I had been in a relationship for the past two years, and everything was going well. There were no big issues between us. But one day, suddenly, she told me that she wanted to take a break from the relationship, and I asked why? And she told me that the relationship was not giving her any feelings like it did in the beginning, and I was shocked; I was anxious; I tried convincing her, but nothing worked, and I was forced to take a break from the relationship. After that, a few months passed by... We used to talk about everything like before, and one day she told me not to expect anything like before. She won't be ready for the relationship again, so don't expect anything, she added. I was shocked again. I was angry; I was mentally at my lowest, and after two months, she told me that she had feelings for her best friend XYZ. I was literally dead upon hearing that. I cried. I lost all my hope. I started doubting myself. But when I asked, she told me that the feelings towards his best friend slowly evolved after we broke up. But now I won't believe that. But I still can't doubt her. I still cry when I think about her. But I have to figure out why she did that to me and why she broke all the promises. Please help me figure it out. I'm not able to find a solution.
My Girlfriend broke up with me but I wanna make sure if she cheated me or not ⁉️ Can you help me figure out?
If she loses emotional connection then she will wander and replace this. Best male friends do this and getting involved with any woman who has best friend male is a red flag. I will not do it. She got fed there emotionally and discovered there was something in that kiss with bestus friend. Ye, she was cheating emotionally which will always lead to sexual. Both sustained themselves during break-up period.
She apparently has a little bit of conscience not to go through whole process with friend while with you... but yep, it is done. If you get back with her then she will likely do it to you again. Good luck !!
This stuff happens all the time. Don't try to figure this out, you will never get the truth and even if you did you will still have doubts. Just move on the best you can. Grieve the relationship for a while but just know that things will get better. I walked in your shoes before and I can remember driving away and pulling over to the side of the road and puking because I was so upset,. I made some kind of peace with it all but I never really understood what happened. You will get some peace too in time.
Maybe she started to have a crush on the guy before breaking up with you, but not actually cheated. Her feelings for him certainly explain why there's nothing you can do to make her interested again. Just wait for her to call you from now on, and see if your indifference intrigues her interest again
I I don't want her back in my life. But I didn't deserve to be dumped like this. I hope she learns a lesson someday because she hurt me that much. I can't explain why I was crying, not eating anything, and not talking to anyone. I even had panic attacks many times. I will never have her back in my life, even if she comes back to me.😶
@entrepreneur_ghosh, I agree with original comment. There isn't enough info to go on. You wrote though that everything was great and then all of a sudden one day, she said she wanted to break up. Maybe that's what happened but the vast majority of times she will show her unhappyness in many ways. Even when she doesn't directly tell you because she assumes it should be obvious, multiple aspects of the relationship usually change negatively
I will say though that if she used the term 'break', that definitely makes the idea that she had already found someone else much more likely. Things worked out for them and break became breakup.
Frim what I've seen, and anyone else can chime in if they disagree, when a woman asks for a break, it's probably so they can sleep with someone else and not feel guilty. And also a way to keep you as backup
@Jdjfjcjj I don't know what the hell was on her mind when she did that. But I do know one thing she broke all the words and promises she gave me. She even told me that I mean the whole world for her. She just forgot all that in just 2 weeks.
Yes you are right. But the emptiness haunts me. I want to know why at least the 'why'. She gave me a lot of self doubts and all... I'm just moving on now.
Feelings can change, people change, friendships and relationships change and sometimes what used to work, doesn't work anymore. I don't think she cheated but probably just realized for herself that this isn't what she wants and honestly that is reason enough
Breaking all the promises and suddenly dumping me for the reason that this is not what she wants is okay, but just a few weeks ago she told me that she would never let me go, and I mean the whole world for her, and so on. I know there's no point in loving someone who loves some other guy, but I think you fall in love when you are ready. It's kind of awkward, and there's nothing much to glorify her. She didn't keep her word, so it's cheating, right?
You are looking for answers but the truth is that she probably was cheating behind your back with this new guy. We hear this all the time the clichés we ate given when women are monkey branching to another guy. She wanted to "take a break" which means she wanted to keep a hold of you until she was sure things would work out with the other guy. She's telling you that she then developed feeling for this other guy that she's come out seeing officially because she doesn't want you or other people to know she was cheating and f*cking two guys at the same time. She will also want to remain friends in case she ever has need of you in the future, whether it's to come running back to you her safety guy or if she needs a favour.
It's good that she has done this now because it has shown her true colors and you can't build a life around a woman who cheats. As it says in the bible if she cheats she Belongs to the streets, let the streets have her. This new guy will likely get the same treatment as you down the line. This is why men should never simp. Imagine if you guys were married with kids and she pulled this shit on you.
What you can do is to work on yourself. Get your money right, hit the gym, eat right, hit the clubs and pubs, spend time with your family, hang out with you guys, have a few hook ups. Have fun and value yourself and others will value you and become the man you want to be, a king that women will see value in and treat like a king.
This might not be what you want to hear, but it doesn’t matter. She has no incentive to give you closure. Whether or not she cheated on you, she flaked out on you and dumped you. That’s all you need to know. It won’t make you feel better to know if she cheated. Your challenge now is to heal and move on so you can get into a position. It would probably be best for you to cut contact with your ex completely and focus on yourself until you feel confident and at peace again. It will come with time. Then try to find a woman who will be better.
It's possible she has what a lot of people go through, especially Hollywood, is the initial feeling of excitement of being with someone new and developing feelings and that excitement that comes with the relationship in the beginning. Those feelings only last so long and then you have to choose to love someone after the butterflies fade. She may be one of those people that just needs that feeling and once it fades, she moves on to the next relationship. A lot of attention seeking girls do this stuff too. That may have been what happened to you.
"I was literally dead upon hearing that." No, you were not literally dead, or you wouldn't be here to write the post.
Back to your issue. The question is: Does it REALLY matter? The answer is: NO! Are you going feel worse if she had cheated while you were together? Will you feel "better" if she didn't? The point is you haven't begun to move on. You've been dumped. She lost feelings for you. You're yesterday's thrill, no matter how harsh it sounds.
Welcome to real world. Dust yourself off and find a woman who is a keeper. This stuff happens to almost everyone at least once!
Nah, not worth your time. Let her go, if u love her. Theirs a sh! t ton of ladies out there. It sounds cliche but true. Focus on you bro, and perfect urself. (Exercise, get a hobby keep your mind active) You'll see what I mean. Then I want you to comeback, and comment me about how ur doing so far. But don't comment now. Have a fn good time.
Does it matter now what the reason was? She made it clear it was over. That doesn't mean anything was your fault. Just that sometimes feeling change, or something was missing from the relationship for her. Don't knock yourself out about it. Just chalk it up as a learning experience and move on. It's better it happened sooner than later when you had even more time invested.
It might be hard, but you need to move on. The trust is shattered and even if you got back with her you will always wonder if she will suddenly leave again. It will never be the same.
She did you dirty man. There's no point in trying to figure out why women do anything when they do something like this. Console yourself with the fact that you likely aren't the first guy she's done this to and won't be the last.
I gotta belive that. But I just wanna now why the hell did she do this to me. I at least deserve to know the reasons.
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You'd think. But this is one thing you have to familiarize yourself with when it comes to women. Most the time there's little point in asking them why they do anything. Even if you get the truth (which is likely to be a 5/50 shot). Odds are it'll not make much sense. Because they're using woman logic. Just know that Karma is a thing. This will happen to her, if it hasn't already. And know she's never going to be happy treating people this way.
