I broke up with my ex. I’d be willing to talk but he only reaches out drunk?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my ex bc I found out he cheated. We didn’t really discuss much bc I kicked him out. After that I sent a bunch of text asking how long it was going on. How he could betray me like that. He didn’t answer. It’s been 3 weeks and he’s called me every weekend in the middle of the night. Obviously drunk. I’d be willing to talk about what happened but why does he only call drunk. I don’t want to initiate a conversation since he didn’t answer my last messages. I’m afraid he doesn’t want to face me and will ignore me again. Does he only have the balls to talk to me when he drunk. Or is he such asshole that he thinks I’d actually be a body call now.

[HollyK21]

Stop entertaining that situation, sis. You did the right thing by kicking him out for cheating, and you don’t need closure from him. He doesn’t deserve another chance, because he isn’t sorry. You “found out” he cheated, which means he would’ve never come clean on his own, he had to get caught, and that sucks. 3 weeks have passed and I’m sure you’re crushed because he isn’t even trying, he’s out partying and only thinks of you when he’s drunk. That is flat out toxic. You can do so much better than a cheater and you are stronger than you think. It’ll take time to get over him, but the first step is to take your foot out of the door, and focus on your healing.

[On_cloud_wine]

He feels guilty so he drinks. You haven't set down boundaries, hence the late night drunk texts. You’re afraid he’ll ignore you because you want him back. “I’d be willing to talk about what happened but why does he only call drunk” Because you allow it. Speak up, instill some rules to when he’s allowed to contact you. If he doesn’t drink during the day, tell him that’s when he’s allowed to speak to you. You just come across as weak.

[Asker]

Spoke to him today while he was sober. Told him he’s a liar. Didn’t go well. I want him to be who I thought he was. Which unfortunately isn’t possible. But I don’t think I can ever look at him the same.

[On_cloud_wine]

No one really can even when they try to give it another try. Maybe you helped the next girl if he learned a lesson from you

[Lucretio]

Girl. Good shit immediately displacing him. It sucks you went through that. Can't do anything but send you good vibes.

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Also, if you wanna talk about it and don't have anyone willing, pretty sure I and others on this site can lend an ear.

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