Me & my long distance ex broke up in March. We've stayed pretty close for a long time afterwards... text, FaceTime, sending selfies etc. up until like mid September. I sort of got over talking to him & didn't care if we did as much anymore so I stopped initiating texts/FaceTime as much & I don't send selfies. Anyway, more recently it was like he was initiating all contact. This week, He called me out on it and said "I see you don't want to hit me up anymore" (which was 100% true ). Also, when I said I didn't have his call listed on my call log he said "I am Probably talking to other dudes & deleting his calls" (not the case).
Anyway, I know this is a pattern. He calls a lot... I don't call him so he calls me out on it.. I then start iniating contact... I get mad when he doesn't respond since he complained about me not initiating contact... he gives a bs excuse... so I stop contacting him... and it just repeats from the beginning with him doing all the contacting Smh
With that said, I can't help but feel he is just trying to pull me back in to this annoying ass cycle, but I don't know if it's something else.
do y'all like to stay in your exes lives to control them? Keep an eye on what they are doing? Back-up plan? Genuinely want to be friends? idc
Most Helpful Guy
Well he is of course game playing. Maybe he doesn't really want it to end? Hard to say. I think probably it is usually best to make a bit of a cleaner break. At least for me. I can't handle the emotions of keeping in touch with an ex. There is one exception. I am friends with a woman I was with for 3 years back when I was 30 - 33. I think the reason I can be friends with her is that I wasn't that into her anyway, so being split up is a GOOD thing and we can go on and be friends. (If that makes sense.)
Another gal split up with me back when I was in my mid-twenties. I tried to maintain some loose contact with her but she was being quiet and vague about her life. I felt bad that we weren't being friends, so I stopped calling her. I found out years later that she had decided to go for women. Probably explains the break with me and her being vague about her life... LOL0
Most Helpful Girl
Similar situation with me and my ex except we both initiate contact, him more so but i reciprocate. I get the vibe that he doesn't want it to be over but I've flat out asked him and he's said thats not it, he wants to be with me but not right now basically. can't help with how to break the cycle but i think they stick around in the hopes its not over yet, did you break up because of distance?0