Why did my ex only look at / focus on my bad qualities instead of my good ones?

[Sweetsurprize]

😔

As if He's perfect! I've overlooked a lot of his bad ones why couldn't he do the same for me!

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He also gave up on me too easily. I feel. Life/love/relationships aren't always easy!

[Danny_dan92]

That’s how it is anywhere. Look at people in the work place, you can be an absolute rockstar.




The second you fuck up, you’re highlighted immediately

[Sweetsurprize]

I see, but this isn't a professional thing, but a lot deeper (and hopefully more meaningful) than just a paycheck, working robots type of thing? And you're with your spouse/partner (hopefully) and invest more time, energy and emotions with them, than your career/work place... or am I missing something here..

This is going to be your wife/partner in crime/mother to your children/father to your children. It's supposed to be equal not like boss and employee (I mean in a professional sense). But all other things, humans SHOULD have inherent equal values really.

[Danny_dan92]

It’s the same concept. Human behavior

[Sweetsurprize]

Then what's the point of even being kind to people if all they're going to look at are negatives of the person! Even if they weren't intentional.

[Danny_dan92]

That’s just how it is miss, human beings naturally strive for perfection. However upon achieving perfection, most of the time it isn’t recognized.

It is why when something goes wrong, or is wrong. It’s immediately noticed and recognized.

[midnightmoon05]

Because he is no longer caring/loving you. He may even have his eyes on other women … they look better and he devalue you so he can make excuses to break up. Take your time to heal. Don’t waste your time on someone who do not love/care/respect you anymore.

[Danny_dan92]

Agreed ^

[JackCarter]

Your guess is right.. only people who consider/assume themselves perfect in all aspects do that and of course no one can be perfect in everyway!

[Sweetsurprize]

Thank you that was helpful. I chose you first as MHO. Wonder why it came second.

[JackCarter]

Oh no that's perfect fine, not important
Glad I was helpful!

[OlderAndWiser]

He wanted to break up, so he looked for reasons.

[wkozak]

He simply was a toxic partnet, or maybe he just wanted any reason to jump from the boat, we'll never know the truth.

[midnightmoon05]

Take your time to feel the pain, learn the lesson. Get better. But don’t stay in the same place for too long. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he couldn’t find anything within that moment that constitutes as good qualities in you.
I mean it’s easy to point fingers but you weren’t exactly descriptive of what happened that led up to your break up.

[exitseven]

He is a glass half empty kind of guy

[msc545]

Ask him. not us

[Sweetsurprize]

I can't. He doesn't want me to contact him anymore. At least for a long while. ... So no choice but to respect that sadly. 😔

[msc545]

@Sweetsurprize that may be a good thing actually.

[Sweetsurprize]

@msc545 Yup. I sent him an angry, bitter text and he responded just as bad if not worse. I HATE how some people or men can just turn off their "feelings" for you. Either that or he NEVER really cared about me, he was just pretending! 😞

[Sweetsurprize]

By worse, I mean he blocked me. and never want to talk to me again. Wow just wow.