Toxic guy or had feelings?

[Anonymous]

He always left me on read. After a year of similar behaviour, I finally told him that his behaviour shows that he doesn't want to talk or meet up and I will stop messaging if he doesn't want any contact.

He got angry and disrespected me in front of people.

When I told him how disrespectful his behaviour was, he started saying its pissing him off, the conversation is crossing limits. I tried to touch his arm but he moved me away saying don't touch me.

I finally told him that I can no longer tolerate this behaviour and wished him good luck. However, he wanted to chat again but as usual, had no regrets and said why does it bother me if he disrespected me in front of people I don't know.

He denied having any feelings for me and proceeded to say that we can't go back to being the same as when you bake a cake, it can no longer be in its original form.

He said he has no problems with me, has no feelings for me, doesnvt view me as a friend but deleted me off whatsapp, saying he wants to "move on". When I asked him what does he want to move on from considering he has no feelings, he remained silent.

and even when I told him that I want to part ways on a positive note since I will be leaving the city, he still didn't re-add me.

Is this toxic behaviour or he had feelings?

[Starbers99]

He likes the attention he got from you, the feeling of being wanted and liked but he doesn't actually have any feelings for you. If he's disrespectful then why would you want to be in a relationship with him? Do you want to live your life treading on eggshells and someone playing games with you? Don't waste your time on this man. There are plenty more, you just have to try with others. The longer you waste on this man, the more insecure you'll become and then it will be harder to maintain a relationship. These kinds of people don't care how others feel, they just need to feel like they are in control - take control by blocking and deleting his number completely off your phone so you don't feel tempted to contact him. Easier said than done but once you do it, you'll start to get over it after a few months especially if you take up new hobbies, meet new people etc. New city, new start.

[Guy13]

I woukd say both toxic and had feelings for you. He’s little frightening to be honest

[Asker]

Frightening for what?
He deleted me so now he won't have any feelings?

[Samarasaid]

That is a really good question.

[Asker]

OK but what is your answer?

[Samarasaid]

Thats why I said that I ve got no answer

[tonamimargaux]

He’s toxic let him go

[Asker]

He deleted me so now he won't have any feelings?

[tonamimargaux]

Do you like him?

[Asker]

Yes I do

[tonamimargaux]

Well, it depends then, if you want to pursue him despite the disrespect then go ahead. But remember a man who can’t man up and confess their feelings upfront and runs around being a dick is not worth chasing.

[Asker]

But now he lost feelings as he deleted me?

[tonamimargaux]

I don’t think feelings go away that easily. But they have to be there in the first place

[Asker]

Do you think he had any feelings?

[tonamimargaux]

Not really

[tonamimargaux]

He’s a playa and a dick

[Wise4myage]

He sounds very toxic to me.

[Asker]

He deleted me so now he won't have any feelings?

[Wise4myage]

Focus your attention on moving on from him.

[Asker]

Um I asked about his not what I should do

[Samarasaid]

From my PT of view hé is what we call in french : " un pervers narcissique"

[Asker]

@Samarasaid narcissist?

[Samarasaid]

Yeah but sick

[Asker]

@Samarasaid what do you mean by sick?