If you split up and have kids, do you try to be civil with you ex?

[OfMiceandMen]

Would you let sleeping dogs lie, even if it was a bad break-up, or would you have to poke the bear all the time? I know some couples that separate/divorce and they get into it every time they talk on the phone or meet to pick up their kids. I feel sorry for the kids, you can see how it affects them.

[Sorrento-Sun]

No matter how difficult it was, or hoe hurt i felt, I'd be civil for the sake of our kids.

I'd be superficial with him but civil enough not to let our issues affect our kids. Kids are perceptive and can pick up on any bad blood between parents. So I'd try my hardest to not let the hurt show

[milkov]

It's best to be civil with the ex for the sake of the kids. It's not only about you, but the children who're gonna grow up with a broken family, totally different from a complete family. The best thing you can do for them is to be civil with your ex and let them bond.

[Guy13]

The kids have already and are continuing to suffer. My thought is, "how do I minimize their suffering?" the first thing I do is sit down with the Mother and have this discussion in the tone of how can we work this together for the betterment of our kids... we both love them.

[OfMiceandMen]

Exactly, it's about mitigating the damage to your kids.