If you don't love me for who I am then I will leave you and become better? lol Make it make sense.
That revenge body will only last for so long. Then the next poor guy will feel like he hit the lottery. That is until that same woman lets herself go again after she gets too complacent in her new relationship.
If a woman lets herself go, then breaks it off with me, only then to get into shape, shows that she didn’t care all that much about me to do all that work while with me; let alone just keeping herself healthy.
For me, I can date attractive looking women with a few extra pounds. I am not shallow. If I am dating a slim woman, and she ends up having one of those revenge bods, only to let herself go, to me, that is a form of betrayal. What else in her past is she hiding from me.
Example: a woman using meth for weight loss only to eventually quit the meth and gain back the weight. I don’t want to find out later she is a closeted meth head with some sketchy friends.
This is an example of why so many women these days go for the guy with that “Dad Bod”. If she is slim, meets a guy that has that six pack, then she must maintain that physique to keep him. If she suddenly starts to put on the extra weight, he will ditch her for another slim woman.
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If they had done that sooner perhaps they would not be divorced...
95% of these "revenge body" people escaped from an demeaning relationship where their boyfriend or husband (or girlfriend / wife) was a worthless abusive piece of shit.
I mean if the person's weight issue was due to health issues, etc. then they'd not be able to get their "revenge bodies".
But most of them gained weight due to low self esteem, etc. thanks to the behavior, comments and whatever else of their filthy abusive partner ---
It's that simple.
Maybe if she had gotten a “revenge body” during the relationship there would Not have been a break up or divorce!
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My theory is they have a lot of spare time on their hands cause they broke up and they choose to use that spare time doing something difficult and time consuming so they can forget their loneliness and disappointment and it works for a lot of people.
I think it's good to praise people who have done the hard work to lose weight, but for the right reasons.
Good for them. You don’t need a bad breakup to glow up! It’s their loss, not yours.
Just because you break up? That's not a reason to loose weight and take care of yourself then celebrate. Besides if you wanted to keep your partner happy and drooling it should be done while you were with him or her. Take care of yourself and take care of each other.
I can see it, there’s a real satisfaction for getting a revenge body just because it means they feel they’re getting back the power that was taken from them in the relationship. I agree the concept on paper probably seems silly, but we’re not considering the context of the relationship and why they got divorced, not to mention if the relationship included comments on weight gain in a way that made them feel ashamed for feeling comfortable enough to finally allow the weight gain in a relationship.
I think it's foolish to not care enough about yourself to have to use a breakup to do what you should've done ages ago. Just use that photo for fodder. This woman was in a rut. And perhaps her partner was tired of living with someone who didn't care for herself.
I don't blame him if he couldn't handle that situation anymore. It took many years to get in such bad shape and give up. Nobody is perfect, but self love has to be constant. Even in the worst of situations.
"If you don't love me for who I am then I will leave you and become better"
- That's not what revenge body-ism is about. It's when a person who was dumped for being what their partner thought was overweight decides to use the breakup as motivation to become better, and not take their ex back when they come calling now that they see the person they dumped looks great.
It makes sense especially why women do this because they were giving everything to their husband and not taking the time to care for themselves then when they get single they are finally able to care for themselves.
I notice this even when my husband deploys I start getting really into self care just simply because I'm not busy caring for his needs.
Why didn't they take care of their health while in the relationship? Why did they become fat and lazy slobs in the first place? I'm all for loving someone as they are, but being a fat piece of shit is a choice, not a genetic trait that you have zero control over.
The reality is that these people were fakes. They stayed in shape just long enough to try to get a partner and then let themselves go afterwards. And if someone is willing to do that with their physical health and appearance, then you have to wonder what else are they faking. Their loyalty? Their morals? Their love?
And before people inevitably misinterpret my words, there's a little relationship weight and then there's becoming an obese slob.
I'm not really sure how the pole works into this, but basically the Revenge body means when they were in the relationship there wasn't enough interest to stay in shape. It's not so much Revenge as much as it's saying you didn't excite me enough to be the best person I could be for you.
Sad. Pathetic. I’m mean I’m glad they lost the weight but the reason behind why they lost it was to get revenge, that’s the sad pathetic part. They should have done that while they were in the relationship. Maybe things would have been different. Not only that are we even sure that the person who dumped them was the bad person in all this? Maybe it was the person who got dumped that was toxic. The fact that they lost all that weight to get revenged tells me something about their personality, so maybe they were the reason for the breakup.
So... you loved and respected your mate so much that you became a fat slob and took no efforts to stay fit and to stay appealing to your mate. You pull a bait and switch.
Then if the relationship ends THEN you get the mojo to get fit and to look your best?
Revenge? It just shows they have low character and they don't really have any real interest in their mate. They just care enough to look good to land a mate but then immediately let themselves go once they have the commitment and access to resources and the ring on the finger.
Anytime you do anything for revenge it's just stupid.
And the odds are they'll probably go right back to that same weight
But if you're going to do it because it's going to make you happy it's going to make you feel good it's going to make you healthier it's going to make your whole life better I should go for it anytime you can grow as a person and it's real reasoning-wise and I say more power to you I say go for it
I mean it's like anything that we do for ourselves to make us healthier or a better person you get a lot more things out of this than just one or two things
It's an asset to your whole life really“Revenge body” is a dumb idea because then it’s like you didn’t do it for yourself (and less likely to keep up good habits).
I can see working out/fitness as a healthy outlet for dealing with the emotions of a breakup. But not for the sake of “revenge.”I wouldn't call it a revenge body. I'd be more inclined to say in some circumstances the relationship may have been toxic in the end. Therefore the divorce could be the motivation the individual needs to live a healthier and better life than if they'd stayed and didn't get a divorce.
Anyway, why does it have to be a revenge body if all they want to do is better their life. Could other factors be more motivating that the divorce...This is something they should've thought before getting a divorce or being cheated on. People just take things for granted after getting married and stop caring and let themselves go. That's just wrong. You should never stop caring for yourself.
I mean, I did this, but it wasn't necessarily for the reasons suggested here, aka. becoming hotter in order to have him miss me, that was a perk.
I think the breakup was a wakeup call for me, where I felt my lowest and unhealthiest. By doing the "revenge body" I worked on becoming healthier physically and ergo mentally, which helped me to move on. I started 'dating' myself, accepting responsibility for my actions, but also finding healthier coping mechanisms during times of stress.
I think if someone wants to achieve a "revenge body", even for aesthetic reasons, its a good thing because at the end of the day they are focusing on themselves (even if initially that may not be the case).
I wouldn’t do it specifically for revenge, but after my first serious relationship ended, I spent some time working on myself, and lost quite a bit of weight. Of course she ended up noticing and wanted some fun, so I told her i didn’t want a situation where I get my heart broke again, and she offered to get some of her friends involved to keep it from becoming too intimate and personal. I ended up having a threesome with two of her friends right in front of her and we barely paid any attention to her, and that felt good.
I mean go for it. Use your negative emotions and new found spare time to have a positive impact on your life. Hopefully when they settle into a new relationship (or happy singledom) they are able to maintain some of the habits they practiced during that period. I think that's the ideal situation.
Childish. It's a healthy transformation when you look at the body, but I think the reason sucks. Move on.
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