Should I buy my ex flowers? PLEASE HELP?

[Anonymous]

My ex just broke up with me last week from a 3 year relationship, she cheated on me a month ago, I gave her another chance and we were reconciling but she told me she doesn't feel the connection anymore, despite this the things she has been saying in messages and when I saw her a couple of days ago are hinting at a future but I feel like she is just keeping me in limbo at the moment, I started a NC period but she messaged me about the anniversary of a family passing so that got broken.

I want to win her back and I can't see that mindset changing, I usually buy her and her mother flowers every Friday, would it be a good idea to buy them flowers this week or would this be too much and letting her know that I am ready at her every call?

Please take into consideration I was probably too nice and did too much for her during this relationship, she even admitted that too.

[Anonymous]

Jesus Christ... No. Grow some balls man.

She cheated on you. You should be pissed off enough not to want her back.

She cheated because she didn't respect you. A woman's attraction to you is directly tied to how much she respects you as a man.

When women say that you're too nice it's not because you're nice, it's because you seem too desperate, and like you're spineless. That's what makes them lose respect for you.

When they say "too nice" they don't mean that they don't like nice behavior, they do - from a guy they respect - they mean spineless. More than likely she was doing things which you should have told her "no" for, and she knew she was, and this happened because you never did.

She cheated and broke up with you because you were "too nice". And your solution is to give her flowers? You'd just be doing more of the thing that pushed her away in the first place and making yourself look even worse.

You've got to move on and give up the nice guy routine. It's crazy to me that guys like you do this, it goes wrong, and you think that you should do even more of the same. That's retarded.

Sorry if I'm being harsh here but you need a good shake.

[Anonymous]

No, just try to re-establish a dialogue otherwise move on to a girl who actually deserves your efforts

[Asker]

Would you recommend a month of NC before re-establishing a dialogue?

[Crissy_J]

Don’t take this girl back ever again. You should consider never talking to her, and never open that line of communication back up. Leave her in the past and keep moving forward. There’s a nice woman out there that deserves your flower bouquet and it’s NOT your ex.

[SnakeBoop]

yeah no,
if she cheated, you deserve MUCH, MUCH better.
You don't try to fish a shit out of the toilet, and thats what she is.

[Asker]

I guess I just find that hard to understand at the moment

[Avicenna]

You definitely should not buy flowers for her. You also should move on from her and talk to other women.

Never buy flowers regularly like that- it gets taken for granted and not appreciated

[exitseven]

I would move on. This will not end well for you if you keep going the way you have been going.

[dudeinohio]

Move on. Don't have anything to do with her.

[Sketti2021]

Why would you send her anything