Is it possible to get my husband to change his mind about divorce?

[Anonymous]

*** together for 10 years, married for 4, baby thats 1 years old

husband told me he was unhappy with our marriage and wanted a divorce, he said he no longer loved me and didn't know when that vanished. but that he's been wanting a divorce for a long time but family always got involved and pushed him back to try and make things work and because he likes to please people he did it so he wouldn't be selfish, but that now he wants his life back and will be selfish, he gave me mixed feelings for a bit because he claimed he didn't think he could go through with it but realized he will. he packed his things and left to stay at his parents house.

Im sad, heartbroken, anxious. i have so many feelings going through my head i can't even go 10 minutes without crying, the thought of me having to be a part of his life forever bc we have a kid hurts too because that means i have to watch him move on. i dont see myself with someone else, im madly in love with him. i may be stupid, i feel like i have no self worth, he told me that i needed diginity because i wanted to be with some one that didn't love me or want to be with me.

please give me advice, i have no energy to talk to anyone about this in person

[IAteTwoFullHams]

I don't know, maybe and maybe not.

You can take the position that he obviously needs a change, and you're open to a change, but leaving the kid should not be on the table and he'll never look in the mirror and see a good person again if he does that.

Might work.

[maximumpower]

Good luck.

I didn't find out for 25 years my ex didn't want to be married. Wish I'd made the break when first considered it. Life would be SO much simpler now.

Make sure he pays child support and be the best mother you can be.

Move on. You deserve better.

[Asker]

What if I don’t know how to move on? I moved away from my family and live alone here with him in fl. I am madly still in love with him and can’t see myself with anyone else. He only moved out, the nasty divorce papers haven’t even started and I already feel like this. I can’t even imagine how I will feel within these next few weeks

[maximumpower]

Get ready - it's coming.
Get yourself a GOOD lawyer. Not the most expensive, but the best you can afford.
Make sure he/she can kick the shi* out of the lawyer he has.
Good luck. It's coming your way and it isn't going to be pleasant.
And... that "love" thing... it's BULLSHIT. Get ready.
Good luck..

[Anonymous]

First of all did you ask him what made him feel this way? Something both of you are doing or aren’t doing? He knows when he didn’t live you anymore. Is there another woman? Chances are there may be one. It’s hard to say because from what you’ve written you make it sound as though it’s just entirely on him. But I’m sure both of you have some stuff going on to bring this about.

[boggboss]

No advice people can give u will fix this clearly u guys need to sit down and talk probobly have couple therapy as u didn't even know he no longer lived u which shows u guys can't talk as much as u should

[Vegasrunner]

This is a very rare case as women initiate about 70 - 80% of divorces. If you felt like you didn't love your husband would you divorce him?

[MangoBob]

And how long before this was the last time you 2 had sex? I’m thinking probably a long time because you cut him off

[LimitedBenefits101]

MOVE on lady