Ex refuse to give a a straight answer or refuses to answer the question if you asked them to try again to get back together?

[Cheeky2022]

Apologise. I did ask this previously but ran out of space lol

I will delete the previous Question when I can.

I broke up with my ex 3 months ago. We still chat but I always initiate the communication. She broke up with me as I was distant/not making her feel wanted due to my own mind at the time.

1.5 months after the break up I suggested if she wanted to try again. She said she didn't want a relationship like that again & that we could be 'friends' & she didn't mind talking to me. She felt I couldnt have changed that quickly. Which I hadn't.

Since then I have turned my life around. My mind. I am in a great place & way more receptive to a relationship. 2 weeks ago during a convo I highlighted my journey and how I am a changed man. I also suggested if she wanted to try again and we could take it slow. I said she would need to think about it as its her decision. I didn't want to push her. She was impressed with my improvement. In terms of getting back together she said she would think about it. Her issue was she wasn't sure someone could change that soon... but maybe they could... thats what was holding her back. So she said she would get back to me.

didn't hear anything for 2 weeks then we exchanged some chit chat. In her opening line she apologised for not coming back to me. My closing line was how did she feel and what was her thoughts about getting back together? She didn't respond.

2 days after I just messaged her & said her not answering that question to me states she doesn't want to be together and thats ok but I couldnt understand why she couldnt just say yes or no. Kinda dangling a carrot. She has broken up with me and said no when I asked again. Its baffling

For closer for me I sent her that... She responded again apologising for not responding & sorry for taking so long & that she would read my messages... I haven't heard since Saturday.

Why would someone keep responding & apologising for not responding... Say they would... then not? Why not just not reply?

[MrsTurkleton]

You asked her to get back together and she explained why she didn’t want to.
In the nicest possible way, she cannot keep repeating herself.
She gave you her answer & the more you ask her, the more awkward she is going to feel.

It’s up to you to decide if you can accept just being her friend, or if you need to let go entirely.

[Cheeky2022]

I can and have to accept it. Its because she said she wasn't sure if people can change or maybe they can. That was holding her back. I guess me feeling like I have evolved may have swung it round to test the waters again. But I'll accept however she feels.
I won't message her anymore. Unless she messages me. Even on a friends level she would never instigate a convo so it's time to move on. Guess I didn't want to leave any regrets of what could have happened. We will never know.

[Cheeky2022]

Oh and she said she will think about. Anyways. I'm obviously clutching at straws.

[MrsTurkleton]

People can change & people grow up and evolve, but It doesn’t always mean that a person’s romantic feelings will change along with that.
A person who is interested won’t leave you hanging. Her lack of response is a response.

I nearly told an ex that I would think about trying again with him because I was enjoying the friendship that we had started to build up, but I decided against it because I knew that all I would be doing was giving him false hope & leading him on. He hurt me so badly that I could never trust him enough to be in another relationship with him…. but it’s still hard to say no. Nobody enjoys hurting someone, especially a person they cared about.

From your question, it sounds like she has had time to think about it. If it was a yes from her, you would know about it.

[Cheeky2022]

I get it. I mean we did meet up once about a month after we split and you could tell there was still chemistry and a connection. But at that point I still needed to work on myself. Hence why I was probably flapping when I said we should get back together.

In my last message I just said I've tried and I can't get the ball rolling if you dont feel the same way and thats fine. So lets leave it be.

When we broke up I think we both actually didn't show much emotion. It actually all came to ahead when I asked about trying again 1.5 months later. Where I learnt a lot more about how she felt as she didn't mention it at the time. I guess we just bounced off each other and both felt neither of us cared much for the other. Probably poor communication.

I guess if we met up as mates and something grew organically who knows. But Im not going to message her now. As you say... Her lack of response is enough. Thanks for your feedback. RIght, Ill get back to Abraham Hicks lol

[Avicenna]

Id move on ratter than waste my time

[Cheeky2022]

Yes. Thats what my last message was for. It was for closure for me. As in I didn't want the regret of not trying and now that I know I have I can't really do anymore. Its just such strange behaviour. Why even bother replying? Makes no sense. Its actually making me doubt even asking her lol because I've never seen this side of her before. Unless she's trying to be polite but indirectly wants me to hate her so I bugger off lol. Who knows.