and taking up space and it's all going to be donated after the deadline. An email or text record should suffice in protecting you from legal action if the items are donated and he wants them back in the future.0
Most Helpful Girl
It sounds like he's going through a bit of a rough time, and him breaking up with you may not have much to do with you at all--more like he can't be in a relationship right now.
But anyhow, I think you should message him/his mom a few hours in advance of dropping off his stuff, to let them know you're coming. Preferably put the stuff somewhere safe from weather and somewhat concealed, such as a porch--but if you can't don't worry--and knock on the door to let them know it's there, then leave without waiting for them to open it. You may want to take a picture of the stuff when you leave it there too, just to document that you didn't damage it, for legal purposes.1
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