Been with my girlfriend for 7 years, living together for 2 years. We are both 28.
We almost broke up a few times already (mostly in our last year of a relationship). After having serious talk about us, she suggested we should breakup. I agreed because she sounded really honest about it, and I was already thinking about it before the talk.
During our relationship, I think we weren't really compatible enough to have a really happy relationship (or marriage later on). Many things were good, but also some were bad.
Anyway, after a few days she changed her mind about it, she said that she didn't really mean it that way and that she want us to try again. I already made my decision, but I am so confused why people change their minds after a breakup? This only makes everything so much more difficult. I feel like she either lied or she don't know how to express her feelings or that she is afraid of change. I tried to talk to her but she don't want to admit it. I am convinced one of these three possibilities is the truth because of the way she initiated breakup. It sounded like she meant it and she was honest about it. Plus, she didn't change her mind after 1,2 hours but after 3,4 days.
Why people do this after a breakup, it's so difficult to deal with the breakup after she changed her mind...
What are your experiences with people changing their minds after a breakup, why do people do this?