Is it possible a guy starts dating a lot of women after he's hurt by one?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I broke up recently, and I KNOW I shouldn't be stalking him on social media. I promise I've only done it like 3 times since...

Anyways, I've noticed he's suddenly following a LOT of girls - way more than he did when he first met me. He's obviously moving to a lot of girls now.

I broke up with him and I'm wondering if he's doing this as a rebound?

I care because I would give him a second chance if he decided to change and come back into my life. Ultimately, I broke up with him because he didn't respect me in the way that he should have.

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Guys were back together just an FYI. He reached out first and said the break up was terrible for him.

[Aurora1010]

Girls do that too. Whenever something went bad in a relationship or with a crush in the past, I used to install badoo or any other app, not necessarily to date... but to remember that there are many other guys out there and it wasn't the end of the world.

[Asker]

I always just dealt with it by isolating myself and crying about life lol

[Aurora1010]

I'd say to give it some time. If it was it was his fault and he really cares for you then he will come around. If not then you'll eventually find the one who does.

[Asker]

Thanks. You’re right

[Espresso-Grande]

He may assume he will be able to move on from you that way.

[Espresso-Grande]

Thanks for the MHO

[Asker]

You’re welcome

[Whatever2929292]

If you are friends with him on social media or his pages are public then you aren't stalking or doing anything wrong.

But I am guessing he is long gone and has moved on from you by now. Even if he has not unless you tell him you would give him a chance. He won't come back on his own.

Even if you did. He might just laugh you off at this point.

I have met women who "broke up" with their guy not thinking he would go far and... would beg for another chance who quickly found a new person and later on a serious relationship.

Look, I don't know your reasons for breaking up it seems not meant to be so just let him go. If you had good reason to break up (I don't know the reason) if he was cheating or something like that then just let him go.

If he is abusive or a bad person. Just let him go.

If there is just something about him that you don't like. Then stop trying to change someone and force them into being someone they are not. Let him find someone who accepts him for him and you can find someone who meets your standards.

You should know if someone meets your standards before you get together so you aren't trying to change him into someone else.

But none of my business. If you really want him back then talk to him about it otherwise maybe he will come back and ask you but I am guessing a lost cause just be looking for someone new

I can't read his mind and know what he is doing and why not all men are the same just like not all women are the same

[Asker]

I blocked him after breaking up with him. You’re right and the issue here was him trying to change me and control me. I had no choice but to leave. I miss him a lot and if he was willing to see that he’s wrong and make a change I would go back. Unfortunately he’s very stubborn and an overall angry person. But I still liked him for some reason... I saw his soft side too. We broke up recently.

[Whatever2929292]

I see what you mean. But if you're trying to change each other and he was controlling I get that you miss him. Trust me I do. But you have let him go and I think once you blocked him he got the hint that you don't want him anymore.

Even if he does come back just be strong and tell him NO. That you can forgive him but that you don't have to let him back into your life to abuse you again. Even if the abuse was not physical.

That isn't to say that he is a bad person and there is not someone out there for him. You did the right thing and you made the right choice. It as you said was the only choice that you had or be miserable and end up hating him.

I suggest that you cry it out and be dating some other people and you will move on. if he does come back you could give him another chance but I am sure that he will also move on at some point. Breakups suck. You might even always miss him in some way or another.

But you have to keep in mind before you go back to him and beg him to come back. That he is angry and stubborn.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Where one door closes another door will open & when it comes to relationships some people will close a door today & open one tomorrow. In life the only way to move forward & after my ex & I parted ways about a week later I started seeking a new relationship.

[Northernlights25]

It's not healthy to online stalk especially not post-breakup. You need to decide to be over and done with it and not look back. Or, reach out to him again. Which it is is up to you but you need to make a definitive decision.

[Asker]

You’re right. I’ve set him free and if he wants to come back he can.

[Northernlights25]

Right! But at a certain point you have to close the door too if he does not.

[Asker]

I guess so

[Whatever2929292]

It is not stalking to look at a public page or a page of someone who your following or friends with.

[Whatever2929292]

Now if she was harassing him that might be another story or was finding ways to see private stuff

[Northernlights25]

She said herself she was engaging in stalking.

[Whatever2929292]

But it is not really stalking. Stalking is a crime. Looking at someone's profile is not a crime

[Northernlights25]

If this is you trying to exuse yourself because you do it frequently; yea at a certain point it's stalking.

[Asker]

Loooool *

[Jamie05rhs]

That's normal. I don't think you should blame yourself, though. You didn't intentionally hurt him. You knew that you had to get rid of him because he wasn't right for you.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome!

[Andres77]

Rebound... it's a thing.
After my second divorce I lost my mind and was in the gutter... I needed therapy to pull out again.

[Crankor]

Depends how long he's felt disconnected with you. Usually 3 months is about what it takes to get over any attatchment.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you regret breaking up with him lol. time to move on kiddo.

[Asker]

I did the right thing but I still miss him so much. He was just too much to put up with.

[Whatever2929292]

I know you were not replying to me. You say he was too much to put up with. I don't know what he was doing. But I think you are doing you both a favor. He really isn't your type and he isn't with someone who he can be himself around.

Now if he is a bad person or something that is another story or if he cheated. Just sometimes there isn't anything wrong with either one of you... It was just not meant to be.

Sometimes relationships that end teach us something and make us a better person for when we meet the one. Leave him be he will work things out and so will you

[Asker]

he's a very strong character and it became overwhelming. Very angry, very demanding, very controlling. I know sometimes people aren’t meant to be and I did the right thing for me by putting myself and my needs first. Also my mental health. But a part of my wishes that he’d come back and change.

[bluwaffle]

Maybe he feels lonely? I wouldn't be surprised if he wants to find someone to distract from the breakup. Not necessarily someone for sex, but just someone to talk to and keep his mind off of it.

[Tstrbrainer]

Just leave social media alone. It isn't his real life

[RuthlessAggression]

Sort of but not really

[yucel_eden]

You have issues you need to deal with…

[Asker]

This is exactly why you and I would never work (theoretically of course). You’re judgmental and have no empathy.

[Whatever2929292]

I don't think he was asking you out. lol...

[Asker]

He was a friend and we’ve had conversations about this ^